Marriage & Divorce - 25 October 2006

because i have bee through alot this person and i need to know if i should stay or go because ofall the stuff hes put me through and still does he puts me down saying i do keep the house good enough and quit my job so can stayhome and clean and that i'm fat he says he does not care ithink he does and i 'm not that big i'm about average not 7 or anything after having three kids but i'm not that bad so any way ijust cant take the putting down anymore also we have a credit card together and i can't even use it if id i get yelled for use of it and when he uses it that totally different if its him on everthing andi'm to blame for everthing too all the time what to do??? hes jerk???

2006-10-25 01:35:22 · 16 answers · asked by kandie g 1

Do you consider that an oxymoron? My husband and I are former swingers. I got so confused that I cheated to see if I could find something 'real' and individual. Now I'm consider a cheater because he didn't watch and know about the guy(s).
What do you think?

2006-10-25 01:34:07 · 17 answers · asked by Valeria 4

For 18 years of marriage my husband was agressive and controlled everything. Where he comes from men are head of family but I think that position stressed him. I put up with it for the sake of our daughter now 16 but I was very unhappy. However, I loved and still love him very much. Last year I found out he was having an affair and taking Viagra (he is 41). I was very hurt. He said affair didn't mean anything etc etc but he wanted to move out so he could re-assess what he wants to do in life as he always had to please others and compromise. Now he lives alone but comes back to our house every weekend. He treats me really well and we are enjoying our time together, but I can't understand why he needs to live away from us in order to treat us well? When I suggest that perhaps he should stay away in order to work out what he wants he gets upset and says he won't be given ultimatums, but I don't think thats what I am asking. Can't he see what he is doing to me?

2006-10-25 01:28:20 · 23 answers · asked by Nancy S 1

I am married for 1 month and my and my husband live together with his mom, because his father died 2 years ago. I've visited his place very often, maybe 2 and a half years before we got married.His mother was/is nice but now, when I moved into his apartment, everything changed. It's like my mother-in-law doesn't agree with on anything.I started to renew the apartment, and she keeps behaving like it is only hers and I am a guest.that really annoys me, because she tells everything to my husband, not me, and then he comes and argue with me.She is so stubborn,and really old-fashioned ,but she thinks that she is right about everything.that really annoys me, because I argue with my husband because of her(and he is really attached to her).I am sick of being treated like I am guest in THEIR home, and I've spent so much money on renewing it.Help me pls, some advise, I can't take it anymore.He is so nice with me, when we are alone, and so far.

2006-10-25 01:25:30 · 12 answers · asked by bilezlatko 3

just wanted to hear everybodys opinion on this.

How much do you think a spouse should pay a Ex wife/husband( just forhim/ her) and how long?(when kids are not in school yet)

How much do u think a spouse should pay a ex wife /husband and how long?(wenn kids are in school)?

how long and much do u think a spouse should pay when there are no children?

right or wrong?-------the spouse who is working can only keep 35%
10% for the child 55%for the ex........for the next 12 years.
Who thinks that is right ?
Who thinks that is wrong?

2006-10-25 01:23:07 · 5 answers · asked by just_me 1

What should a wife do with a husband who, for the most part of the marriage, cannot consistenly provide for his family and has to rely on his wife to be the sole breadwinner. He trades in stocks and shares and complains that it is a risky business that requires capital and since he does not have the capital, he is not able to succeed. Other times, he blames it on the market conditions. The wife had on several occasions paid his debts off. As a husband and a father, when the wife reminds him of his obligations as a father, he gives the reason that he does not have the money and so is not able to do anything. It has come to a point that when the wife complains about the smallest thing, he sees it as a complain about him not giving her the money that she expects, though the wife don't really need the money as she has enough. The wife though still expects the money so that he is always reminded of his obligation to the family. He sees this "demand" as a tall order from her

2006-10-25 01:10:56 · 10 answers · asked by Tired 1

hmm ... m in love again but m confused that is it love or just a attrection but ma feelings r soo changed as compare to 1st time may b i get scared of love ? i dont know what to do ?

2006-10-25 01:00:30 · 6 answers · asked by D.J Telhaa 2

I think it is important in a marriage for both parties to know each others friends. My husband has friends that are girls, that I haven't met yet. I want to meet them, but every time I am not home, they seem to appear. It bothers me, and I let him know that. He thinks I'm jelous and don't trust him. We just got married in July, 06, and this is becoming a problem. I don't know what to do anymore. I love my husband very much, and I do trust him, but I am a woman, and I know what other girls can be like. My husband doesn't seem to understand me. Please help me explain this to him, or give me some advice on what I can do to make this better. I really need to talk. This is my first marriage, and I don't want this to ruin our relationship. I know he loves me, but this , in my books, is a problem I really can't figure out how to solve. And I don't want my husband to think I am jelous anymore, but if he screws around on me, and I find out, I don't know what I'll do. PLEASE HELP!

2006-10-25 01:00:02 · 21 answers · asked by Happy Girl 2

What questions was your spouse asked at the embassy (British High Commission) before the visa was issued?

2006-10-25 00:56:33 · 9 answers · asked by ddman 2

My wife of 5 years cheated on me after she found out that I get regular lap dances at strip clubs from the same girls. I have been doing it for years and i couldn't stop. My wife is furious at this. She cries all the time and doesn't trust me anymore. She feels ugly (altho is she beautiful) and is depressed. In my opinion she is the cheater!! I was just getting lap dances until I got my rocks off. I never penetrated these women. She went out and screwed somebody else which is far worse. She says she did it to get back at me because she felt invisible and unattractive. What do you think?

2006-10-25 00:53:42 · 28 answers · asked by Mr. CT 1

2006-10-25 00:42:30 · 7 answers · asked by Jane Smith 1

2006-10-25 00:30:29 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

After that I found a text message that he was writing another women saying that he could not wait until he seen her pretty face. I don;t know if he meet her out of town or she stays round the area we are at. I love him, but I do not trust him. I want to leave and then I want to stay because I love him so much. Please help?

2006-10-25 00:28:56 · 19 answers · asked by hotgirlz_22 1

For 18 years of marriage my husband was agressive and controlled everything. Where he comes from men are head of family but I think that position stressed him. I put up with it for the sake of our daughter now 16 but I was very unhappy. However, I loved and still love him very much. Last year I found out he was having an affair and taking Viagra (he is 41). I was very hurt. He said affair didn't mean anything etc etc but he wanted to move out so he could re-assess what he wants to do in life as he always had to please others and compromise. Now he lives alone but comes back to our house every weekend. He treats me really well and we are enjoying our time together, but I can't understand why he needs to live away from us in order to treat us well? When I suggest that perhaps he should stay away in order to work out what he wants he gets upset and says he won't be given ultimatums, but I don't think thats what I am asking. Can't he see what he is doing to me?

2006-10-25 00:19:28 · 23 answers · asked by Nancy S 1

Sometimes after giving birth to children,parent seperate themselves and i think they do so without caring about the effect of this action ,on the innocent minds .Do the children change their parents?Why divorce then?How the children feel such situations?

2006-10-25 00:13:47 · 9 answers · asked by agni 4

2006-10-25 00:12:32 · 30 answers · asked by Stephen 1

1. Let's just say a husband had discreet relationships with several other women other than his wife. Do you think his love for his wife is no longer there when he committed the relationships?.

2. And now that the wife seeks for a divorce after all efforts fail. Yet he doesnt want to let go of her. Is this a classic example of a dog and his bone? No love still but just something that is hard to let go?

3. What else can u make out of this situation?

Your views please...thank U

2006-10-25 00:11:38 · 18 answers · asked by DiL 3

They are loyal and good wives. Very caring mother's, yet there seems so much of unfulfilled longing.

2006-10-25 00:08:15 · 8 answers · asked by 40andgoing 4