Marriage & Divorce - 25 October 2006

2006-10-25 07:46:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, here goes... My wife and I have been married for 5+ years. Average late 20s white couple.
She was very sexually active in HS to the point of sneaking out of the house to have sex with a man of another race. Then, had 3 other sex partners in college before we met. I had not had sex at all before I met her. LOTS of stored up energy...At first, our chemistry was great and we were EXTREMELY sexual for all of our courtship (2 years). Then, about 3 months before our wedding, she wanted to halt that so we could feel "virginal" on our wedding night which was perfectly normal.
Then, we were married, sex some but not like previously. Then, we got pregnant which became her #1 excuse for no sex (understandable). Then, her weight became the excuse even though I love her body and am a person that always makes her feel good. Now, money and stress are excuses. she makes me feel like a rapist for wanting sex with her more than twice a month. There's no cheating but I feel completely left out

2006-10-25 07:45:17 · 18 answers · asked by harrysmint 1

I keep hearing about couples that don't 'do it' as much as they used to. As a guy I can understand how the same thing, over and over, can get boring and you just want something different but you still want 'it'. Or when you first meet someone you are all over eachother and then it just kinda slows down until you don't even think about it. So why is that? Why does the intamacy slow down after marriage or after time? Is it a loss of physical attraction or the feeling of not having to work/perform anymore?

2006-10-25 07:43:24 · 5 answers · asked by tightlies 3

Why is no-fault divorce allowed? This is what allows poor morals and values. People need to understand that they are stepping into a LONG TERM commitment and there is no easy way out. Divorce should've stayed as At-fault, where the person filling for the divorce had to prove some sort of infidelity or abuse, etc. No-fault divorces have hurt our society and our children.

What are your opinions on this matter?

2006-10-25 07:42:24 · 23 answers · asked by Julie 3

me and my husband talked things out he says he still loves me no matter how i am he said three days ago i was a lil bigger but he still finds me beautiful and he loves me sometimes i feel he just says that could this be true

2006-10-25 07:38:23 · 12 answers · asked by randi p 2

alread had the divorce and one ruling with the custody. Now she is not going by the courts and is not allowing visition sometimes. She claims that im mean to her (the ex) and that is the reason why. I need a good attorney who can help me get more time and then finally win custody.

2006-10-25 07:36:54 · 2 answers · asked by jderavila 1

I'm not sure of the order of the names when one gets married. Is it First Name -> Middle ->Maiden Last Name ->His Last Name
OR Fist -> Middle -> His Last Name -> Maiden Last Name?

2006-10-25 07:36:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was with my ex for almost 4 yrs,5 1/2 months ago we broke up completly without any contact ,he just started to contact me saying he loves and miss me alot and need me in his life.the thing is i care about him but the love is not commin back on my side...i would love to be with him but i cant trust him...wat should i do...he said the reason he didnt contact me sooner was because he was scared,he is on probation for a year coz i send him to jail for a previous incident....

2006-10-25 07:36:04 · 15 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4

My Husband and I have been separated for over 6 months now. We still have some thing in both of our name, such as insurance and a cell phone. I can not cancel these myself since we are both on the contracts. I have asked him several times to take care of these issues but he has not. The real problem lines in the fact that the payments for these are coming out of may account. He keeps telling me he will pay me what is owed, but I have yet to see any $. What legal leg do I have to stand on?

2006-10-25 07:35:53 · 16 answers · asked by blackcatmingus 3

I have been married to my husband for almost 8 years. I have 3 boys with him. About two months ago he told me he did not know what he wanted anymore. That I have hurt him over and over again. That things needed to change. He said he was unhappy, and he love me but not in love with me. He didn't mention divorce or leaving. He actually is giving me a chance to try and make things good again. We have been talking and working through everything. Now he is distance again. I want to work this out for us and our boys but I don't know what to do. Please help.

2006-10-25 07:33:09 · 22 answers · asked by jfgrnbry 1

2006-10-25 07:29:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 21 years old and I've been with my husband for 2 years. During that time we have both done our share of immature things, but recently he did something for which I might not be able to forgive him. He always has had a fantasy about having a 3 some, but I told him before we were married that I wasn't comfortable with this. Then, he found another woman after we were married and tried to get us to "bond". That hurt me so badly that I went out and almost cheated on him (stopped at the last minute). He went out with the same woman behind my back and made out with her (also had genital contact but no "sex" per say). I was willing to forgive him, but now she's brough him up on sexual assult charges. He didn't rape her, but he's too pushy and she's inexperienced. Basicly he freaked her out and now he's dragging me through his ****. I can't even tell anyone. What should I do? I love him, but is he the wrong person to be with? :(

2006-10-25 07:26:19 · 21 answers · asked by drkangel210e 6

I'm almost 23. Mu husband just turned 24. I have had self-esteem issues for a couple of years now, and am wondering if this is my problem or if he is just lying to make me feel better.

Afew nights ago, me and my husband were having sex, and he didn't finish. I felt like I had done something wrong, since usually he has no problems in the bedroom department. I tried everything I know to do. Nothing happened! As a result, we end up fighting, and he's sleeping in the other bedroom. He finally comes back to our bed, and we end up talking about it. He says that just because he didn't finish does not mean he didn't enjoy it. Is he crazy, or lying to me?

2006-10-25 07:26:18 · 19 answers · asked by tinkerbell24 4

My spouse left me 1 year ago for another woman. I have thus far refrained from contacting her, because he is the one to blame, as he married me and cheated. Now that a year has passed, I do feel an urge to contact the other woman, but I don't know if I should thank her for ridding me of him, berate her for helping to break up a family with a small child, or just let it go.

2006-10-25 07:24:24 · 20 answers · asked by tethergrrl 2

I dont want to go to my daughters wedding but if I dont she would be hurt. I love her but dont like her guy!! He is too cocky!!!

2006-10-25 07:24:13 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay everyone I am going to give u a summary. I fell in love with a man who was still marry but he told me their marriage was over. The paper work is done and he still calling her love and stuff. Beside that he text other girls and hide it from me. He lie to me over and over. But I this never happen til now after I gave birth to our baby boy. I feel invisible and so lonely. My heart ache and I cry almost every single day. I know I have to leave him. but I want to be mentally stable for my son. He’s my second bf and he promise he was going to marry me, but so much for that, we got into a fight and he told me he wasn’t planning on marrying me after all. I love him. how am I going to get over this? I know is going to take a long time I wish it wouldn’t hurt so much. HELP!!!

2006-10-25 07:22:26 · 13 answers · asked by Sexy C 1

I can't stand my husband's brother... He is inconsiderate and he knows he can get over on my husband because my husband's too nice. His brother treats everyone like that...and gets away with it...His brother always asks my husband to take him places and never ever gives him gas money.My husband is too nice to ask..so I told him he can't take him around anymore...His brother also cursed me out because one time me and my husband were having a fight and he overheard it..and thought I was being mean to him... this was 3 years ago..and I have hated him ever since.. I don't know how to tell my husband to put his foot down with him..

2006-10-25 07:18:14 · 14 answers · asked by heart'sbreath 1

And what is your most requested S.E.X. pleasure that you request?
would you say you and your husband are a match in this area of love.

2006-10-25 07:14:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend who has a baby by the father who doesn't really mean a great deal to her has just told my other friend (who is in love with her and she loves him too, they have had feelings for each other for a few years but complicated to develop their relationship, but want to be each other if things were simple) that she is getting married. The reason is to give her baby more of a future and a family. But the thing is she told my other friend that she loves him more than the father, but she says she is doing the right thing for her baby. My friend was distraut when she told him she was having a baby and now he feels the same again now she is getting married although she doesn't want to. The big problem is what she said, that she loves him more than the father. Help??

2006-10-25 07:14:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just wondered where this trend started.

2006-10-25 07:14:07 · 14 answers · asked by SheRa 3

i feel like a bad mother.... they mean the world to me.. hopefully we get through this..
i know it will be hard but i feel like it is the best.. i feel like i have been putting on this big front for so long and i can't
do it anymore... i know we have alot of details to work out.... but i will always be there for you!!!!!!!! i am going to go
to the mall today... don't know when i will be back.. i think i just need sometime alone....

2006-10-25 07:08:43 · 8 answers · asked by Confused 1

You deserve so much better... I feel like i tried so hard the first 5 1/2 years or so and felt like you didn't even care sometimes and then all this crap happened and you changed.. Sometimes itseems like it was too latefor change..I have tried over the last two years to make it work.. but deep down i am not happy.. which i think we both deserve to be.. i hate seeing you upset cause i know it's all my fault. but i hate sitting around pretending verything is ok with me and it's not.. I know that everything is not going to be all rosey... but i feel like i'm not now either.... Yesterday when you said that if you went to virginia would i be upset... it hurt to say no... but i think that if i found out you were cheating on me or had meet someone i would not be upset either.. i feellikeeveryone is going to hate me.. you know how my parents are, i don't want your family to hate me either... and i don't want the kids to hate me... i feel like a bad mother.... they mean the w

2006-10-25 07:07:52 · 2 answers · asked by Confused 1

2006-10-25 07:05:16 · 23 answers · asked by juststu777 1

I guess we're in the part of our relationship where the things that used to be cute are now annoying the hell out of me... He's really stressing me out.. its like little bad habits that turn into big fights.. he admitted these are things he needs to change about himself...but i'm so impatient.. i want him to change now...any tips...

2006-10-25 07:00:53 · 15 answers · asked by heart'sbreath 1

We've been together for 10 years and I've tried buying different toothpaste, brushes, etc. It's really nasty and I don't know what else to do - and before you ask, he hasn't been to a dentist for at least as long as I've known him.

2006-10-25 06:58:11 · 21 answers · asked by oneamy2001 2

I have been with my wife for 8 years and married for 5. We have a 6 year old daughter and a 4 year old son. about 2.5 years ago my wife had questioned her love for me. I felt it was just a phase and I really wasnt being the best husband and showing her attention she needed. So we talked about it I really wanted to stay together at this point I really realized how much I loved her and was willing to do anything to work it out. In the end we moved to another state closer to her family thinking this would help. So we have been here and I am thinking all is well we had an active sex life and she showed affection towards me as I did her. About a week ago I noticed her being distant like she was when she questioned her love for me.3 days ago she tells me she is feeling that way again.she stopped telling me she loved me since and we have not been affectionate.she went with here sister to a bar previous fri. I feel she may have had mixed feelingsbut had a good time at barand is confused

2006-10-25 06:52:00 · 16 answers · asked by Confused 1

My hubby and I are going thru rough times, I have tried over and over to bring spark back with no interest from him. We have been kind of down towards each other and I have written him letters telling him how sexy I think he is, how much I appreciate him going to work for his family's needs, gotten him nice gifts for occasions, make him a great dinner at least 5 days a week, told him I was going to the s e x store to get something fun (his response was "how much was that?") asked him last night to put his hand on back because I like how warm his touch is, he wouldn't. Ask him for a 5 minute break when he gets home from work so I can run outside for a second, he says bluntly "no"
When do I just say F this and give up. I cant keep giving. I am tired. Tired of trying. tired of being beat down.

2006-10-25 06:47:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my husband for almost five years now. He's half African American and half Hispanic and I'm Caucasian. I always see African American women looking at us in disapproval. Some have had the nerve to say something to my husband or myself. Why is it such an issue???

Thank you!

2006-10-25 06:47:08 · 18 answers · asked by Julie 3

me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. i know that he is the right person for me but im not to sure if we should get married. i love him to death and could never leave him, but im afraid that later on when we have kids and everything that something is going to go wrong. can some1 help me out!!! :(

2006-10-25 06:45:45 · 4 answers · asked by ? 2

I WORK AT A 4 STAR HOTEL IN ATLANTA GA.THERE IS THIS GUY THERE THAT IS BLACK AND MARRIED AND HE HAS HAD MORE AFFAIRS WITH WOMAN THAT WORK IN THIS HOTEL.HE HAS HAD ABOUT 35 DIFFERENT WOMEN THAT HE HAS HAD AFFAIRS WITH AND BRAGS ABOUT IT TO HIS FRIENDS.THERE WAS ONE WHO WORKED IN THE SALES DEPT THAT LOOKS LIKE BOZO THE CLOWN RED HAIR[ORANGE MORE LIKE IT) HE WOULD BUY HER ROLOS (CANDY) AND SHE WOULD HAVE SEX WITH HIM, AND TELL US HE LOVES ME LOL,,,HAAAA A REAL NUT CASE.SHE HAS MOVED TO MARYLAND NOW AND SHE IS STILL EMAILING HIM AND CALLING HIM.HE HAS BEEN WITH THE MAIDS HERE AT THE HOTEL 2 GIRLS THAT WORKED IN H.R. AND FRONT DESK PEOPLE AND PBX AND IN SHIPPING AND MOST OF THE TIME HE IS SEEING 3 ARE 4 OF THESE WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME JUST DIFFERENT DEPARTMENTS.THE OTHER DAY HE WAS SAYING HE WAS TALKING TO SOME GIRLS ON THE CHAT LINE AND HE WAS GOING TO GET THEM A FREE ROOM THERE AT THE HOTEL.AND THE THING ABOUT HIM HE IS OLD IN HIS 50;S AND HAS FALSE TEETH WALKS LIKE HE IS 90 AND NASTY .

2006-10-25 06:40:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous