After that I found a text message that he was writing another women saying that he could not wait until he seen her pretty face. I don;t know if he meet her out of town or she stays round the area we are at. I love him, but I do not trust him. I want to leave and then I want to stay because I love him so much. Please help?
2006-10-25 00:28:56 · 19 answers · asked by hotgirlz_22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can decide that! How long have you been married? Has he ever cheated before? Can you forgive and get past this? Have you confronted him? It is possible to have trust again after this, but it takes a long time! And the cheater must feel some remorse! Only you can decide if he is worth it! Good luck!
2006-10-25 00:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, you should probably get out, it sounds to me like he is cheating. Especially if he is accusing you of it, that is usually a guilty conscience talking. If you don't trust him anymore then you will be miserable. Every time you can't find him or he doesn't answer the phone, or he goes out of town again you are going to wonder if he is with her or someone else. For you own piece of mind and happiness, you need to get out. I know it will be rough to do, but it will get better and you will be much happier in the end. Good luck.
2006-10-25 09:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is guilty. Its possible that you love him but don't trust him at the same but its impossible to remain together when you stopped trusting him already and when he's cheating on you. I think you should talk about it and try to see a counsellor about it. If youre wanting to be with him outweighs your mistrust you may have a chance and salvage the relationship and he's willing to work hard an trying to get you back. Don't force it, stay strong and do what you think is right.
2006-10-25 07:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him but he may not love you. You will know in yoiur heart some day that he is not the one for you. Stop now and think about what you are letting happen. Do you really think that it will get better? The trust is already gone. Or you can put your hands up and know if its love set it free if it come back its meant to be. But trust me he will come back because you let him hurt you. A man that loves you would never want to hurt you.
2006-10-25 07:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by eoeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to get out of the relationship, once a cheater they USUALLY are always cheaters. And accusing the partner of cheating is also usually the way they go about things as well. It's their guilty conscience. But if you do decide that you want to stay and work things out, please seek some counseling for you both. Good luck, hope things work out for the best for you.
2006-10-25 07:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask YOURSELF why?
Weight problem?
Always Complaining and Nagging
Oral sex to completion?
Anal Sex?
Outdoor
Public/Risky
Spanking
BDSM
Contented and happy dogs do not stray, never say no to anything anytime anyplace anywhere with anybody he wants..and I guarantee a long happy and fun life...or listen to the religious loonies and puritans on her or the bitter never getting or had any individuals that answer..and you will end up end up fat, alone, depressed and bitter, wondering how all the other women manage it........and writing answers on here like some of the ones above and below!
2006-10-25 07:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision is entirely yours. Some people in similar circumstances have left to lead better or worse lives. Others have stayed with the same result. However, if you do not trust him anymore, there is no more marriage in your hearts. You can do the honourable thing then..
2006-10-25 07:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by 1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's common knowledge those that cheat are the first to accuse the non cheater of cheating. Without trust, your marriage isn't going to make it. Personally I couldn't stay with someone who has no faith in me and thinks the worst.
2006-10-25 07:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is so quick to accuse you of cheating, then he himself must have cheated. He just doesn't want to be found out. If he doesn't trust you like you trust him then this is no marriage for either of you. Leave him.
2006-10-25 07:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intuition does not normally lie sweetie. If he accuses you it's because he is. Projection.
You know the truth, either choose to live with it or don't but life is too short to spend it in a bad way.
2006-10-25 10:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by eg_ansel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋