My spouse left me 1 year ago for another woman. I have thus far refrained from contacting her, because he is the one to blame, as he married me and cheated. Now that a year has passed, I do feel an urge to contact the other woman, but I don't know if I should thank her for ridding me of him, berate her for helping to break up a family with a small child, or just let it go.
2006-10-25 07:24:24 · 20 answers · asked by tethergrrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A whole year has gone by and you are STILL hung up on the fact that your loser ex-husband had an affair on you? I'd say it's time to move on, girl and forget his *** AND what he did!!!!!!! Why would you want to waste your time dwelling on whether or not you should contact the "other" loser (his mistress)? And for what??? Aren't you better than that? Listen, I've had two previous marriages fail because "those" losers thought the grass was greener. Well guess what.... I've moved on, am SOOOOO much better off without either one of them AND both of them are still trying to figure things out (neither of them is with the girl they originally had their affairs with). My time is MUCH more precious than wasting it to worrying about either of them OR to care to speak to either of their failed mistresses.
I'd say it's well past the time for you to be over your fallen relationship. Instead, focus that energy to your younger child. Now THAT is worth it's weight in gold!
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2006-10-25 07:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go and take the high road. I was left for another woman once too and as much as I would like to hate or blame her for what happened, the fact still remains that a man can't be stolen if he doesn't want to be. Sure, she didn't have to let him lie in her bed- but the greatest revenge will be when he does it to her. In the meantime, don't give her the satisfaction of knowing how badly it upset you. She isn't worth the energy.
2006-10-25 07:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, move on! Why would you still ruminate over it a year later? Both your husband and you are to blame - yes, he cheated, but you married a cheater. The "other woman" has nothing to do with it. You both made your choices, and while you have no control over the choices *he* makes, you do have control over your own. Learn your lessons, pick yourself up, and try to do better next time. Leave the past to the past. For as long as you're stuck in the past - you don't have a future.
2006-10-25 07:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can let it go, do so
because if you read some of the things in this site you will see that the saying about what come around
Well she help broken off her mariage I am sure someone else is waiting impatiently to do the same to her
Take care of yourself and your baby
make sure you get as much child support as you can
2006-10-25 07:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go and move on!! You are better off with out him. Just remember what comes around goes around. If he cheated on you he will more than likely cheat on her .You know the old saying " You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince". Well there are a lot of frogs out there and there is one for you! Be patient.
2006-10-25 07:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lanita H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contacting her probably wouldn't be the best idea. Not only will you be rehashing and dredging up those old feelings, but you could create more problems. Like you said, HE is the one to blame, so why bother her with it? Moving on is probably your best option.
2006-10-25 07:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Amelie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. I would say that you should contact her if it hadn't already been a year since he left. Since it has been so long, you would just look pathetic (sorry) and like you weren't over it. It won't accomplish anything at this point.
2006-10-25 07:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just Let it Go Life Is to Short.
2006-10-25 07:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it has taken you this long to decide what to do, I would let it go. There is little to gain from contacting her and it would probably stir up more bad emotions.
2006-10-25 07:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been a year and you're still thinking about it?! Time to let it go - contacting her won't do you any good; they still slept together. You can't erase that.
2006-10-25 07:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋