me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. i know that he is the right person for me but im not to sure if we should get married. i love him to death and could never leave him, but im afraid that later on when we have kids and everything that something is going to go wrong. can some1 help me out!!! :(
2006-10-25 06:45:45 · 4 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and this honey is what they call "cold feet" ...everyone i think goes through it. you just have to completely trust in that person love an if you have any doubts that it won't work , then wait. no one knows what the future will hold , as far as being any couple. you just need to love that person enough to know it will always be.
2006-10-25 08:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you afraid that something may go wrong in years to come? I wonder if you have seen marriages that go that way?
If you never ever want to be without him and he feels the same about you then get married if that's what you both want.
You can't plan or guess what will happen in the future. Yes, it can be tough at times, especially when children come along, but you don't KNOW your children yet and what they'll be like.
Being a parent can be the most wonderful thing ever.
You needn't think of children yet, you'll have them if that's what you both want and if neither of you do, then you won't.
Before I had children I used to imagine having teenagers in my house, and I thought oooh I wouldn't want that....because I was imagining other people's teens or teens I'd see on the street, when they're your own.....soooo different.
Don't let what may or may not happen in the future run your life for you now.
2006-10-25 14:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, nothing you do or don't do will guarantee that things will always be "peachy". No one can predict the future with 100% accuracy, best we can do is make "educated guesses". If you and your b/f are both on the same page re. committment and family - then just go ahead and get married; try to make the best of it. Nothing's gonna come down from the sky to tell you "today is the right time". You have to learn to trust yourself in making these decisions.
2006-10-25 13:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this....don't get married. They have pre marital classes, and they are truly beneficial. You will learn things about one another that could cause problems later on in marriage. Most churches offer these classes. You shold look into it. BUT you should never go into a marriage asking this question: what if something goes wrong!
2006-10-25 13:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋