I was with my ex for almost 4 yrs,5 1/2 months ago we broke up completly without any contact ,he just started to contact me saying he loves and miss me alot and need me in his life.the thing is i care about him but the love is not commin back on my side...i would love to be with him but i cant trust him...wat should i do...he said the reason he didnt contact me sooner was because he was scared,he is on probation for a year coz i send him to jail for a previous incident....
2006-10-25 07:36:04 · 15 answers · asked by can u ♥ moi? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This has got to be one of the easiest questions I've seen here. You don't feel love for him, you can't trust him, and he's been on probation for something illegal he did to YOU. What a loser he is! I can't believe you're even asking this.
2006-10-25 07:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are built on trust. Trust is the foundation of your relationship. Building a relationship without the foundation of trust is like building a house on a foundation of sand. The house will always shake. You will never feel secure because you just don't know when the foundation will go. When people get desperate they start reaching out for anything they can get there hands on. They will say anything, do anything for their survival. He seems like he is loving you right now because he needs you. He needs you to be there for him and help him get on his feet. You are worth more than that. You don’t want to go back to someone because they are desperate. You had to put him behind bars once. Trust me, if you get back with him, you will have to do it again, if you survive the second go round. It seems to me that you have gone through a lot in your life. Having to fight. Now is the time for you to stop having to fight so hard for happiness. You might be thinking…’he is the only thing going for me right now as far as a relationship is concerned. We did have good times in the beginning. Maybe we can get that back.’ Hon, there is never any going back. We women have memories as long as elephants. When someone hurts you, I mean really hurts you, you cannot forget. You try to forgive, but you cannot forget. He must have hurt you very much for him to end up in jail. You will not be able to forget. Part of you will always flinch when he walks by. Part of you will always be in jail yourself when you are in a relationship with him. He is going to send your emotions on never ending highs and lows. You are worth more than that. You are worth all things good. I bet you have been there for him like no other; however he still caused you to have to protect yourself by sending him to jail. I bet even that tore at your heart. Tell him to go with God, but go. The best place for you to be looking at him is from your rear view mirror. May God bless you and keep you whole my friend.
2006-10-25 10:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to sugar cote it for you... move on why do you want to be with someone you can't trust if you don't have trust really what have you got? .....nothing.... you need it in order for other things to fall into place.
This guy probably just figured out that you were the best thing that ever happened to him the question is was his presence in your life positive or negative if you can think of more negative than positive your choice will clearly become obvious.
good luck.
2006-10-25 07:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by agata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what he is coming back to kill you
Girl don't take the man back in fact cut off all contact move away
you have taken away (at least that is how he will look at it man never take responsibily for thieir fault) a year of his life
and you don't know what happen to him while he was in jail
if you go back with him we will be hearing about you in the news
2006-10-25 07:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and definately no . If you have already sent him to jail once what makes you think he might not be seeking revenge against you to do you harm. Did you think about that? Leave him alone and change your phone # and also get a restraining order. he sounds like he is dangerous. I would be very carefull if I were you. Well good luck and god bless.
2006-10-25 07:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to be with you if you sent him to jail? If he is the type of person who goes to jail, why would you want to be with him? This relationship is bad news. You cannot start a relationship where trust is already a major problem.
2006-10-25 07:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds more like you used to him not in love with him.its a big difference between the two of them!just remember if he did something ones he is going to keep doing it. you cant teach an old dog new tricks!
2006-10-25 07:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by KARLA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. The relationship will never be the same. You said it yourself the love isn't there anymore and you don't TRUST HIM!
2006-10-25 08:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your distance and tell him you just can't do it. He's an ex for a reason. Remember it and end all contact.
2006-10-25 07:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to get back with you because you are the easiest thing going.
2006-10-25 07:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋