I'm almost 23. Mu husband just turned 24. I have had self-esteem issues for a couple of years now, and am wondering if this is my problem or if he is just lying to make me feel better.
Afew nights ago, me and my husband were having sex, and he didn't finish. I felt like I had done something wrong, since usually he has no problems in the bedroom department. I tried everything I know to do. Nothing happened! As a result, we end up fighting, and he's sleeping in the other bedroom. He finally comes back to our bed, and we end up talking about it. He says that just because he didn't finish does not mean he didn't enjoy it. Is he crazy, or lying to me?
2006-10-25 07:26:18 · 19 answers · asked by tinkerbell24 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the record, I know about the biology of sex. But when someone goes from firing off the rocket in ten minutes to taking three hours and getting nowhere, I have a tendency to worry. So, excuse me for asking.
2006-10-25 07:34:11 · update #1
I have been married 20 years, and in all that time, I have been unable to achieve orgasm several times. It's a little disappointing for me when it happens, but I prefer it not to be made a big deal of. Sex is always enjoyable, even if I don't ejaculate, because it's a way of feeling physically close to my wife.
2006-10-25 07:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not lying or crazy especially if your doing it everyday or more. I've been in your husbands situation myself. Honestly, the worst thing you can do is fuss over it. If its his decision not to don't pressure him or it will become more a duty than a pleasure. Don't take it personally because its not, he enjoyed it and wants to keep both of you enjoying it. Did you stop to think he might want to give it to you as much as you want it but he's only a man with a limited sexual capacity whereas a womans sexual capacity is much higher. Don't get me wrong as men we all still want to do three or more times a day we just can't climax that many times a day on a consistent basis and keep it hard. Im sure if its that important to you he'll do it but you'll just end up concerned why its not as hard as it used to be.
Trust me its a good thing(if you like gettin it) don't screw it up.
2006-10-25 07:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Truyer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not uncommon, though I think you want it to be. There are a lot of reason the rocket does not fire. Stress, trying to hard to please, thoughts of the office, too much to drink, dope, recent ejaculation or a variety of other reason.
Do not let this get you down. There are just times that the fuse just burns out.
Keep trying I am betting that next time will be fine. If not enjoy the ride and remember what Richard Pryor use to say "I got mine, you get yours"
2006-10-25 11:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he isn't crazy and he isn't lying neither...he just didn't tell you that he must have masturbated earlier...when a man does this and soon after has sex..they enjoy it but can't "finish" again..not so soon... and yeah..if he masturbates..it has nothing to do with you...all men do..absolutely all men...even when they have the sexiest wildest gf or wife..they still do...so don't feel bad if he admits he does...its not because you aren't enough or something like that..it's just a normal natural thing most men ..and some women do...
2006-10-25 07:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by marleyanne b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No need to worry,that happens to men from time to time.As far as him coming back in the room to talk about it,That is what a real man is suppose to do.He probably is telling the truth when he say that he enjoyed it even though he didn't come.I'm going to assume that you did,and that was enough for him to feel OK with talking about it.
2006-10-25 13:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope it happens.
Sometimes no matter how much you try you can't get there either. It may not have happened to you yet but it will one night and you'll tell him the same thing or fake it.
Just realize we can and guys it is a bit harder to 'fake'.
Stuff happens- he may have been tired, stressed or simply couldn't relax enough and the more you concenrated your effort the more 'aware' he became and that makes it awful hard to not think and relax.
2006-10-25 07:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 22:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and one that. My husband and I had this problem a couple years ago and I got the same answer. So I am assuming that he isn't lying or crazy;)
2006-10-25 07:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by neinnana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he took a drug. I took cialis and I had to TRY to orgasm. I was a normal guy and it turned me into a machine seriously.
Now I just take a 1/8 of a pill and can go for about 45 min.
If he took something he might be ashamed to admit it. So it might not be you.
2006-10-25 07:47:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me? You were fighting because he did not finish? You guys need to grow up. Read some books on biology or something. It happens to guys, ok. You're off your rocker, not your husband.
2006-10-25 07:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋