I dont want to go to my daughters wedding but if I dont she would be hurt. I love her but dont like her guy!! He is too cocky!!!
2006-10-25 07:24:13 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to your daughters wedding, smile lots and let her know how much you love her. At the end of the day it's her life and she must live it as she chooses and with whom she chooses. If you don't go to her wedding you risk losing her, and any future grandchildren - is that what you really want? Maybe you need to get to know your future son-in-law better? If he is cocky I wouldn't worry too much. That's usually a sign of immaturity and insecurity. If that's the case with him, (a) he'll grow up eventually and (b) getting married to the girl of his dreams will make him feel more secure.
Don't do something you'll regret later on, lol.
2006-10-25 19:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sue S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have no "true" say so in who your daughter marries you have only 3 choices.
1. Tell exactly what you've said here. This will surely do nothing but turn her away from you and further into his arms.
2. Suck it up and keep your mouth shut. This will do nothing but make you bitter inside and whether you intend to or not your feelings will be noticed as time goes on. Again driving a wedge between you and her.
3. Tell her that while you don't think that she's got the perfect man, that you have faith in her and trust that she is able to be strong enough to face the challenges of marriage. Then tell her that you love her and there will never be a time when she can't count on you to be there for her. Don't miss the most important day of your daughter's life ('til now) because of your distaste for her choice in a husband.
P.S. I was a cocky, selfish piece of crap when I married my wife. Guys who love their woman can and will change as the get older
2006-10-25 07:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you want your daughter to stay in your life KEEP QUIET!!! So what you don't like the man she chose to marry I'ts not about you! What you can do is support her and if ever anything goes wrong be there for her and not with a bunch of I TOLD YOU SO's. This is apparently her choice accept it. You really have not given a good reason as to why she should not marry him. Is he on drugs? Does he beat her? Is he a womanizer? If not stay out of it! If you don't go to the wedding your daughter is going to be upset with you!!
Good luck!
My mother in law hated me on sight! She never hesitated to drive a wedge between my husband and me. She never even offered me a glass of water! I never said anything ugly or mean to her. I was always polite to her and I think that made it worse. I refuse to treat my daughter in law the way I was treated because this is my son's choice and I raised him right. I also respect his decision.
2006-10-25 07:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lanita H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that it is hard to speak up in these situations. You could be saving your daughter a lot of heartache though. I have had some troubles in my marriage and the web at marriagebuilder.com is very helpful even for thoughts not yet married give it a look with your daughter. Let her know that you are concerned and this sight will help he see her fiancee in the proper light. It is never too late to walk away from something that will end badly anyway. Marriage is for life so taking the proper time to look into your compatibility is so important. Best to you
2006-10-25 07:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Marlene S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you truly love your daughter then you'd go for her sake. You have to realise that she's a grown woman who has to be respected for the choices she makes no matter how much you dislike them. All you can do is look our for her just in case her choices were wrong and be there to catch her if she falls. Who knows, the guy might be cocky to everyone else but may provide her with a truly beautiful marriage life.
2006-10-25 07:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by Stormbringer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
enable's think of, you're cheating and mendacity. you think of your husband is controlling? can not think of of something greater controlling than having affairs (particular, you let us know you had greater desirable than one). recover from your self, wreck up ties with the boyfriend, flow out of the 'creature convenience' abode and locate out what you may do next. You did no longer say which you had toddlers, yet anticipate the 'sadistic' husband to choose for custody based on your philandering. Be honest with your self or some years from now you would be asserting precisely the comparable element with reference to the boyfriend you're at the instant asserting with reference to the husband. i'm no longer attempting to be merciless, i'm attempting to hold up a replicate for you formerly the craziness is going any extra.
2016-10-16 09:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by ashworth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to tell your daughter how I felt, in a loving way of course, that I was not agreeable with her choice of men, but that no matter what choice she made I would still love her and support her, and by all means go to the wedding and enjoy yourself. Hopefully it will work out!!!!
2006-10-25 07:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by magpie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one. First of all, don't miss the wedding. Secondly, I don't pick my daughter's boyfriends, and I don't always like her choices. I do always let her know how I feel. If the guy is a dope head or a drunk or abusive, you must try to help her to not live the life that will bring her. If you just have a personallity conflict, kill him with your kindness.
2006-10-25 07:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by mudcat_mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My gran disapproved of my mum's marriage because my dad wasn't a catholic, and it wasn't in a church! So I know what situation you are in. She went to the wedding (bedrugingly) at a civic centre and destroyed the photos.
When I asked at the age of 6 where my mum and dad's wedding photos were, that was the answer. If only we could only get on more....
2006-10-25 10:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Swallow it. Keep quiet. Let her make her own mistake, if mistake is what it is. He might be a cocky b**tard, but perhaps he makes her happy. I know a woman who disapproved of her daughter's husband and was very vocal about it - now her daughter has totally cut her whole family out of her life, never sees them, never lets them visit their baby granddaughter, and it's a killer situation. Love your daughter unconditionally, never cut the lines of communication, let her come back to you, no questions asked, if the marriage doesn't work, and if it does work, be happy for her.
2006-10-25 07:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋