I regret so many things. Most of all, I regret ever trusting my wife. I was over her when she sucked me back into her web. Then, I find out she cheated on me. I was OVER HER. Now, seven years later, after I've been eating leftovers, I look like a complete fool in front of everyone, the whole time mind you, and I'm still here. I stay because I've been eating leftovers for years. But how do I get over the humiliation of eating leftovers?
2006-10-25 19:41:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I stay because I have been eating leftovers for years. So what difference does it make now? I'm soiled by scum myself, at this point.
2006-10-25 19:46:10 · update #1
I'm talking about eating LEFT OVER VAGINA. LEFT OVER FROM THE GUY BEFORE ME, AFTER ME. Get it? I hate leftovers. However, the way women are these days, clean vagina is not possible. What is a man to do for clean vagina?
2006-10-25 19:48:22 · update #2
You are not the fool. Hold your head high and do not be humiliated. You've done nothing to be ashamed of.
This is a hard situation and you are not to blame. You were trusting and got burnt. Don't regret being a trusting person. This is more of a reflection of her unfaithfulness than on you.
I have lived through this kind of pain. Just remember to maintain your integrity and don't let it make you bitter. You have the future ahead of you so don't give up.
I am a christian and I found personally that my faith helped me through. Be kind to yourself. It will take time to heal.
2006-10-25 19:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, there's nothing worse in this world than regrets. Everybody makes mistakes, everybody is blind at times. You sound like you have a low self esteem and that could be the number 1 reason why you've stayed so long.
Humiliation is the fear of being judged by other people. You worry about other people's opinions of you more than you worry about your own well-being. Forget what people may think - do what's right for you. Stop doing things the same way - you're only gonna end up with the same results. Be honest with yourself and figure out your priorities. You can do better than this.
I suggest going to the book store and reading a book called "Don't sweet the small stuff" I forget who it's buy, but it's a really easy, quick read that may open you up to some new ways to look at life. Don't get to down on yourself and don't dwell on the past. You don't want to regret this time in your life down the road by looking back and thinking that you just stood by the wayside and did nothing.
It's probably a ways off, but girls can sense when guys are insecure. Work on yourself and you'll realize where you want to be in the future.
Take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up.
2006-10-25 19:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by goodtimeskaraokecompany 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leftovers? Huh?
You get over your regrets by forgiving your self. You can't go back and change anything now so there is no point in regretting it, you're just giving yourself a guilt trip and making your self miserable. No one has a right to make you miserable, not even you.
You learned something in the process and therefore it had a purpose in your life even if that purpose didn't seem positive at the time.
You're still with this woman? Shame on you, see above about being miserable.
2006-10-25 19:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone regrets something in the past. The only way we can get past it is to live each day as your last. Don't dwell in the past look at what the future holds. Stop letting her overcook you to death and let her learn the right portions. Here's a website that might help.
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 19:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a cooking class! Everyone deserves respect. Love yourself more then you love her and don't allow her to use you as her door mat anymore. Take a stand for your feelings. Take yourself to dinner sometimes you may meet the woman of your dreams you will never know unless you try. Get social, join a club, or a sport, hang out with friends but don't let her use you anymore!
2006-10-25 19:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by baddazzmami 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't like leftovers? Cook dinner for your wife.
2006-10-25 19:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by netlocmom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of her!
Go get some fresh fish from the market .
2006-10-25 19:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you can.Does being with her make you happy? I ask because that's a hard pill to swallow.The humiliation alone would make me pack my bags.Once a cheater,always a cheater.
2006-10-25 19:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by kelliekareen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
STOP feeling sorry for yourself...go out there and get some fresh food...it ain't cheap but there is plenty available
2006-10-25 19:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by serengeti 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you love her? TRUE love can overcome everythings as long as she's confess and don't do it again. is it her past before you met her? if so, you're not supposed to LOVE her past but LOVE her present.
Aren't you happy.....
- when u love her?
- when you married her?
- when you have 1st sex with her?
WHY bother her past???? As long you two now love each other.
2006-10-25 19:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by peter71 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋