A few months ago i found out my wife had an affair, and we settled it We are still together no children, We have a large home and a few weeks ago Her twin came to stayt with us (she is having marriage trouble). I work at home and so does my wife but she had to go and meet cleints for various reasons. and my sis-in-law is alway there, Well she walks around half naked most of the time(but only when my wife is not around). She knows of our problems as she brings them up all the time when my wife is not around. she is also very flirtatious with me but not when the wife is there (SHe has kept herself up much better than the wife) Well I talked to the sis-in-laws hubby last night and it seem that the marriage problems are made up. So do you think my wife could be setting me up ? She always tells me when she'll be home thats our deal for me to not leave her but she always seems to get home much earkier than she says almost seem s that she is trying to catch us. Please help !!!!
2006-10-25 04:33:53 · 22 answers · asked by Wondering If ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What ever you do ............DON'T DO THE SISTER!!!!!
If it is a test or not........DON"T DO IT!!!!!
That is gross....
2006-10-25 04:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, What a great questions!
This is just one of those that I wish we could come back in three months and see where it went.
I think the sister is playing you. I don't necessary think it is a test from your wife, but who would want to gamble with that one! I do not see this being a WIN/WIN in any way shape or form.
I would find a way to let your wife know what sister is doing. If it is a set up wife will do nothing about it if isn't wife will have sister out the door soon.
In the meantime if it too tough to read the menu and not order the food, do one of two things, take the wife to the appointments or shut your self in a room where sister can not walk by.
Best of luck
2006-10-25 11:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your wife comes home ask her for a private discussion.
Tell her that it seems her sister frequently acts provocatively
toward you when she's not around. Ask your wife how you should handle it. If its simply a matter of Sis meeting some need,
and since you do not wish to do anything that could be construed as cheating, offer to do the both at the same time.
Twins, every guys fantasy.
2006-10-25 05:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if she's setting you up. If you play with fire, you'll get burned.
Tell her that you don't feel comfortable being alone with her sister. If she insists that she has to leave you alone, then you leave the house, too. Do not be alone with her sister.
I'm single with kids and want to stay pure until marriage. I have rules for myself that I am not alone after dark with men in my home. It's my rule. I don't spend time alone with married men even for lunch. It's my own self imposed rule because I made a promise for myself that I want to stick to.
You are a great catch since you stuck with your wife after her affair. There's 2 great books called:
For Men Only: What you Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Women &
For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn
It sounds like you guys have some trust issues and need to work on your relationship more. Please distance yourself from any potential straying in your marriage. Men are more visual and her sister sounds like she setting you up.
2006-10-25 04:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by megmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a nutshell, don't crap on your own doorstep, and affair with a stranger is diffferent to one of kin, however i get where your coming from and it would only appear as revenge, even though it sounds very tempting. Do you realy want the court drama of battles and breaking all you've built up? All humans get bored, lets be realists here, sounds like a re-negotiation of the structure of your relationship could be on the cards, who said we cant have it both ways? being in love doesnt mean to say were going to be together and nor does sex mean love or love mean sex, we add all that! be enlightened and do what "works" for both of you.
Dont communicate whats going on that you "percieve"with the sister that will just cause friction, enjoy the flirtations ;)
2006-10-25 04:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, your wife is testing you. Tell your wife you know she's testing you, and that she's being transparent, and that you're not going to fall for it. Tell her that now that your sis-in-law's marriage is all better, it's about time she went home to her husband, that you don't like having temptation thrown at you like that as a test, and that it is childish and immature, but that you apreciate her reasons for doing so and you're glad your relationship is strong enough to have survived the test.
2006-10-25 04:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BLOOD IS THICKER THAN WATER. YOUR WIFE AND YOUR SISTER ARE WORKING TOGETHER TO GET YO A$$ UP AND OUT OF THERE.BUT YOU DO NEED TO TELL YOU WIFE THAT YOUR SISTER N LAW IS WALKING AROUND HALF NAKED AND IS ONLY DOING IT WHEN SHE ISN'T AROUND,EVEN THOUGH THEY MIGHT BE WORKING TOGETHER TELL HER SHE WILL KNOW THAT YOU ARE A GOOD HONEST MAN. TWO WRONGS DON'T MAKE A RIGHT SO JUST BECAUSE SHE HAD AN AFFAIR DO YOU DO THE SAME BECAUSE YOU REAP WHAT YOU SEW
2006-10-25 04:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know so much that she is testing you but it appears more that she is trying to trap you into evening the score so she can elevate some of her own guilt.
This will not help her elevate guilt, extramarital affairs are not the problems they are the symptoms, you want this marriage to work, good for you but you will need some assistance. Find someone to talk with together before it is too late.
2006-10-25 04:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by freemansfox 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether she is setting you up or not, the sister is off limits. It does sound suspicious though. I would take this opportunity to reinstate yourself as the good guy in the relationship. Tell your wife that it seems like her sister is flirting with you. If it is a setup, you pass the test. If it is not, then you have proven to your wife that you are the one who can be trusted. If this is a test, she has got a lot of nerve testing YOU, when SHE is the one who was unfaithful. Use this to your advantage.
2006-10-25 04:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Both your wife and sister-in-law are playing games with you - my advice is that you financially prepare for a divorce because it's coming. You wife wants out but does not want it to be "her fault" and her sister is helping her. The first thing I would do is ask the sister-in-law to move out, the second is to hire a private investigator to keep tabs on your wife on while she is out. She may not be cheating on you now but she certainly is being dishonest with you.
2006-10-25 04:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife knows her sister and she don't trust her around you what you need to do is get her out of your house. tell your wife of some of the things that she is doing when shes not around and tell you wife how much you love her around the sister. and just make her feel like she is the only one that you want.
2006-10-25 04:41:06 · answer #11 · answered by daber m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋