Marriage & Divorce - 25 October 2006

I've recently found out that he called her......Is he cheating? What do they have to talk about? What should I do?

2006-10-25 05:30:17 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1

I am getting a divorce after 6 years of marriage and many problems from my hubby. you name it...it was done! I have not had feelings for my hubby for about 2 years now. Well, we are filing at the begining of the year to avoid upsetting anyone during the holidays including our kids. During these last couple of months, I have became close with a friend and he has stressed his thoughts and feelings about wanting to date after everything is over. I am not sure how long I should wait and I want to be very correct about everything so that people will not think I am a bad person....Please help!!!

2006-10-25 05:24:45 · 10 answers · asked by T&E 2

that likes and enjoys having sex most of the time? I have to beg him for sex, he complains about me wanting sex. He new I was a very sexual person and now he complains about it.

2006-10-25 05:24:11 · 25 answers · asked by Paulinariver 2

If a husband is addicted to being online all the time even though he knows it bothers you how long do you give him to change the behavior before you walk away from the relationship. You feel he is using the computer for sex to avoid being intimate with you and to have anonymous communications with other women after he has cheated on you before. Is this a hopeless situation?

2006-10-25 05:05:43 · 37 answers · asked by loqueen 1

She is beginning to question our relationship and second guess everything she has been able to accomplish. She has two teenage children who are playing both sides and a very vindictive ex husband. The ex refuses to enforce any "punishment" ie grounding and is blaming my friend for the breakup. He also does not want to be a parent but a good pal to the kids. What can I do if anything? Seeing my friend get worn down by this very hard.

2006-10-25 05:04:50 · 7 answers · asked by Tom 2

For whomever reads these things, I need some advise:

A good friend of mine's wife talked to me last weekend and told me that she is infatuated with me and thinks about "being" with me all the time. I told her that I don't feel weird about it, but I felt like I was lying everytime my buddy and I hang out. I seriously want to tell him, cause there is no way in hell that I would mess around with a married woman, regardless of who they are married to. And for those who care....yes, she is hot.

The questions are this: Am I in the wrong for not saying anything? Should I tell him?

This is serious, so if you want to leave some dumb assed reply, don't waste your time.

Thanks.

2006-10-25 05:03:29 · 72 answers · asked by clipsegsxwidsm 2

my fiance promised he would never hit me again, he did anyway. Now he wants another chance to make it up to me. I want to leave when I get paid do you think I will be safe until then?I dont get paid until them middle of next month.

2006-10-25 05:02:47 · 27 answers · asked by worried 1

love & sex are two needs of human one is physical need while other one is emotional need. is there any co relation between them?

2006-10-25 05:00:41 · 16 answers · asked by satyen 2

It seems that frequently, when there is a case of a female victim of domestic violence, or even an allegation of domestic violence, especially a well known woman, such as a star, it makes the TV news, but never when it is a male victim. It is reported that Professor Stephen Hawking has been a victim for most of the time period of his marriage. Some newspapers have picked up the story, but I haven't seen anything on the TV news. Have you seen anything? If not, perhaps we should be calling them to ask why not?

Story:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=411781&in_page_id=1770

Hawking Web Page
http://www.hawking.org.uk/home/hindex.html

"Men Don't Tell" about domestic violence
http://www.abs-comptech.com/~aewhale/men_dont.html

2006-10-25 05:00:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are the best character traits about your mate? If they could be remembered for only one trait which is the most important?

2006-10-25 04:59:21 · 20 answers · asked by elamjjjj 2

2006-10-25 04:59:18 · 7 answers · asked by dizzy 1

2006-10-25 04:58:18 · 10 answers · asked by chris l 1

My wife likes to hurl accusations at me and labels. She lives to call me a label anytime I do anything she doesnt like. If I want peace and quiet cause I am angry and need time to recoup, I am passive aggressive. If I ask a question about what she may have done, I am a jealous control freak. If I make a comment about one of her friends, I hate all her friends. etc...
The problem is she is extremely neurotic. Manipulative mostly but also controlling. How do I deal with this type of behaviour? I dont want to resort to calling her out with a tit for tat strategy.
Everything is fine in our marriage as long as I am doing the things she wants when she wants, other then that I have to listen to her badger me in order to motivate me or to knock me down a peg.

2006-10-25 04:57:37 · 24 answers · asked by lightlytread 2

My wife and I were talking about our sex life the other day and I had asked her about certain things that she used to do and would do with me that she no longer does. Exp: giving me a BJ and also some mild bondage and letting me play with toys with her. I had asked her why this has all stopped and she starting to laugh and said that she was only doing these things to reel me in so I would want to marry her. She made me think that whaty she did was everything that I always wanted ina woman, and it was true. I think that is so wrong because she deceived me and I'm not happy about it and I'm not sure what I should do?

2006-10-25 04:56:09 · 20 answers · asked by Duece 2

We have been together for 4 years and have a wondrerful marriage. We are both in our 30's and planning to have kids in the future.
But sometimes he gets jelous and it drives me crazy, even with my female friends . I've never given him any reason to doubt me. Why? He also has to know where I am at all times.
Does it get better with time? Do you really have to earn trust?
Why can he trust me like I trust him? How do I deal with it?

2006-10-25 04:54:07 · 9 answers · asked by tanyasiv 4

I got enaged about a month ago and my fiance is a marine and we want to get married as soon as possible but i just dont know how. I don't know what is the best way to get married quick.

2006-10-25 04:48:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's been over 15 years, and I absolutely adore my little man.
He ROCKS!
And you?

2006-10-25 04:43:23 · 33 answers · asked by mom 4

My boyfriend brought me into a jewlely store. He just wants to get the prefect gift so I believed him that it was not an engagement ring. Then the other day while I was at school I got the lyrics to the song my boyfriend and I want to dance to at our wedding. I put the song in a border. When I showed it to my boyfriend I told him to write something at the top when there was open space. And in other words he told me the ring was a engagement ring and that I know what will be writen in the space.

2006-10-25 04:41:22 · 25 answers · asked by reba s 2

In response to my demand for my husband to start getting a job that has a steady income so that he can pay for his share of the expenses looking after our children and also to return whatever I have paid on his behalf over the last 6-7 years, he says that he will make sure he gets the children to pay me back when they can.

2006-10-25 04:41:14 · 14 answers · asked by Tired 1

i have fallen in love with my online guy but we are both attached how do you know if its real .... speciallly after three years

2006-10-25 04:40:13 · 9 answers · asked by dizzy 1

your husband puts you on a guilt trip for oral sex? I already recieved some very stupid and immature answers, i rated them with thumbs down you know who you are. Anyway, a little more background I love giving oral sex to my husand, anal and everything else, I am considered very attractive, no not fat. He is a lucky man because he gets oral sex about twice a week. He wants it more than that. He is a very lucky guy to get even that. Most ladies wont do that much. He still puts me on a guilt trip. I give him everything he wants. Is that enough information people? Again, no stupid answers, keep your stupid comments to your ignorant selves!

2006-10-25 04:38:07 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

A few months ago i found out my wife had an affair, and we settled it We are still together no children, We have a large home and a few weeks ago Her twin came to stayt with us (she is having marriage trouble). I work at home and so does my wife but she had to go and meet cleints for various reasons. and my sis-in-law is alway there, Well she walks around half naked most of the time(but only when my wife is not around). She knows of our problems as she brings them up all the time when my wife is not around. she is also very flirtatious with me but not when the wife is there (SHe has kept herself up much better than the wife) Well I talked to the sis-in-laws hubby last night and it seem that the marriage problems are made up. So do you think my wife could be setting me up ? She always tells me when she'll be home thats our deal for me to not leave her but she always seems to get home much earkier than she says almost seem s that she is trying to catch us. Please help !!!!

2006-10-25 04:33:53 · 22 answers · asked by Wondering If ? 1

Posted earlier but want more ideas/answers.
I have been married for 7 years. I am extremely happy with my wife and we have a very active sex life. I wouldn't even dream of ending our marriage. We barely ever fight and love each other to death.
However
I have never been with another woman before my wife and the urge to do so is killing me. It is getting to the point where it is consuming my thoughts and making it hard for me to even do my job. All I can think about it getting busy with another girl. I won't do it because I love my wife and I know how badly it would hurt her, and the guilt would be horrible. I am afraid though that one day this urge might overwhelm my good senses and I will do something stupid. I wouldn't dare even bring this up with my wife because it would freak her out for sure no matter what I promised. I realize this urge is normal with everyone but it is definitely at an unhealthy level and it needs to back off.
Any help? My marriage means the world to me.

2006-10-25 04:31:24 · 16 answers · asked by fucose_man 5

I told a guy I was dating that we could no longer be friends because of his decesion to move out of the state in 6 or 7 months. I told him that I did not want to continue to date him, get closer to him or be friends with benefits since he was leaving. I sent him back all his stuff in the mail and he has not talked to me since. I don't know if I over reacted, I don't know if he said that because he is seeing someone else. We met online while he was in Iraq, and we talked for about 6 or 7 months we wrote letters, made phone calls, emailed and IM'd each other the whole nine yards now he has not even tried to contact me. We hung out once he got here and I thought everything was fine until he told me about the up coming move. I don't know if he misses me, if he is waiting for me to contact him, is it really over or do everything just need time. I know the golden rule about not contacting a guy who broke up with you, but does the rule apply to this situation? Please help.

2006-10-25 04:24:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Your husband puts you on an emotional guilt trip, to the point where you do feel bad, so he can get oral sex? Please if you don't have something nice or mature to say, dont write anything. Mature answers only.

2006-10-25 04:22:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm just curious and have no motive behind this question..I'm just curious.
Is there anyone out there that cheats or knows of someone who cheats and is perfectly fine with it. Male or Female? I mean do you/they think it is natural and just part of life. I'm not talking about an open relationship, but someone that has affairs and doesn't intend to leave the one they are with for the other. Kinda like Tony Soprano..only without the organized crime.

Anyway...what is their/your reasoning?

Again Just curious...and for all of you that don't have the ability to read completely and follow directions please save the... I think cheating is wrong and wouldn't do it answers..... We all know you think it is wrong...but I am asking the people that don't think it is wrong.

Thanks.

2006-10-25 04:21:55 · 8 answers · asked by tightlies 3

After 18 years of happy married life your wife start flirting with anybody for no reason. Your kids are in teen age. You tried your best to resolve the issue with your wife but she continue with her relationship which spoiled your sexual life also. You lost interest in her now. What will you do?

2006-10-25 04:16:46 · 11 answers · asked by laughing_room 3

Does this affect your relationship at all?

2006-10-25 04:15:36 · 9 answers · asked by Theandysullivan 3

My in-laws have issue with their marriage, and it is putting their kids down. I don't know how to deal with it! Shall i confront to them how i feel about this whole situation or should not say anything to them at all? No one ever asked me how i felt about it. Now, i feel i should say something to them. I feel it is their responsibility to keep the family together. Please give me any advise. Thanks

2006-10-25 04:12:28 · 6 answers · asked by Lolo 1

My husband is in love with me. I am not in love with him anymore. Sometimes I don't feel any love for him at all.

I know you want details...but I will sound rude if I stuff that much quick detail in. Even from a guy's perspective...you won't like him. No, he's not violent or on drugs.

For all the wrong reasons, I am not leaving the marriage.

Assuming I'm not a fat, ugly, crazy, stupid woman who just wants to complain...

What can I do to help my husband with his insecurities? I know that you can't help someone who won't help themselves...but maybe there is a website or a old saying or a testimony or ANYTHING that might spark my husband to get himself some help.

The best way to describe my husband is this:

Those who don't learn from history are "doomed" to repeat it.

2006-10-25 04:09:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous