Why does it seem to bother African American women for African American men to date white women?

Question

I've been with my husband for almost five years now. He's half African American and half Hispanic and I'm Caucasian. I always see African American women looking at us in disapproval. Some have had the nerve to say something to my husband or myself. Why is it such an issue???

Thank you!

Answer 1

I think a lot of it has to do with the stigma with class structure. Though some would like to think otherwise, there's still racism in America. As a white person, i would never state my disapproval to an interracial couple, but as a guy, there's this fear that black men will attract all the cute white girls. For me, it's strictly competitive. If I see a beautiful white girl dating a black guy I automatically think it's because his "junk" is bigger. My first reaction is to put a stop to it. From what I've heard, blacks are much harder on each other than we are on them. Black men who get an education are consistently harassed about being the "house n*****" and "turning white." In that context, it's obvious jealousy, though they'll never admit it. Our culture demands that you can't have both worlds. If you do, then we'll make sure you're miserable.
Black women have two classes against them, the race and the sex. So they're going to be more resentful to see a man they might have had a shot at, "upgrading" to a class of woman that most cultures say isn't allowed. For a white woman, it's considered easy pickings because it's thought that any black man, if given the choice, would pick a white girl over a black one. So she's considered less of a person because she lowered her standards. It's even more offensive if she's beautiful. Just like any man would pick a younger woman over an older one. I live in the midwest so I don't see it as much. What I do see is obese white girls dating black guys. Once in a while I see a cute white girl with a black guy, but he's usually at the top of his form. So, though it's not illegal to do it, the social taboos are strict enough that people feel justified in degrading those who think they can get away with it.

Answer 2

i am an African American women and i can say that the reason why i think most African American women do that is because they are afraid that white women are taking the little few good African American men that we have they are scared that all that will be left for them is the hustlers ,drug dealers or ,uneducated black men with 30 kids and no job that's why i think they give you stares of disapproval but not all of them are like that including me love is beautiful no matter what race it is

Answer 3

Some black women feel that there are very few dedicated and successful black men out there. So when they see a successful black man with a white woman then they feel like black women are being "cheated" because the very few "good" men we have always run to the other race. But my brother is engaged to a white woman and my father is about to have my half sister with a white woman. Just ignore the comments and hold your head up high because it just boils down to them being jealous and taking it too far.

Answer 4

Because African American women wonder why their men don't stick with women of color. They feel it's a put down. But I don't see Asian men getting bummed out because white guys date/marry Asian women. Inter-racial dating/marriage is here to stay. People need to get over their issues. It's not such a problem in other countries, but in the U.S. it is, because of our history. Not so in Europe, at least I don't think so.

Answer 5

You know what you should not let this bother you cause it is their problem and who cares what they think . Next time you catch someone starring at you ,stare back with a mean look on your face that usually works. That happens sometime when my husband and i are out with our friends they are a mixed couple and ppl always look at all of us. I just stare back with a mean look ,you know like what are you starring at? look . Try that and see what happens. Good luck and god bless.

Answer 6

This is the real truth real human beings women men black white don t give a darn

Answer 7

Because people have very narrow views about interracial dating and marriage. They need to ask the question about whether or not that person is good to you. How do they treat you ? WHAT DOES COLOR HAVE TO DO WITH ANYTHING???

Answer 8

African American woman are very insecure. They spend all their time hating on caucasian and latina women meanwhile they dye their hair blonde, straighten it, and were blue contacts. HELLO if you hate cacausian/latina woman why do you want to look like us??? There is no law that states you can't date or marry out of your race. Don't stress it - not worth it! Next time someone steps up to you tell them to get a life!

Answer 9

They are straight forward brothers and sisters who choose not to hide behind a sheet.

Answer 10

i am a Black Woman.....The women who are looking at you like this needs to get a life. They are stupid and your men would not want them anyway. So don't lose any sleep over it.