that likes and enjoys having sex most of the time? I have to beg him for sex, he complains about me wanting sex. He new I was a very sexual person and now he complains about it.
2006-10-25 05:24:11 · 25 answers · asked by Paulinariver 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he wasn't virgin either and he new I wasn't but he was sexual only the first 2 years!
2006-10-25 05:38:26 · update #1
I do not understand why he is complaining, did you tell him you were a virgin before you married him? If so shame on you, if not then tell the a**hole to live with it. No one should have to beg for sex, it sounds like he is using that as an excuse to be controlling. Sweetie, if I was in your shoes, I would file for divorce, that will either get his attention, or if he doesn't care, then good riddance. You need to find someone who will love you and fulfill your sexual desires, life is to short to have to live with someone who is so controlling. Good luck
2006-10-25 05:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Some sexual enthusiasm lost in the relationship maybe by your high sexual energy that he feels comes from your previous experiences whether it's true or not. Some people just like to be very sexually intimate with their partner as you claim to be.
Perhaps he thought he 'reformed' you when you married and that you shouldnt be so 'sexual'. When you've taken your sexual cravings down a notch then he might feel you are reformed better, some discipline and he will try to rev you back up again, his way. ;) Let's hope. Good luck.
2006-10-25 12:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
did he know you weren't a virgin before getting married?? if so then tell him to leave the past in the past. If you aren't getting sex enough maybe he has a low sex drive or the fact that you had other partners and could be comparing him to them might upset him to the point he doesn't want to have sex. You should sit down and ask him flat out. If he doesn't want to do the deed still then find a good adult store and buy some good adult toys and do it your self!!!
2006-10-25 12:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive come to the conclusion if you are the one who withholds it and doesnt act interested, hell be all over you. Cant change the facts on the virgin issue. I would tell him. If I was a virgin and you were the only man Ive ever been with then somewhere down the line you would be wondering what else was out there. That should work, trust me.
2006-10-25 12:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Monkeylynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend once who was on the same no sex page your man sounds like he is on......While he never complained about the virginity part as time went on his sex drive just plain died. Turns out he was so into pornography (hard core stuff) and paddywhacking, there was nothing left for me. Luckily for me, I found out right away and dumped him. I would never give advice because it is your relationship but good luck to you.
2006-10-25 12:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by otisisstumpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably was sexually inexperienced when you first got together and thought you could teach him some things, but later realized that the type of sex you enjoy isn't his cup of tea for whatever reason (too aggressive, too kinky, too boring, etc). You can't expect him to perform if he doesn't find you or what you do to be sexually appealing. He might feel you over represented yourself concerning matters sexual at the beginning of your relationship and now resents you for it.
2006-10-25 12:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that is frustrating (in every way). If he knew before you got married that you weren't a virgin (really who is anymore?!) then he is past the day when he can complain about it. The statute of limitations is up!! Really, do see a counselor before you are tempted to "step out" . Your needs are not being met and he needs to see the importance of that. I wish you luck!
2006-10-25 12:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest finding your own ways to please yourself w/o him. Not cheating - but sex toys etc. Maybe that will lessen the pull on him?
Other then that I don't really know what to say. I am a very sexual person as well - I can't imagine being w/ someone who wasn't!
2006-10-25 12:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by Niko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
and what is your phone number .does he take anti depressant meds this well not the old sex drive in the toilet if not .has it always been this why .if so then you two don't have a good sexual future .some folks can get along without that part being fulfilling can you?
2006-10-25 12:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to seduce the man. Go to the book store and get some books on the subject.
Try dressing up to entertain him. Get some DVDs on Striptease and/or belly dancing. No Straight man could resist that.
2006-10-25 12:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by hsp_goddess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋