What would you do if your partner wanted to do something sexually that didn't feel right, or make you feel right...maybe you thought it was disrepsectful, degrading, scary? Are there limits to what you are willing to do for your partner? Does it have anything to do with what they do for you in other areas. Like if you have the world's greatest husband/wife but then they want you to try something in bed that you normally would not do....does it make a difference that they are fulfilling your needs in other ways and so you should do whatever they want to make them happy too? Or do you think that you should only do what you are comfortable doing, no matter what?
Explain please and examples are always helpful.
2006-10-25 06:12:48 · 13 answers · asked by tightlies 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If u married your partner u made a committ that u were willin to do any thing satisfy her or him in this case her. So i say give it a try and if its not workin for u just talk to ur partner.
2006-10-25 06:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by Baby G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't loose who YOU are for the sake of your partner. It's important to communicate, if you have something new you want to try ask your partner - I do think trying new things is important (keep it exciting), but not making someone do something they are not comfortable with. I understand this could become a huge problem if you are with someone that is "missionary only" and they wont try or do anything else - then obviously you won't be satisfied, but if we are talking threesomes, and...(ok well I don't want to get too explicit, but you get it) then that is a whole different ball game.
2006-10-25 13:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not comfortable doing it then each time its done it will chip away at your relationship. I'm adventurous and always open for new things within reason but will never do anything I know already I dont want to do and most of all I wouldn't do anything that would make me feel degraded.
2006-10-25 13:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any healthy marriage will try about anything as long as it does not hurt them in a bad way. For example. we tried anal one time and she screamed bloody murder so I stopped. We were going very slow and had some lubricant but you cant park a hummer in a small garage so we just keep it to a two hole shop instead of a three holer.Now if you are talking about screwing dogs or pissing on each other. That stuff is sick.
2006-10-25 13:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only do what I am comfortable doing and my hubby is the same, we both have things we would like to do that the other isn't comfortable with but because we love and respect each other we don't force what we want on each other, making love is a way of expressing your love for each other not a test to see who can be the most kinky or gymnastic out of you both.
2006-10-25 13:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy are you sure you didn't write this for me?????????I have been in this situation for quite awhile now and girlfriend all I keep telling myself is I can only handle so much....You can try to do the things he wants but also tell him from the start you are not sure that you can continue if it hurts too much or just isn't your cup of tea.....sometimes i think they just need to feel so masculine and in control it goes to their head when they hear or see other people doing this and think that is fun for one so why not us????????? Talk and make sure he is listening..........tell him what you feel and be honest...........ask he is he would be interested if you were to take to lead to try different things............good luck!
2006-10-25 13:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by old lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have very small limits :-) As you can probably tell my some of my answers.
Anyways, my husband does and I don't push them. I have made my request. That is really the best I can do for now. Perhaps he will come around. Because you have planted the seed it may grow and the curiosity will kill them.
2006-10-25 13:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what my bf would want me to do as to whether or not I would do it. We have both discussed things we don't like to do. I think if it makes me uncomfortable then I would tell him it does and I know he would not want me to do it. I may try some things once and if I didn't like it, I would tell him so. There needs to be a mutual respect between couples.
2006-10-25 13:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When starting a relationship you should have discussed all this and if not you really should not be together,Because if you cant tell the person how you feel about things what you there for.
2006-10-25 13:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Troble1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one cause i always want to make my husband happy and there really isn't too much that i don't already do in bed
but only what i'm comfortable with.
2006-10-25 13:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋