says to his aunt that he does not want to be with me anymore but he still loves me and cares about me but says he still trying to get his head straighten out,-what do i do ??
2006-10-25 17:37:06 · 30 answers · asked by kdkc06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him his space... if he's left u then its for a reason, let him get his head straight otherwise if u push him for answers he may be irrational and tell you something u may not want to hear. So Let him Be for the moment, and when the time comes he will come around and talk to you about things.. just dont wait around for him for too long... Cos no one needs one year to decide on things!
2006-10-25 17:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Elena 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a clue, from your previous questions you state you served him divorce papers 3 mos ago when you were seeing some one else.
That action was the right one.
He is a Gypsy and is still just playing like Peter Pan. You know never grow up.
His relationship with you is the same thing, just a whim.
Whether he says he wants a relationship or not, he is incapable of maintaining one. Find an adult to have a relationship with instead of a little boy.
Don't be sad, get mad, that he couldn't even make it home for your anniversary. I am sure he can talk some real sweet stuff but talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-10-26 01:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not supposed to be something tried on a trial basis, so to flippantly mention divorce is irresponsible.
Find out why he wants out. Is he young and freaked out? Do you crab at him all the time? Is there another woman (or dude)? If he's screwing around then get rid of him.
How do you know his aunt is telling the truth?
2006-10-26 00:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by dwg1998red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the circumstances and you have not provided enough for any of us to give you good advice. The very best I could say would be to go to counseling at this point...if he will agree. If nothing works and you can't get him back, then move on with your life. If you are including everything there is to say, then he isn't that into you. There is a book by that title...He isn't that into you. Get it, read it, then adjust your life accordingly. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-26 02:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sweetie, I'm so sorry! It sounds like your husband has abandoned both you and your marriage. He can't actually expect you to stick around indefinately while he is out getting his "head straight". What I would do is call this Aunt of his and tell her that she needs to get in contact with him and tell him that you really want to talk and find out what is going on, that you love him and care about him, but that if you don't hear from him in one week, you are filing for divorce.
2006-10-26 00:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you can go to counseling together or you will file for divorce. Give him 1 week to decide. You need to have a lot of self respect. You deserve to be with someone that wants to be with you. Don't settle for anything less. Give him the ultimatum though. It's a tough thing to do. Good Luck. Don't waist your life away, do something asap.
2006-10-26 00:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, there is no nice way to put this... he's abandoned you. That's probably not something you want to hear but, at this point, it pretty much a fact. You need to start thinking about yourself now. The situation is bad enough as it is but, are there children in this equation? Put yourself (and your children if you have them) first. If he does decide to come back, I would suggest going through serious counseling before you decide to let him back or not. I'm not going to tell you to take him back or leave him -- that's up to you. Just search your heart... I wish you the best!
2006-10-26 00:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by legalstudent25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need both to set down and talk this out if you cant and children are involved you.2. need to tale them into coderation. after all many people can straighten things out if not time to get on with your lives in a seperate direction and as i stated dont forget both are parents if children are involved. good luck on this matter ?
2006-10-26 00:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has probably been unfaithful. Move on...take control of your life and don't waste it waiting around on that scum bag. There are plently of great single men in the world. Find a good one this time around. Good luck sweetie! Hope it gets better for you.
2006-10-26 00:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read the writing on the wall honey, the man doesn't have the guts to be straight with you. File for divorce.
2006-10-26 00:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by odandme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋