I dont know what to do anymore. We dont fight, we just bicker and have no like sensitivity toward each other anymore. We are just living together for the conveniance I think. We arent physical, we arent lovey, we dont do nice things for or with each other and we snap and bicker alot, we have been to marriage counseling, we have had ups and downs, sometimes its ok, but 75% of the time it feels loveless. I dont know how to get it back.
2006-10-25 06:38:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to counseling or get a hobby that requires both of your participation (i.e., dancing). Do the things that you did at the beginning of your marriage. Maybe one of you need to just start acting lovey before the other reciprocates. Write a note and stick it in his pocket so he'll see it when he gets to work (or in his car). Get him to remember the lovely side of you. You can't really do much but work on your side of the issue - you changing the way you act towards him.
2006-10-25 06:42:28 · answer #1 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Plan a weekend away for you two. Maybe getting out of the everyday life will help. Talk to him, ask him if he is happy. You should each write a list of what you need and want from one another, then work on it. If you both put in the effort , it will work. Marriage doesn't just happen, you make it what you two want. It's easy to give up, but so much more rewarding to fix it and work it out. Stay strong.
2006-10-25 13:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been married almost 8 years,and sometimes,you need like a restart!!its where you both do something different out of the ordinary,but with each other.go to a motel and get away,or fix a dinner and watch movies,and rekindle the love.tell him how you feel
2006-10-25 13:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_4_dale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bake him his favorite cookies. Tell him, "I love you" a lot. Set a special "date" for just the two of you to a fun/romantic restraunt. Get your physical relationship back. Go to a different counselor, 'cause obviously this one isn't working for you. Talk to him, not just about you two, but about everything! Tell him what's going on in your life, ask his opinion about different situations. Make him feel needed without you becoming too "clingy." He's the man, make him feel like one!
2006-10-25 13:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go out on a date, dress up, dinner the whole nine yards, start by getting to know each other again. also, write down all the things that first attracted you to him. it might remind you of some great memories that you can both share and laugh about. it might bring a fresh start. it worked for my husband and i and we are happier than ever, and more in love. good luck
2006-10-25 13:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by ccll 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try getting away for the weekend, or pull out something sexy and go out & have a nice dinner. Just something so the two of you can get that connection back.
2006-10-25 14:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... well i dont agree with the gentleman that left an answer before me... i believe we all deserve to be happy... try making a candle light dinner when he comes home... or go to a movie you can both enjoy... there are many ways to get that spark back... you love each other so you should show it... hope it gets better for you...
2006-10-25 13:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by jeans0079 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage can only work if the woman allows it.when he is hot,you get cool no matter how hurt you may be.wait a while or a few days & draw his attention to his mistake.but now that your relationship has gone so sour,avoid confrontations,tell him sweet things,reassure him of your love,call him pet names,kiss & hug him.gradually,i believe things will get better.
2006-10-25 13:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife & i don't get along at all. Wanna swap spouses???
2006-10-25 13:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by I Am He As U R He As U R Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about attitude. If you can change your attitude, he just might change his!
2006-10-25 13:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋