I met my fiance 4 months ago. We started dating about 2 1/2 months ago.. He asked me to marry him but i am worried it might be to soon.. I know that i feel that i love him but we do have one bog problem with our relationship. OUR RELIGION he is very devoted morman and i am not any specific religion i believe just never to one specific. his family doesnt suport our plans of marrriage because i am not there religion. and my mom thinks its to soon.. we found out that i am preganant and we think that since we love eachother we should be married and bring the baby into the world as a family.. But i am concerned about the time frame and if its too soon to marry someone and hope for a life long marraige .....
2006-10-25 19:56:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's the hurry? If you 2 truly are marriage material, what's another 6 months or year really gonna matter? I'd wait - every relationship starts out great. It's a lot easier to break up with someone than to go through a divorce. Give it some time.
2006-10-25 20:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by goodtimeskaraokecompany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I understand that you would like to have a baby in wed-luck and to have that baby to come into the world into a family. Yes, live the American dream but honey, it isn't going to last if that is the most important reason or the only reason that you guys are going to jump the broom. Look, marriage a big commitment I must admit that it is very serious as well. If you guys love one another and you undertsand each other enough so that it is liveable then go right ahead. It is a proven fact that everyone has a fault and no one is perfect but its if you could live with that fault and if he can live with yours. If all what I have said is exactly what your realtionship is as in accepting faults, trusting each other, loving each other, haveing some sort of understanding which goes hand in hand with compromise then good luck to you on your wedding day. He is the right one for you. If not then you need some more time to think this through. I think that you guys could come to some sort of decision on the religion thing because when you die God isn't going to ask you which church you went to or what was your religion. At the end he is going to judge you just as any other of his children we all worship the same God just in many different ways. Go to his church and let him come to yours. Don't make some thing so silly that God doesn't even care about come between you two and his family should mind their own business and live their own lives. Good luck with your decisons
2006-10-26 04:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry now you are going to have a very messy divorce in a few years. You are still in the lusty part of the relationship, you don't love him yet. The religion is going to be a big issue, especially with kids. At least have some premarital counseling and see what comes out of that. Maybe you are meant for each other, but I think it's too soon to tell.
2006-10-26 03:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TOO SOON! What's the rush, going somewhere tomorrow?
What religion is the baby going to? Work out all these issues. If you insist, at least get engaged maybe at the 6 month mark and wear a ring for another 6 months before getting married.
2006-10-26 03:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know for sure, but it seems that if you knew for sure, you wouldn't have doubts enough to post a question. I would say don't do it, yet. It seems like you would have fewer p[roblems if not for religion, which you put in all caps. It's going to be stressful having a kid, so it would be nice to have the support of your families. Either way, you have a life-long relationship because of the kid. I would talk to someone I trust and get as many opinions as you can. Marriage isn't something to enter lightly. The stress of marriage plus a baby might be too much. I don't have a good answer, but only good thoughts. Be good to yourself.
2006-10-26 03:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by amsalak21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day if you love eachother then does it really matter when you get married! It would be nice to bring the baby into the world where its parents are married, The religion part really doesnt matter, why do you need to be the same as your partner! You be what you wanna be! It doesnt matter!
I think you should do whatever your heart tells you to!
He clearly loves you :-)
Goodluck
2006-10-26 03:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by kirsty m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is soon, but if you want to be married becasue of the baby then do it. I would worry about the religion thing, Mormons are very devoted. If he is that devoted, why did he have sex before marriage.
You will have to make this judgment call. A marriage idealy is a life time commitment.
2006-10-26 04:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter, soon or not, you have to give your baby a fighting chance with both parents, so marry. Of course it is too soon, but you didn't obviously think about that in bed with him, so buck up, get mature and do the right thing.
2006-10-26 07:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he's right...Y hurry to get marry?
it seems that both of u get marry bcuz of the unborn baby...
If u n ur fiance r prepare to b parents n u feel that u will be happy marrying to him, then go ahead....then y worried? I thought that marry to some1 u love is a happy matter, then y u get worried? That means u have doubts in this marriage...Clear ur doubts, think carefully and then accept it with happiest,there's no standard or a "BEST" period to do so....Marriage is a lifetime...
2006-10-26 03:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by ?? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time does'nt matter in true love, it increases more and more with time. if you both love each other & can hold the responsibility of your child then don't hesitate then go for it . if u both will be happy then ur family will not raise any problem after some time but you both have to compromise for some time till ur finace's family accepts you
2006-10-26 04:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋