My family (my husband, my children and I) will be visiting my father in my hometown. The only friend from my childhood that I'm still in contact with who lives in that area is also an ex-boyfriend. There are no romantic feelings on my end, but I would like to see him just to make a connection with my past, and he and I have remained platonic friends over the years. Is it wrong of me to suggest to my husband that we visit my ex and his family?
2006-10-25 05:56:23 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well does he still have feelings for you in that way. I dont think that there is anything wrong with that as long as you know that he doesnt have romantic feelings for you either. There is nothing wrong with it all. But you may have to be careful with the way that you tell him it could get ugly it just depends on how you approach the situation. But there isnt anything wrong with it.
2006-10-25 06:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-06 03:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong of you to suggest that to your husband. All you will end up doing is putting a strain on your relationship. How would you feel if he wanted to go visit his ex girlfriend. Situations like this lead to bad things, whether platonic or not. If you love your husband, why would this even be an issue?
2006-10-25 06:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by miss_x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WWaaaaaayyyyyy NOT COOL. Why do you wish to remain connect to your ex? Do you still have unfinished business with him?
How would you feel if your husband wished to remain connected to his exgirlfriends? Would you be willing to do the same for him?
I would think that your husband would be hurt, threatened, and disrespected if you did this. You could be driving a wedge between you two, and hurt your marriage.
Your imagination of what he is doing, what could have been, and who he has become is filling in the missing info since you have been apart. This is all just fantasies based on things you feel you are missing in your marriage, and should be turning toward your husband to fulfill.
The fact that you have stayed connected in the first place tells me that you have not completely moved on and should not be married now.
Maintaining relations (of any type) with any men that excludes your husband, is cheating, even if it is emotional and not sexual. It is a violation to your husband and your marriage, and I wouldn't be surprised if he leaves you.
2006-10-25 06:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried contacting a high school sweetheart but her husband didn't like the idea of my calling, so she broke communication in deference to her husband. He came first, as he should. You need to ask how your husband feels about such a get together, and if he has any misgivings, you need to let it go. Even if you know it's just a platonic relationship. That doesn't matter. Your family's feelings come first.
2006-10-25 06:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Melissa, of course you know your husband than I do (as a matter of fact, I don't know him). So, if your husband is a jealousy type, I'll strongly advise you NOT to even mention that idea to him. Never you catch a tiger by the tail. But I need to tell you that, for whatever reason best known to you, your ex bf's love is still there in a corner of your heart. And there's no way you'll go to him and you both will not end it up in bed. The choice is yours, Melissa.
2006-10-25 06:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say go for the visit as long as your husband goes too. Old friends are good to have and just because you are married, doesn't mean you have to give up a friendship. Keep it on a friendship basis only and don't go arranging one on one meetings as this is temptation about to happen if there is any old sparks left.
2006-10-25 06:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest something like a picnic with your dad, your family and the ex. That way you're not on anyone's turf and your husband can feel more comfortable. Plus the kids can play in the playground.
2006-10-25 05:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think it's wrong. If you and your husband have the secure, trustworthy relationship you should, there shouldn't be an issue. Ask your husband if it would make him uncomfortable if you just went to say Hello and if he has a problem then don't go. Chances are though, you should be fine!
2006-10-25 05:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, yes!! As much as I'm sure you're aware of you guys' platonic relationship, I do not think your husband will be too happy to be around your exboyfriend and his family.
2006-10-25 05:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋