your wife or girlfriend tells you what she wants or likes in bed? Because, I can't speak for all women but, it's terrifying to think of actually saying or showing him that stuff. Or is it being too pushy?
2006-10-25 18:28:45 · 20 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, yes, yes. It can be done in a playful way that won't be quite as scary for you.
What not to do is correct him while you are having sex. That does not land well for most men.
Say something like, "hu honey that feels wonderful. You know what I would like to try too?" Then take his hand or what-ever and show him. Then flood him with praise when he even approaches doing it like what you want.
Also, you can bring up the subject when you are not in bed. This is often less threatening and makes it a simple discussion without any pressure.
Never, never, never tell him he is doing it wrong. Just offer suggestions on new and different ways of doing things.
You can also breach the subject by asking him what he likes in bed. Ask him if there is anything you could to do differently for him. That opens up the communication and then perhaps you both can have better sex.
Best of luck!
2006-10-25 18:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by taotemu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so welcomed to be told what you like. Otherwise we're just guessing. Fortunately I am extremely intelligent and I know what you want before you do, but, from experience, most women say I am the best they've ever had and that stands to reason as I am the smartest person I know. That must make other men lame as hell as I think I'm an idiot.
Yes, I am serious.
2006-10-26 02:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Nikki, I do what i want to do,and he does what he wants to do. If we have a problem about something done in sex we talk about it,and then you can find out what he like's and what you like.Learn to have open discussions together.If you don't like something he is doing to you,you need to tell him before you decide you don't what to have sex with him anymore(because of what he is going to do to you,you don't like).The same deal with your parnter.Become one in making love and see how much you will enjoy sex and your parnter. Oh i all most forgot. Some men do like to be told.
Clowmy
2006-10-26 01:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, it's super sexy. And it's even sexier if you kind of guide or hint at it until we get it, you don't have to just blurt it out (although if you scream it out in a moment of passion, that could be good!) There's nothing heavy about this, really. And, if worst comes to worst and he's not into it, no big deal, in time he'll probably start trying it on his own.
2006-10-26 01:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes most men want a woman to tell them what they like and want in bed. It turns men on when a woman talks especially dirty to them while having sex. Dont be afraid to do it. He will enjoy it a lot.
2006-10-26 11:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing it, and you say mmmm that feels good he will keep doing it. Be smart when he is doing something you like let him know that way you are not being pushy and he actually thins he found your spots on his own.:))
2006-10-26 03:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I told my ex-girlfriend, "I didn't take mind reading classes in school." And that's not just in bed but for everything. If you can't express, and be open with your feelings maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship. That's why I left her.
2006-10-26 01:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by hawaiianstyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On behalf of all men... YES! It is what we dream of... for a woman to be involved in sex. To want it and to tell us what you want and what you like... whisper it in our ears, scream it into the night.... write it down in a racy note... you can do it and he will love you for it. It is not pushy... hell, grab a guy by the balls and tell him what you want! Even better, tell him what you will do for him if he does something for you!
2006-10-26 01:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I very much like for a woman to tell me what she likes, how she likes it and how she is feeling at the moment...
I want to please her and if she can help, I appreciate it and can do a better job....Her pleasure gives me pleasure...
Telling me what she likes and how she is progressing toward her orgasm doesn't have to be pushy....
2006-10-26 01:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely 100 % yes,because in that way,men can satisfy their women better.I ask always to my baby woman.
2006-10-26 01:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋