No-fault divorce should be abolished!...opinions?

Question

Why is no-fault divorce allowed? This is what allows poor morals and values. People need to understand that they are stepping into a LONG TERM commitment and there is no easy way out. Divorce should've stayed as At-fault, where the person filling for the divorce had to prove some sort of infidelity or abuse, etc. No-fault divorces have hurt our society and our children.

What are your opinions on this matter?

Wow, stating that I'm not living in this current time really proves your points. Come on now, we are all adults...I hope.

Answer 1

I know I'll be in the (unpopular) minority because I'm NOT LIBERAL (AND PROUD OF IT!) but I absolutely agree!!!! We're not talking about ALL divorces, just no fault ones. There is always a fault. Come on, people, you made a VOW (need a definition?) that said "for as long as you both shall live," not "until you feel like moving on because you've become a different person." Doesn't that mean anything??? Does your word mean anything? And what kind of example are you setting for your kids? To walk away when it gets tough? If you don't mean "forever" then don't get married...just live together. Then you can split up whenever you want and over anything you want. Until then, keep divorces to these reasons: adultery (yes, it still is a bad, if not uncommon, thing), abuse, and addiction. Everything else should be resolved.

And, regarding the kids...who on earth would take them to the court proceedings??? Why is everyone talking about how bad it would be for the kids to know all the lurid details? They shouldn't know them no matter what kind of divorce someone gets.

And thanks for asking something that actually evokes thought and discussion. To those answering: let's remember to be adult and respect when someone thinks differently than you do---it isn't necessary to insult him/her. And read a little closer...she didn't say ALL divorce should be banned---just the no fault type.

Answer 2

Sometimes it is impossible to prove the abuse or infidelity, and sometimes it is better for the children to have a no fault divorce than to hear daddy beat mommy, or mommy was a whore. Not too mention that the courts would be clogged up even more than they allready are because every divorce would take a year to settle. and most people then could not even afford to get a divorce, thus punishing the poor! Really it is none of your business or none of mine why people get a divorce, it is just another example of government butting into something they have no business deciding, it should not be up to the government if I can get a divorce or not, I mean really, what would the world be like if you where forced to stay married to someone, that would be like imprisonment!

Answer 3

There are the rare cases when this should be allowed.... should we teach our children that terminating a relationship means they get "beat"up by the lawyers.... I am not saying that I agree - I am married, and have been for 11 years, and never plan on getting a divorce..... but in some cases let them end as friends who made a mistake (especially if there are no children involved) - but don't make it cheap or really quick - they need to weigh all the options. Of coarse - it is so easy to get married without any thought to the action also - this too needs to be addressed...........

Answer 4

Personal freedom comes at a price. Yes, people need to be more responsible when it comes to marriage, but making an amicable divorce impossible will not solve the problem anymore than banning the use of cars will solve the problem of saving the environment. I think, better moral education is the answer, not prohibitions and restrictions.

Answer 5

I'm going through a no-fault divorce right now. My "husband" is in the military and we married less than a year ago. I didn't realize until after the I do's that he had some serious problems that only became worse when he was sent to Iraq and returned from Iraq injured. Since then he's decided he doesn't want to be married and has put me through hell just to make his point. Now he's depressed and i'm ready to move on. I'm not interested in placing blame, just moving on with my life and bettering myself. Believe me, this is the mild version of what has happend in our short lived relationship and I have very strong opinions on family and commitment, but my point is, a no fault divorce is the quickest and cheapest way to go right now. We have no assets, no children, no ties. I haven't seen him since January and we don't talk. Basically, he abandoned me. I want nothing from him but the removal of his last name from mine as soon as possible.

Answer 6

Can't agree with you more, and I would add divorce of any kind has degraded our societies values. There are indeed genuinely bad marriages which have to end however, so many couples give up too soon, leaving a trail of broken hearts, kids included :(

Answer 7

I disagree. Sometimes the other person will do a complete 180 on you.

MARRIAGE SHOULD BE HARDER TO ATTAIN...not the divorce.

Why should someone stay in a bad marriage? That hurts the kids too.

Divorce doesn't have poor morals and values--PEOPLE DO.

Answer 8

actually i disagree with you. if there are children involved in a no-fault marriage to divorce it does not fall under no-fault, it falls under family & children and that falls under another kind of divorce. florida is a no-fault state. one of a few of them. in other words, it is no-fault which parties decides to divorced the other one.for whatever reason the marriage did not work out.
nobody fault. it happens. are there too many divorced in the states. yes.
should they be stopped . no/
at least we live in a country where we can get divorced instead of staying with someone who will cheat, beat, possess and violate their authority in a relationship.
alot of other countries dont allowed the women to get divorced , just the men.
there are many others way we screwing up society, dont blame divorces on them.
and children as long as they are loved and cared for and are not used as a ball in a match of his said/ she said then they will grow up well.
now dead beat dads just be gastrated. but that is another subject all together.

Answer 9

I know of someone who has been married for 20 years and are currently going through a divorce!!
-Not because of any form of adultery or abuse etc they have simply just grew apart!!
They are both happy with separating and have explained it to their children thoroughly and they accept what is going on!
Why should u stay together if u don't belong together?
I'd choose my happiness!!

Answer 10

DEisagree...wife had 3 affairs...we did a no fault...what would it have accomplished to make me prove her infidelity except drag it out and for the kids to know all the lurid details.....