Im getting married and im REALLY excited, but all the questions & answers here on yahoo really disapoint me..?

Question

i mean really, they all talk about cheating, sexless marriages, wifes become bitches and husbands because assholes... aghh!!! WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD MARRIAGES? is this what i should expect from mine..?? cause if it is, id rather stay single

Answer 1

Marriage fits the old saying... You get out of what you put into it.

Work on it and it can be wonderful. Ignore it and it will bite you in the butt.

Answer 2

I have been married for 9 1/2 years now, and we were engaged for 5 years prior to our marriage. I am very happily married, I love my wife and always have. I can honestly say that I wouldn't want anyone other than my wife by my side for the rest of my life.

I can also honestly say that there were many ups and downs. Several near divorces, and some infidelity. We both did a lot of hurtful and stupid things to each other, and went through many dark times.

If you are human you are bound to make mistakes. If you are close with someone, you are bound to betray them and they are bound to betray you. There is no perfect marriage, you need to both be willing to fight for each other and to forgive each other.

I can't say if I'd be a happier guy if I were single, I do know that I am very happy being married. And a big part of my happiness is knowing that we earned this weathering many storms, that we built this marriage from the ground up. If it came all shrink wrapped and perfect, it wouldn't be ours.

Don't lose heart, and don't expect a fairytale. Not only is no-body perfect, most are very very far from perfect. But if this person is perfect for you and you for them go for it!

Good luck.

Answer 3

You have to step back and look at the bigger picture. Would someone who was happy in their relationship come to a place called Marriage & Divorce? Why would they? Are there a lot of unhappy people in the world? You bet. Do you think a percentage of the people here are just plain full of crap? Absolutely! You know yourself and you know your fiance. You've decided to get married and you're elated about it. Run with that! Take some advice from someone who has a lot of regrets: cherish each other. Do whatever it takes to make each other happy. Make each other number one in your lives and let nothing come between you. Not jobs, money or even kids, for without each other you have nothing. So just cuz this place is full of broken hearts doesn't mean yours will be thrown on the heap too. Work at it, strive to be happy. Best wishes and good luck.

Answer 4

Hi Jasmine!
Go with what the others have said, and don't let what you have read bother you! Remember, these relationships are theirs and isn't intended to sour your "nuptials!"
Doesn't mean your marriage won't be stable!

Others tend to set their expectations real high and then go into a marriage under false pretenses, and troubles can start.

There was a good discussion on here a couple of days ago about pre-marital Counseling. You might see about this with your Fiance. You both are asked alot of "what-if" questions on how you would handle situations in marriage.
It kinda puts you in the place before you get there.................. like, outside looking in!

SO, please don't get discouraged by what you read! You would be the only one to know if you and your guy are ready for the Altar, and sounds to me like you have a positive outlook on your upcoming marriage!
Just stay positive and realize first of all, that Marriage does take alot of work, but you need to keep communication open and don't allow any minor problems to fester! Also, respect each other.

Congratulations and best wishes!!!!

Answer 5

Where Are All The Good Marriages?
Good question for answers check out.
Focus On The Family or Family Life Today
Also Read Song Of Solomon

Answer 6

There are PLENTY of us with good, solid, loving marriages - and try to uplift things around here, to encourage those with problems to work them out. Yes, I have to admit I feel like you do when I read some of the questions and answers, but that is definitely not the norm. Just remember, that it is usually when someone has a problem that is when they are going to vent, and things on here do sometimes get really ugly.
Getting married is wonderful, and being married is even moreso. There is nothing to match the caring, understanding, comfort and excitement every day with the person you love. It's in every look, in every touch, in every moment. I've been married 17 years, and it just gets better! There are things that come up that we have to deal with time to time, but it's because of our commitment that we have gotten through these unscathed. Just remember to keep an open mind, to see your spouse's point of view, and in time you will see the differences between how men and women deal with situations, and you will adapt. It's most important to always communicate - whether good or bad. Wish you much luck, love and happiness!

Answer 7

I'm married and going through an episode of my own (noone to blame but myself). I think you should ignore it OR just learn from the mistakes of others. Nothing wrong with that. There are happy marriages. All marriages need working on. But it's good to make sure your marrying someone who won't disrespect you. Make sure there's open communication and trust. If there is something that he does that just doesn't sit well with you now, ask yourself if your willing to live with that for the rest of your life. If not maybe you should look at your situation from a third person perspective. You cannot change a man or vice versa.

Answer 8

Ever notice that anyone you know that is divorced was married to Satan. Seriously, every time someone talks about an ex, he or she is the worse human being on the planet, they did drugs, or they cheated or whatever.....all a matter or perpective.

Make your husband your priority and your best friend. Support him no matter what, even when he gets a little jerky - as they do. Be his soft place to fall and the two of you should consider your home a haven from the outside world.

And talk talk talk - always communicate so that you are both expecting the same things.

Answer 9

The reason is because unhappy people need advice. The happy couples are too busy making love. If you have known your to be husband for at least 8 seasons and you have no doubt or lingering fears, you can move forward and marry. Even better if you are over age 30. For man, maybe age 35.

Answer 10

You have to realize that the only people sitting on-line and complaining about their lives, or, excuse me, looking for answers, are the ones with problems. Happy couples are together and not sitting typing away all night about heartache. I have been with my wife for 9 years and married for seven. She is the best person in the world and the best thing that ever happened to me. There are millions of happily married people out there. Most husbands are not cheaters, addicted to Internet porn, or begging their wives for anal sex. You should be happy and excited to be married. It is the greatest gift you will ever receive. Good Luck to you and don't pay so much attention to all of the negativity here.

Answer 11

Well...usually people don't need advice if thier marriage is good and there is nothing to complain about. Unfortunately, even the best marriages have times of trial, so if you expect married life to be nothing but wine and roses and candle-lit dinners, you need to think again. I love my husband VERY much, but that is not to say that there aren't issues that we struggle with.