im a 27 yrs old married girl.mine was an arranged marriage.it has been almost a year dat im married n in this time i've discovered dat i n my hubby r very different in vry aspect.since d time i got married he has owz disappointed me on evry thing.he goes very rude sometime n perhaps he too doesn't like me.i thnk he's stayin wid me jus 4 d reason dat his parents arranged it n he does not wanna hurt them.i feel my peace of mind destroyed n feel stressed n under depression.please help me .
2006-10-25 06:11:51 · 22 answers · asked by anika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must cook a decent meal and make the environment right one day. Ask him politely why he is rude to you?Confront him politely with each and every thing that hurts you. Next thing you could do is to tell him you want to be with your parents for some time. Share your problems with some one in your parental home in whom you can confide.Ask for his suggestion. If you are away for some time and show no inclination to return his real intentions will come out. It will be easier for you to decide further course of action. Do not rush in to anything in a hurry.
2006-10-25 06:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately if someone can arrange a marriage for you then obviously they have a lot of control over your life. You can decide for yourself what the risk might be if you left this marriage and what the risk might be if you stayed in this marriage. Imagine living another 5, 10, 20 years in a marriage where you feel alone isolated, stressed, and depressed. Your happiness comes first. You don't deserve to be treated in a rude and disrespected manner. You deserve to be treated like a princess...loved, honored, respected, and cherished. Don't you ever allow a child to see you treated this way. Get help for yourself and find out what you can do to make your life and state of mind one of happiness and vitality.
2006-10-25 06:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 09:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
D I V O R C E is your answer unless you can convince the judge to give you an annulment (never legally married) because of the arranged marraige.
Show him this question and ask him if he wants to get out before it gets too late.
2006-10-25 06:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and time I didn't think arranged marriages were still out there..........girlfriend you need to live your own life. If you don't want to be married to a guy that doesn't love you and care for you in the ways that you want be brave and leave him...Life is too short to stay depressed and not feel loved....who cares what his parents think he didn't marry them.........tell him what you think and be honest to him about how you feel...........don't let the depression lead to something more serious..........talk to the man!
2006-10-25 06:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by old lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to him and find out:
1) What irritates him from you
2) How can relations be improved b/w u two.
3) Is he happy with your married life (sexuality)
This should help, let me know if u need further assistance.
2006-10-25 06:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what country you are from - however, you need to consider counseling and ultimately divorce. In this day and age - you do not have to stay married to someone when you are so unhappy.
2006-10-25 06:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by Been there 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you can and can't do in a culture that still arranges marriages. Is divorce possible?
2006-10-25 06:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by auskan2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and ask him if he is okay with the marriage and if he says no, then go and speak to your parents. They know what to do. They will talk to his parents and solve the problem or seperate you too.
Good luck and hope everything turns out fine.
2006-10-25 06:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you should get divorced because it will be more harder for you to live with him if you are not compatible with each other. It is possible that you'll have more problems if you would continue living with him.
2006-10-25 06:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋