Marriage & Divorce - 25 October 2006

Was married to a spendthirft in a comunity property state. She's in jail and was on the run for 3 months before I could get her to sign the divorce papers. My car had been repo'd. I live with a friend. The creditors won't stop calling. I a working 60 hours a week but can't seem to get ahead. Total bills she racked up that I know about: $50-55k. I just want to get a fresh start and move out of this state and begin my life again, but don't want to shirk responsibility. Once more, I just got out of the hospital and have no insurance. Thought about suicide but I know I've got to face this. I used to have such great credit. Now I eat 3 days a week at the most. I don't know what else to do...

2006-10-25 20:09:56 · 16 answers · asked by amsalak21 1

As part of my divorce procedding, I am required to provide for my child Alimony till he is 21. A PPO was taken against when I was accused of abusing my X spouse before the divorce proceeding in 1997. The divorce was made absolute in 1997.We have no contact what so ever since 1997 till now. My alimony paid through the Registrar subordinate courts of Singapore.

2006-10-25 20:08:02 · 6 answers · asked by joesky 1

I met my fiance 4 months ago. We started dating about 2 1/2 months ago.. He asked me to marry him but i am worried it might be to soon.. I know that i feel that i love him but we do have one bog problem with our relationship. OUR RELIGION he is very devoted morman and i am not any specific religion i believe just never to one specific. his family doesnt suport our plans of marrriage because i am not there religion. and my mom thinks its to soon.. we found out that i am preganant and we think that since we love eachother we should be married and bring the baby into the world as a family.. But i am concerned about the time frame and if its too soon to marry someone and hope for a life long marraige .....

2006-10-25 19:56:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you do when your first true love chose someone else out of a stupid mistake and has been begging for forgiveness for 7 years and you know you love them and they love you ack. You know that you are supposed to be with this person but now you are in a relationship, you love the person you are with but dont fell that you are in love with them? I love my first love and my fiance but my first loved wants to get married and so does my fiance, but I still love my first love and I feel that I am not in love with my fiance. Should I leave my fiance for my true love or should I stay b/c I made a commitment and I could possibly regret leaving????? Please help me. I know I want to be with my true love but I am afraid of making the wrong decision.

2006-10-25 19:55:45 · 13 answers · asked by Southern Girl 3

My husband has a female friend at work that would gladly step into my shoes. He's even said so and in the same breath tells me not to worry, he knows she's someone he needs to steer clear of. She constantly sends him emails, calling him honey and signing them "love you". He denies receiving these emails, denies speaking with her on a regular basis and simply avoides the subject of her in general, yet I know they communicate regularly. I've told him I'm bothered by this and that he is not telling me the complete truth and it makes me insecure and ruins 25 years of trust. How can I get my point across to him that she needs to be out of the picture all together since she is damaging our relationship! Its not the female part (he has other female friends that aren't psycho) - its the infatuation she has with him. Am I just over reacting? Do all guys have little email/phone female friends on the side?

2006-10-25 19:43:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I regret so many things. Most of all, I regret ever trusting my wife. I was over her when she sucked me back into her web. Then, I find out she cheated on me. I was OVER HER. Now, seven years later, after I've been eating leftovers, I look like a complete fool in front of everyone, the whole time mind you, and I'm still here. I stay because I've been eating leftovers for years. But how do I get over the humiliation of eating leftovers?

2006-10-25 19:41:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

we've been dating for 3 years(with a baby) but no sign of a ring, what should I do?

2006-10-25 19:32:39 · 18 answers · asked by cece 2

Let me start by saying I have been married for a few months and I see that marriage is definitely not the easiest thing to work on, but I believe, like other things that are tough in life, they payoff it worth it. I believe this is a positive attitude and I can approach things like work with logic and reason, but sometime things just don’t seem clear to me.

I keep on getting the statement “You do not understand what I am trying to tell you.” When I do understand what she says, but I don’t necessarily agree with what she has to say. Of course I try to say that but it does not seem to translate. When we argue she gets aggressive and I get “meek” and fall apart. I have never been an expressive person.

We have ended up arguing about the same issues to my surprise after I “though” we had agreed so a solution. Then when I bring up the solution we discussed, it’s as if we never discussed it. What am I doing wrong?

2006-10-25 19:26:06 · 9 answers · asked by Jimmy 1

how many days does the law require you to run an ad in the newspaper when you are filing for a divorce and your spouse is missing or cannot be located!?

2006-10-25 19:23:09 · 7 answers · asked by snaggles 2

been married for 12 years thinking about leaving it but i forgot what the single life was like?

2006-10-25 19:13:41 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married but I don't want to be. He has cheated on me many times and is abusive verbally and mentally. It might even proceed to phyical I want to get a divorce but he is fighting me as long as possible just to make my life a living hell. we are both on the lease of our apartment and he refuses to leave. We have a 6 month old daughter together and I want to know if I need his permission to move her out to another place in the same city in Florida. if anyone has any advice on how to get out of this or anything please help.

2006-10-25 19:09:32 · 13 answers · asked by canad420 1

he is an excellent provider for my 2 daughters and myself. i love him with all my heart but he is just not as affectionate as i would like him to be. it sometimes makes me question whether he is really in love with me or not. what should i do?

2006-10-25 19:05:19 · 26 answers · asked by tina 1

if so what's your story and how do i make myself change my feeling's for him for my daughter's sake?please help i'm afraid to move on

2006-10-25 18:57:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-25 18:45:12 · 10 answers · asked by sueflower 6

my sister was going to get married, he gave her an engagment ring that was about $2,000. now hes not rich. then they grow apart and they broke up. now my question is should she give it back. i have asked this quistion to my freinds and there are two sides: the men and the woman. the men: give it back. if your not going to get married to him then he deserves the ring back. the woman: it was a gift. now i dont understand that reasoning. to me thats like giving someone $100 to help me paint and they agree and then they say im not helping you and saying the $100 was a gift

2006-10-25 18:42:44 · 17 answers · asked by marathoncook 2

it is all driving me crazy i cry i get angry- i miss him i just want him to come home,i dont want a divorce

2006-10-25 18:35:29 · 12 answers · asked by kdkc06 1

your wife or girlfriend is shaved smooth or naturally fuzzy?

Do you care if she shaves her legs or not, too?

2006-10-25 18:30:58 · 17 answers · asked by Ade 6

Love the man I married. We were fine for the first couple of years, then we got pregnant, had a baby, and got a large inheritance. He used it to get hooked on Oxycontin (he had previously been an opiate addict, been to rehab 6 times before we met, didn't use it when we were together until he got hooked). He went to rehab in April, spent his 30th birthday there, and he has relapsed about 7 times since then. He says he's trying, but I have to drug test him each week and he denies everything until I have perfect proof. I love him, we have a daughter, I don't want to give up on him. Anyone else been married to an addict? Is it worth staying? Do they change? Can they?

2006-10-25 18:29:53 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

your wife or girlfriend tells you what she wants or likes in bed? Because, I can't speak for all women but, it's terrifying to think of actually saying or showing him that stuff. Or is it being too pushy?

2006-10-25 18:28:45 · 20 answers · asked by Ade 6

All of my Ex-Boyfriends had cheated on me and now I cant trust anyone. And the hard thing is I can't trust my husband either and we have been married for a year. I have a problem with trust because of my past. I do love my husband ! But I just feel that he will cheat on me just like everyone else I have been with has . I feel that I am not beautiful to him anymore. Even though he calls me beautiful everyday. I don't understand why I think so much about him cheating it's just something of the past. Any thoughts on what I should do to help myself get better? Thanks !!

2006-10-25 18:14:15 · 10 answers · asked by jess 1

It wall started over a male friend I was talking to at the carnival while i was with my husband for a month.some one started a rumor that me and this friend was having sexual talk and had a affair and none of it was true.So, when he said he was not coming home and still needed to get his head straighten out that i could blame my friend for our break up in which nothing ever happened but talking and to keep in contact with my husband while he ws on the carnival,this so called friend i know also told other co-workers that he was going to take or split my husband up well know i feel he suceeded in doing it.I reget some things that have happened in when I left him first time and was a guy i was seeeing,he took me back then the past when we have been married but we had already started over and one time this year i filed for a divorce but before the 21 days were up i went to settle things and work things out and ended up spending a month an half out with him working on carn?he has no fault

2006-10-25 18:13:53 · 6 answers · asked by kdkc06 1

2006-10-25 18:00:30 · 5 answers · asked by soundra s 1

My 21-year-old son just returned home to live after being "away" for about 9 months. We have one computer and it's in our bedroom. My husband (not my son's father) blew up about my son using the computer, says he doesn't want him in "his" bedroom or on the computer at all, ever. I asked him to compromise; my son will only be on it when he's gone, so he'll never know. He said he won't compromise, and has been mad and won't talk to me every since then -- 4 days ago! I think there's more going on here than the computer. My son has been in trouble a lot in the past, and my husband knows about some of it, but he has been nothing but polite with my husband and has changed his life since his return. I should mention my husband is from Nigeria, and they have a very strict view (including beating) of raising kids; I am more liberal. I think he's overreacting. Any comments?

2006-10-25 17:57:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sons buddy met a girl 3 years ago who was 7 months pregnent, the biological dad was at the time incarcerated. He felt he was in love and married the girl a few weeks before she was to give birth...she asked him to put his name on the birth certificate so that baby would grow up with his name and he agreed to do this. 2 months after the baby was born he found out that she was keeping contact with her ex (babys real dad) so he devorced her. She resumed her relationship with the real dad after he was released from prison, and is still with him. He recieved a letter from the friend of the court saying he needed to pay child support, including all back support for this child. He requested a perternity test, but the judge said the perternity is not in question, it doesnt matter because the name on the birth certificate is all that counts. So the real dad and mom are laughing all the way to the bank...he doesnt even get visitation rights...a legal scam?

2006-10-25 17:54:20 · 13 answers · asked by catywhumpass 5

Friends i am getting married on 2 nd novemeber, I am 23 yrs old girl, starting a new family relationship.. so i need your special prayers for this sister, when i start a relationship what all things i have to notice? how to maintian a good relationship with in laws? I am an indian from kerala, so a malayalee girl.. traditional and religious family back ground....


I am really nervous and excited

2006-10-25 17:49:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

He likes to do yard work and wood work and likes to work on vehicles. He likes to buy things himself since half the time he doesn't like what I get him or feels guilty that I spent money on him.

2006-10-25 17:39:38 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2

says to his aunt that he does not want to be with me anymore but he still loves me and cares about me but says he still trying to get his head straighten out,-what do i do ??

2006-10-25 17:37:06 · 30 answers · asked by kdkc06 1

i mean really, they all talk about cheating, sexless marriages, wifes become bitches and husbands because assholes... aghh!!! WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD MARRIAGES? is this what i should expect from mine..?? cause if it is, id rather stay single

2006-10-25 17:32:58 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-25 17:26:32 · 7 answers · asked by shyprincess 1

he is 44 and i want to have sex or should i say oral sex but by 10 at night he is fast asleep and it is really ruining our relationship and he has no idea its to that point....and have thinking of what he dont know wont hurt him and am wondering if maybe he is straying????

2006-10-25 17:23:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous