We have been together for 4 years and have a wondrerful marriage. We are both in our 30's and planning to have kids in the future.
But sometimes he gets jelous and it drives me crazy, even with my female friends . I've never given him any reason to doubt me. Why? He also has to know where I am at all times.
Does it get better with time? Do you really have to earn trust?
Why can he trust me like I trust him? How do I deal with it?
2006-10-25 04:54:07 · 9 answers · asked by tanyasiv 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your dealing with his problum not yours .most guys are like this because they are not self asured of there place with there wives or he is doing what he says your doing and is trying to throw ou off .each person is differant and with time all wounds heal .trust is someting we give we can not earn it .it must be given by your old man and then you can be trust worthy .untill he gives you trust there is nothing you can do to earn
2006-10-25 05:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I don't think it gets better. If he is jealous and you are giving him no reason to be, then it his own insecurities that make him that way, and it may not have anything to do with trust at all.He may think you are to good for him and is affraid that one day you& you're friends will get to talking and figure that out. Maybe he's afraid that you will leave him. If it's all in his head, I'm affraid that with out some counceling he won't change. My husband is also very jealous, (even of my brother) and we have been together for 7 yrs. it hasn't gotten any better! Sorry if thats not the answer you were looking for, but for me it's the truth!!!
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 05:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by dreamteam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 3 years and my husband was very jealous. I talk to him about the issue. Over the 3 years he has gotten better and he trusts me but he still asks alot of questions. He just is scared that I will find someone new. We try to go out together. He asks alot of questions to make sure that I am OK and don't lie. I rather is question me then not let me hang out with my friends. You need your girl time too. Give it some more time.
2006-10-25 05:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lori K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I should not speak for him, but usually a jealous man is an insecure one. He sounds like he wants you all to himself, which is a fault of his, not yours. But you are the one paying for it. You have stayed with him for four years. It will NOT change, and I cannot stress that enough. These things you have said about him are signs of abuse. You do NOT owe this man an explanation on everything you do. You deserve to be loved, respected, and trusted. Don't settle for anything less!
2006-10-25 05:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by Zenchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It never gets better....live with it or leave. I lived with an insanely jealous soul-eating harpie for 9 years and finally left for greener pastures.
2006-10-25 04:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it gets worse. What makes this even more tragic is people who suspect others of cheating are often doing so themselves.
2006-10-25 04:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it gets better, but it can take years ... keep telling him you love him and hope for the best !
2006-10-25 04:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of the time people do not change their strips
2006-10-25 04:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not unless he acknowledges his problem.
2006-10-25 04:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋