been married for 12 years thinking about leaving it but i forgot what the single life was like?
2006-10-25 19:13:41 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being single is great but remember there won't be dates every night, and probably not even every Saturday night. After a while for being single, after you really understand yourself, it's nice to share with someone.
Being married but lonely is even worst. Don't leave without understand what your reason is. And not just because it is boring.
2006-10-25 20:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 12yrs before i finally left i loved the single life done that for 4 yrs until i meet the right guy been married now for 7months but i can deferentially say i miss the single life occasionally .just depends on the person are you ready to be single again and then look for another in a couple of years or just stay single for quite awhile?
2006-10-25 19:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by rachaddington 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single life rocks! I mean, it's obviously going to be tough for someone who's been married for 12 years to really get back into the flow of things, but if you decided to divorce, then just know that being single is great! *smiles*
2006-10-25 19:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your situation is. If you aren't happy in your marriage then I guess for you it would be single right now. At least until you find the one you will be happy with. Me on th eother hand sometimes I do think about leaving, but my husband and I do LOVE each other so married is is better. I know I have somone who Loves me to come home and that comes home to me everyday. But, if you are not happy then you need to leave and find some one you will be happy with.
2006-10-25 19:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by no.#1 Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its not all its cracked up to be.....and it gets lonley. But, on the other hand, I don't have to cater to anyone, or worry about what they think. I don't have to do their laundry, and I can walk around naked if I want. But the lonleyness sucks at times. But then you can go out and do what you want....Its hard to say. In my case the married life sucked because it was a bad situation. Life is too short to suffer. The other good thing about the married thing is the whole double income part!
2006-10-25 19:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want to leave u have to prepare yourself for some lonely time. sure i had lots of dates during one year i was single and i travelled a lot, but there re 365 days in a year and as many nights, so u can't have dates for all of those. also a new man is like gambling - too many chances he is a sh'i't't'y man. so i don't know, for me i grabbed the first most perfect one - at least i m finanshially secure and he is with me all the time to share my life. of course it may be boring. but so single life too - when u don't have a date for too long, or when all your friends re busy with their lives and spouses or when u have a bad man and he hurts u emotionally. so i say 50-50
2006-10-25 19:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I heard some dime store logic the other day.
"Happiness is not a destination but a mode of travel"
My relationship has been a roller coaster but even when we are not getting along I think I am pretty happy.
If you think being single would be the "destination happy"
you are probably wrong. The perfect mate is not going to "make you happy" you have to make your self happy.
Now is your relationship "bad" enough to leave, is your decision.
2006-10-25 19:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you leave make sure it is for the right reasons. Single life is ok but when you have been with one person for so long it will be hard to start all over by yourself.
2006-10-25 19:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by krazy4_coke2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married person has a better half to fall back, when there is a set back, singles will be lonely, sometimes they cant even share their problem with their friends.
2006-10-25 19:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to be single than unhappily married. But an OK marriage is better than a lonely single life.
2006-10-25 19:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋