I always wonder how my life would be if we were still together . Her mother made her brake up with me .Although it was many years ago I still have dreams about her .I cant seem to get her off my mind .Even now I am married to someone else she is not married ,the guy her mother wanted her to be with left her and married someone else.She was the first to be the last but it never happen.
2006-10-25 06:29:28 · 14 answers · asked by tony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry its first love.
2006-10-25 06:30:35 · update #1
Not me!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-25 06:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. First love. Some say that it is a love that you never get over. We experience that type of love most often in our early years when our hearts are fresh and untried. It is a beautiful love and the memories stay with you forever. Now you are married to someone else and you need to look forward not back. Those ‘what ifs’ can kill your marriage and your happiness. Your first love is not the same person she was back then. Are you? Have time not changed you, given you more wisdom, more strength and more courage? Has time not made you a better person? You seem to be a pretty cool guy. You are seeking answers to questions you have inside. You are reaching out instead of sliding into a life of lies and deception. I applaud you for that. I think what is making you look back is that you are not completely happy in the here and now. You are feeling restless. Right now your reality is love attached to bills, possibly raising kids, and other adult responsibilities that are not a lot of fun. Who wouldn’t look back from time to time when faced with that kind of stuff on a daily basis? I want you to think about looking inside yourself and finding out what is most important to you. I bet it is your family and not a young love you sad goodbye to years before. You and your spouse need to reconnect. You guys need to start doing some of the fun stuff again. You need one or two date nights a week where you can just be “young” lovers again and not worry about responsibilities. When you get married it is so easy to lose yourself in trying to build up for the future that you forget to have fun. What did you and your wife do when you first started dating? I bet there was fire and passion. That fire and passion can come back. The excitement you are missing. Start out with a date. Surprise her, do something different. Next week, it could be her turn to surprise you. If you guys are going through a period of hurt (infidelity, real or online, arguments about finance, etc), then it is a good idea to get a few sessions of couple’s counseling. It will help you two reconnect and learn how to relate to each other in a new way.
2006-10-25 07:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by ME 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have loved my "first love" for 14 years. I am now married he is going through a divorce and we started an affair about three months ago that I just ended. We are both different people, but still love eachother. No it is not like it was, and yes I will always love him, but I would never leave my husband for him. I have done a very bad thing and regret it. Please don't make my mistake. I feel like I am going through the heartache all over again.
2006-10-25 14:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by sdd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me. My very first love was Sicillian - I was 20 and he was 19, most mature guy I ever met but I knew he would only marry a Sicillian girl. Very quickly after that I met my first lover - he was 34, 14 years older then me and a male slut. He was hot, muscular and fine as hell - I was completely into him but he was a total player. He couldn't get enough. I would never want to go back to those days...I'm happily married now to the man of my dreams!
2006-10-25 06:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you I dont like this situation at all it makes me sad. I think a lot of people forget things as time passes. It sounds like you were really young when you were together. You have to remember that people grow up and change over time. I dont think that its her that you are still feeling this way for its the relationship you had with her that your missing. Its hard to say not knowing the situation but things are so much easier when your younger. Things get more complicated as you get older you have to remember that and things will never be the same as they were when they were younger. Good Luck I hoep you dont make the same mistake that my brother did.
2006-10-25 06:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We like fantasies. It always seems amazing to remember our good times in the past.
But I think that everything happens for a reason.
And try to be realistic. Do you even know this person as an adult?
Is she a product of your imagination- the way you'd like a relationship to be? Maybe you also both have some unfinished business.
But this is not fear to you present wife.
2006-10-25 06:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by tanyasiv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't wish I would have stayed with my first love. I am very happy in my marriage. I do, however, believe that I could have been just as happy with him. My life just would have gone in a different path. I know live in a very affluent part of the OC. If I had stayed with my first love, I would be living in a small town in Illinois. Both lifestyles, although very different, would have been fine with me. I strongly believe that happiness is not obtained by what you have but if your happy with who your with. I am happy with who I am with and could have been happy with my first love also. This is why I don't believe in "soul mates".
2006-10-25 06:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by roxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with my first love.
We were apart for a few years, then when we got back in touch with each other we realized that we were meant to be together and got married. We'll be married for 5 years next month.
2006-10-25 06:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by andi b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first love is always very special. It is great that you still think about her and even think you might miss her. I think that is nice.
I actually ran into my first love not too long ago. And it kind of ruined the fantasy I had made up in my mind about him and what life would have been like with him.
But it is still pretty nice to sit back and remember. Thanks.
2006-10-25 06:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me but i understand the what if's......... But it could be different for you. Maybe you should just call her and talk to her..If you are still thinking about her are you ................ happy being married to who you are with now? I bet if you call her you will know your answer..
2006-10-25 06:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can look back and paint a rosy picture,but being young=being dumb.Who knows what would have happened.
2006-10-25 06:31:37 · answer #11 · answered by No Name Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋