Marriage & Divorce - 25 October 2006

She asked me over the phone what I do for a living and why I choose to do what I do. I lied that I love my job, when I don't. What is the best way to tell her that I hate my job and wish that I had never gotten into this profession. I don't know why I went to the school that I went to. However, I think I have finally found my calling. How do I not sound like a dumbass. BY the way, she is a lawyer and I am a drafter.

2006-10-25 06:39:01 · 7 answers · asked by goldenfour7 2

you know today marriage is not lasting is there any marriages out there thats still married for a long time

2006-10-25 06:38:43 · 25 answers · asked by annjilena 4

I dont know what to do anymore. We dont fight, we just bicker and have no like sensitivity toward each other anymore. We are just living together for the conveniance I think. We arent physical, we arent lovey, we dont do nice things for or with each other and we snap and bicker alot, we have been to marriage counseling, we have had ups and downs, sometimes its ok, but 75% of the time it feels loveless. I dont know how to get it back.

2006-10-25 06:38:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was dating this guy, and I called things off. I was mad, and hurt that he had put me in a certain situation, but I might have been irrational. At that time I just felt like take the hurt now or be fine and take the hurt later. Out of anger I chose "take the hurt now" that’s why I called things off. Any way I decided to contact (email) him by telling him by telling him I got a new car, and for him to tell me what he thought, and after not speaking to each other in over a week I was surprised when he answered me back almost immediately. The problem I am having is all I asked him for was his opinion on the car and that was all he gave me. I guess I wanted something more, I guess I thought I opened the door to communication, but I didn’t. I want things to go back to the way they were. I want him back in my life, but I don't know how much damage I did. Also I was wondering if he was waiting for me to say something due to the fact that he answered me right. I need good advice.

2006-10-25 06:35:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

....Gets pregnant with the guy, now husband wants a divorce, wife claims she will never give him a divorce, that she will always be his wife 'til death do they part.He doesnt love her anymore but she insists that they will always be together.What do u think of this woman?And can he divorce her without her signature? Cause she says she will never sign papers....Your opinion please.

2006-10-25 06:33:10 · 20 answers · asked by Peaches 2

Have you continued a internet sex relationship with someone you have not and will not meet?

Have you met someone on this site that you have engaged in that type of activity?

If you are doing it, how many times a week do you do it?

2006-10-25 06:30:54 · 11 answers · asked by CuriousB 2

I always wonder how my life would be if we were still together . Her mother made her brake up with me .Although it was many years ago I still have dreams about her .I cant seem to get her off my mind .Even now I am married to someone else she is not married ,the guy her mother wanted her to be with left her and married someone else.She was the first to be the last but it never happen.

2006-10-25 06:29:28 · 14 answers · asked by tony 1

My wife wrote me a goodbye letter.. I begged her to stay for awhile, she said she couldn't do it.

Is it better to let her go or convince her to stay for awhile, even if she moves into another room?

Leaving would take the kids 2000 miles from me and cause so much financial strain in our lives.

Is this a huge mistake to beg her to stay? Or is this a sign she really maybe didn't want to go and is willing to give it a shot?

2006-10-25 06:26:34 · 24 answers · asked by nice guy 1

2006-10-25 06:23:18 · 12 answers · asked by redmomkids 1

Just wondering...how you could divorce someone that never cheated, tried to keep peace, and was liked by everyone.

2006-10-25 06:21:56 · 17 answers · asked by Ellyn 5

Ive been with my boyfriend for four years off and on, but he last two years we've been together without any break ups. He said he wants to marry me and he tells everyone that I am his fiance, but I dont have a ring yet. Am I really his fiance or is he just saying it because it sounds nice. Aslo I love him more with all my heart and we have a beatiful son together. I really want to be with him the rest of my life. Should I go ahead and ask him to marry me or should I wait until he actually does?

2006-10-25 06:18:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Help!! My husband is an incurable flirt. It doesn't really bug me but with specific people he tends to get close to and when the stalking starts. He swears there is nothing going on and when I say, "How would you like it if I did the same?" he says, "Do it!! It's harmless." So I have decided to go ahead with this idea and do it. In my single life I was a flirt galore, but now that I'm aged and married I have not flexed my open flirting muscles in a long time. With my husband my flirting can go as far as either one of us wants. How do you flirt without getting carried away? How do you start? Will I be able to do this and still save my marriage? I'm trying to understand that a fantasy life is a healthy thing and that exercising my flirting muscles can only help my marriage when I also practice on my husband. (And yes, I realize that his open friendliness and flirting was a part of the intial attraction.) Please help. Specifics are encouraged.

2006-10-25 06:15:03 · 14 answers · asked by Calli G 2

What would you do if your partner wanted to do something sexually that didn't feel right, or make you feel right...maybe you thought it was disrepsectful, degrading, scary? Are there limits to what you are willing to do for your partner? Does it have anything to do with what they do for you in other areas. Like if you have the world's greatest husband/wife but then they want you to try something in bed that you normally would not do....does it make a difference that they are fulfilling your needs in other ways and so you should do whatever they want to make them happy too? Or do you think that you should only do what you are comfortable doing, no matter what?

Explain please and examples are always helpful.

2006-10-25 06:12:48 · 13 answers · asked by tightlies 3

im a 27 yrs old married girl.mine was an arranged marriage.it has been almost a year dat im married n in this time i've discovered dat i n my hubby r very different in vry aspect.since d time i got married he has owz disappointed me on evry thing.he goes very rude sometime n perhaps he too doesn't like me.i thnk he's stayin wid me jus 4 d reason dat his parents arranged it n he does not wanna hurt them.i feel my peace of mind destroyed n feel stressed n under depression.please help me .

2006-10-25 06:11:51 · 22 answers · asked by anika 1

Be honest - another guy you dated, coworker, etc.

2006-10-25 06:10:43 · 28 answers · asked by CuriousB 2

2006-10-25 06:05:24 · 45 answers · asked by THE WISE MAN 2

I pose this quiestion because I am married and I would like for my wife to take my last name; not only because it is what is done when you are married but because I have been with her for 4 yrs during the birth of her first child thats not mine, Two that are mine & helping her take care of her lil brother. Her first child doesn't have my last name but I want him to because I have been thier signs day one of him being in her and having him, so I have been fighting for that as well. I have been thier even signs her farther decided to leave. I have helped take on the responsibility of helping with her brother signs he was 11 to now he is 16 even though she states that hey I should not have because she did not ask me to But !I feel that if I am with you and we live together than I do not have to be told to do this as a man I do it automaticly. i mean it should not be hard to take a mans name for family sake ! If she is that in love with her farthers name then she should have been with him

2006-10-25 06:05:01 · 13 answers · asked by eternalgorilla 1

I have been married to my wife for about nine years. I have started a discrete relationship with a older woman (11 years older to be exact). My wife has been a housewife all of her life. She has never worked,not because I wouldn't let her but because she didn't want to. My wife would never iron my clothes not even my kids. She would never fix a lunch for me. If I had my clothes ironed and If I took lunch to work It was because I would do it myself.Also my wife was never there to listen when I would come home stressed from work.I'm still seeing this lady, not only is sex great. Something that my wife didn't give me but she's there to listen. So do you think I'm doing wrong in cheating on my wife. Once she found out(my wife) about my discrete relationship.she tried and still trying to change. I feel that her change is coming a little too late. What advice can you guys and gals give me cuz I know that girls read this as well.

2006-10-25 06:04:57 · 11 answers · asked by urhomiesid 2

I know that most men are going to try to cheat but if you no the women he is tring to do it with knows your married and does it anyway, which she did! i know she needs her *** kicked but im just wondering why she done it anyway knowing how bad it hurts us for our men to do this to us

2006-10-25 05:58:42 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

My family (my husband, my children and I) will be visiting my father in my hometown. The only friend from my childhood that I'm still in contact with who lives in that area is also an ex-boyfriend. There are no romantic feelings on my end, but I would like to see him just to make a connection with my past, and he and I have remained platonic friends over the years. Is it wrong of me to suggest to my husband that we visit my ex and his family?

2006-10-25 05:56:23 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

cigarettes....or does he just tolerate it?

2006-10-25 05:56:15 · 9 answers · asked by dawn r 1

My bf was married to his hs sweetheart for 30 years. She was the one who left, and sued for divorce. She works at a job that pays little. That was three years ago.

When she has a problem, she calls him. When she needs money, she calls him. When her car need fixing or new tires, she calls him. When this happens, I get upset, not insecure, just upset. We are a committed couple, and I feel she will always be part of his life, as my ex of 18 years will always be part of mine -- {how do you scoop out 30 years of experience out of your brain?} -- but do I have the right to say, "It's about time she rowed her own boat"? or should I just shut the hell up????

I do think it is time she got on with her own life, but do I have the right to say it? Your thoughtful, and analytical answers would be most appreciated.... Thank you in advance.....

2006-10-25 05:55:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

what would you do for your love, if you believe he/she is the right one, would you risk your career?,would you move to another city and give pirorities to making a baby

2006-10-25 05:52:22 · 6 answers · asked by mystarway 1

What fantasy talk/ or lines work great in the bedroom? And have any of your fantasies come true after mentioning them to your spouse?

2006-10-25 05:50:27 · 3 answers · asked by ME 2

My wife and I have been married 17 years. We have been very careful about birth control. She had a couple of affairs recently, cheating on me, and admitted she had not used any protection with them.
From what I see on the board a lot of the women who cheat do not use protection either.
Why not? Is it the other man pressuring you not too? Or does it just feel more intimite?

2006-10-25 05:46:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Did your girlfriend change after you married her ? I had a wondeful woman until we married then she was like a total ***** she became the owner of everything that I owned...I couldnt take it anymore so I D X'ed her......sadly the courts gave her almost everything.....whats your story ?

2006-10-25 05:42:17 · 4 answers · asked by Hammer 2

I frequently travel to UK every year as my immediate family are british residents, my fiancee is a UK resident (born). My plan is to come to UK, marry my fiancee and settle in UK.

What do i need to do and what is the process. Is there anything i need to know.

2006-10-25 05:39:40 · 15 answers · asked by FRANCIS247 2

I've been married for 6 months and my husband don't like having sex more than once a day. he always complain that he's tired and wants to give me sex when he wants not when i want. we'll have sex now and like an hour or so later i get honey. what am i suppose to do when that happens and he dont want to **** the sh** out of me? I have to go and take a cold shower. Thats not right. As a couple we suppose to please each other but it's like i'm the only one doing it. i give him when he want not when i want. and the other thing is we had sex for the past couple weeks and i have yet to get an orgasm.help! help! Help!

2006-10-25 05:37:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I been divorced for 2 years, have been with my current g/f for 8 months and I also have a 12 yr. old son. Last month my girlfriend moved in w/me & my ex-wife has called various times of the day asking about the house, fix it questions, just stupid stuff. Plus once I told my son that Tiffany (my g/f) said hello cause they have met and he said tell her I said hey. Then his mom called me back and said tell Tiffany not to tell my son hello. Stuff like this. It's really causing a problem w/my g/f. She is saying it's none of her business what I do or who I see and also it's not my problem anymore to be helping her out on stuff...what do you guys think?

2006-10-25 05:35:10 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is in contact with an old flame. They had a baby together 18 years ago, but never married. He then went into the military (go figure). I got mixed answers from him when I asked him about it. He said it was about his daughter, etc. So I contacted her via email then via instant messages. And what she said totally contradicts what he says (of course). She told me he still has feelings for her/still loves her, and forwarded me emails that were sent from him. However, there is nothing concrete written in the emails. He thought I was reading his email (and I was) then the emails to her stopped, but phone calls continued. Also, he travels a lot. And he lies...about little stuff like paying a bill. He said he paid, then I get the bill in the mail with a finance charge cuz it was never paid. And he says "I don't know what happened to the check" but it has never cleared either. We have 2 youngsters at home (under 4) and have been married 5 years. My 2nd marriage, his 3rd. Help!

2006-10-25 05:31:32 · 22 answers · asked by jes_fish_bait 1