I can't stand my husband's brother... He is inconsiderate and he knows he can get over on my husband because my husband's too nice. His brother treats everyone like that...and gets away with it...His brother always asks my husband to take him places and never ever gives him gas money.My husband is too nice to ask..so I told him he can't take him around anymore...His brother also cursed me out because one time me and my husband were having a fight and he overheard it..and thought I was being mean to him... this was 3 years ago..and I have hated him ever since.. I don't know how to tell my husband to put his foot down with him..
2006-10-25 07:18:14 · 14 answers · asked by heart'sbreath 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless your brother in law is disrespecting you in anyway, this is really an issue between your husband and his brother.
Which it sounds like if his brother cussed you out then you have a case. Why did your husband not defend you? I see everyone elses response saying that the brother bond is thicker than yours. I don't believe that to be true. If his brother hit on you and tried to sleep with you do you honestly think that your husband would take your brothers side over yours? If this is the case, your marriage needs help.
With this being said, your husband needs to stand up for you. If he allows his brother to walk all over him, that's his choice, and unfortunately there's really nothing you can do about it. It's a choice he made, and it's something that you're gonna have to deal with. But when he starts disrespecting you, your hubby should nut up and take care of his woman. I know this is the kind of respect I demand from mine.
2006-10-25 07:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 02:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you asked for it.......
I agree that if your brother-in-law is being disrespectful to you, your husband should not allow that!! However, what your husband does for his brother is up to him. If he wants to help him out, he should do that. What you are basically saying is that you want your husband to be an a**, just like his brother. It is not up to you to tell your husband how to handle his brother. That is his responsibility. When and if he gets tired of it, he'll put his foot down.
2006-10-25 07:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut. Brothers have a bond that you just don't and won't understand. Eventually your husband will figure out that he's being used if he really is being used. If he treats you with blatent disrespect however, you need to let your husband know that he is disrespectful to you. I will caution you though that you should be very careful in what you say to your husband and putting your foot down won't work. Take it in stride and learn to deal with it. You don't have to like your brother in law, and he doesn't have to like you. However, you need to remember that he will ALWAYS be your husbands brother. Hope this helps!
2006-10-25 07:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has 3 brother's exactly like that. They all bum money, he gets them a job they won't show up, you know that story. He is younger than all of them. My husband is 54. It has been nothing but he!l. I am very helpful to people and don't mind helping out sometimes. But we have bills to pay of our own. He says he will take care of it, he calls them and cusses them out and they won't call for a week or two. His mother will call for the other brothers and bum for them. It will never stop it only gets worse. I have put up with it for 11 years and just yesterday I decided to move and get rid of the whole family. That crap about blood is thicker than water is a cop out. Remind him of that when he wants a piece of a$s. I have been to counseling and all that stuff. They told me not to put up with it.I am divorcing him and his family. Put your foot down. Your husband is a pus&y. A man needs to put HIS family first. Good luck to and I wish the best for you. Peace.
2006-10-25 07:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by Patty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is obvious that his behavior is unacceptable to you, but until it becomes unacceptable to your husband he will not be willing to say anything. Either you have to ignore him, leave when he is around or wait until your husband decides to change something if you are going to get thru this. You can't change anyone but yourself but you don't have to subject yourself to unacceptable behavior. Just make sure what you do doesn' t look like an ultimatum to your husband or that will your brother in law causing more chaos in your life without him even knowing it! Good Luck!
2006-10-25 07:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by DC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh ....... the old saying goes, "Your not just marrying him, your marrying his family." Don't feel bad, my mother-in-law is so bad even her own sons don't ever want to be around her. So naturally, ME being the only girl in the family gets stuck having to talk to her at gatherings because they all high tale out together. My best advice to you is to avoid the brother. This is your husband's family and he should be the one handling it and defending you like you said.
2006-10-25 07:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Outlaws....can't live with them; can't live without them. Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do about that. Now, if you're a praying woman, God can work it out for you. He is able to help you by shielding you from becoming aggravated over the situation. Outside of that, you run the risk of doing more harm than good. Trust me. I have alot of "outlaws", but, at the same time, I have peace in the "big" valley.
2006-10-25 15:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by arkedthecovenant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk with your husband about this because you should come first. He has to talk with his brother and get him to back off.
2006-10-25 08:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't
Blood is thicker than water. And it is brother blood on top of that.
You just need to let your husband alone about that one.
2006-10-25 07:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by raygun1993 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋