we've been dating for 3 years(with a baby) but no sign of a ring, what should I do?
2006-10-25 19:32:39 · 18 answers · asked by cece 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he really told u that he wanted to marry u.. it means that he really do.. just give him some times to prove it that he will..
maybe he is having some difficulties rite now.....
2006-10-25 19:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by bLuR.? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys either don't think the ring is important or can't afford one, so I'm not sure the issue is whether there's a ring. Maybe its more whether there is a date.
Is he being pressured into saying he wants to get married? Is he getting the feeling that's what you want and that saying that is what it will take to keep you happy?
You have a baby already, which means that already you and the boyfriend have skipped the traditional thing of the engagement, the ring, the bridal shower, the wedding, and the the starting of a family. It may not have occurred to him that you'd want something traditional like a ring - that's another possibility. People who have babies without being married aren't generally sticklers for tradition because if they were they would have done things differently.
I think you have to ask how much time you're willing to put in waiting to see where your relationship goes. If he's happy with things as they are he may not want to ever get married. If you can be ok with things as they are for another while, then go with it. If you feel you're wasting your time, then call it quits.
A very common thing that goes on when the situation is what your and his is is that for some reason the young woman ends up having a second baby rather than getting a ring. It seems to have something to do with the couple's talking about who wants what and when, arguing, making up, making concessions, etc. - and voila, something new and exciting for the relationship (Baby Number Two).
2006-10-26 02:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your same situation about 3 to 4 years ago, and like one other said is he husband material? Does he work, is he good to you, ever cheated? Ask you self things like that you have to be honest with yourself because if he's just saying these things to keep you around and keep control he's not going to be. It seems like he has a commitment problem. I'll tell you this mine never came through with a ring now I have a 3 and 4 year old and I love being a single mom!! It's not as bad as it seems. Maybe you need to get to know yourself more before you get married. Either way it goes I wish you and your child the best of luck!!
2006-10-26 02:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by ha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding ring is just a "thing" and doesn't mean anything until a priest, a justice of the peace or a reverend says "I now pronounce you man and wife."
Don't be materialistic, marriage is about love and union between two people that want to spend the rest of thier lives with each other. I'm married with or without a ring, the ring doesn't change the way I feel about my wife.
2006-10-26 02:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing ,you can't really do anything ...you can suggest about marriage but only you will give an impression that you're pressuring him to marry you especially that you guys already have a kid.I know it sucks because it feels like your relationship is not going anywhere and that you're stucked in a rut.Change is always good they say ...try to change a little bit in the house make him wants you more ...cook for him and all that stuff..maybe that he will realize that he can't live without you ..it's a tough world out there.Good luck!
2006-10-26 02:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by charlen24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation that you are in me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years we have a 17 month old child but no ring...he did give me a promise ring but i mean no full commitment i am waiting... so i dont' know what you should do maybe talk to him about it.. maybe something is holding him back or something but anywaz with all of that said good luck
2006-10-26 02:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by kris_robinson_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he waiting for???? Does he have all he wants and thinks why should he doing anything more if he doesn't have to??? Is he employed and husband material??? If not = and you have different goals - move on- or out- that should get his attention- baby and all you have waited too long= D
2006-10-26 02:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just deal with it. Aw, isn't that sweet? I guess you had better keep on dreaming, because why does he need to get married for? You've put yourself in this bind knowingly, so it's no sense holding out for more.
2006-10-26 07:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hint to him again and again. Man are alway putting up show that you may forget of the ring.Do take care of yourself & lovely baby.
2006-10-26 03:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to marry you. It's what my mom did a million years ago.
2006-10-26 02:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by ntm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋