Your husband puts you on an emotional guilt trip, to the point where you do feel bad, so he can get oral sex? Please if you don't have something nice or mature to say, dont write anything. Mature answers only.
2006-10-25 04:22:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had this same problem with my ex husband. It seemed as though it was all he wanted and of course he got what he wanted for the most part. He would make me feel bad and then of course i would give in and do it for him. I never really looked at it as abuse, but it can be.. sexual abuse???? Maybe talking with him will help u.. just let him know how u feel
2006-10-25 04:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is a tough word I have found that most males you emotional blackmail to one degree or another. If you are uncomfortable with performing oral then he has to accept that and go on. However I doubt that will happen. Good luck! PS
It took me years to accept that my ex manipulated me in every way with guilt. I applaud your astuteness.
2006-10-25 11:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is emotionally abusive to make you perform and you do not want or desire to yes. However, it is also emotional abuse to withhold for the purpose of making him pay because you are angry. So the two of you should have a conversation and get to the root of the issue at hand. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-25 11:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you have to feel guilty about? Sex should be mutual and given willingly with love, not guilt. I don't know if it is abusive or not. If that is all your relationship is based on, I would say you need to move on. Good luck.
2006-10-25 11:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does He Give You Oral Sex If Yes Then reciprocate.
2006-10-25 11:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Val is WAY off base, don't listen to that crap. Anyone who puts you on a guilt trip and making you perform to get their way is some kind of abuse; you two need to talk about this. You may need to talk to your primary care physician as well. He/She may suggest counselling. Good luck to you honey.
2006-10-25 11:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about what you are going through. My ex-husband did tht to me. Yes, it is abuse. It is called, emotional and sexual abuse. See if he will agree to counseling. I hopw this helped you out some.
H.W
2006-10-25 11:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be abuse when he grabs you by the hair and makes you perform.
As for verbal or emotional abuse, " sticks and stones". Remember words will not hurt you.
2006-10-25 11:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about giving him oral sex? If you enjoy it. Go ahead.
2006-10-25 11:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by Tired 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is abuse and no dont feel guilty about not giving him oral.. alot of females dont like it.. and if you do like it and dont feel like giving him oral.. dont feel bad about it.. tell him no and mean it.if he truely cared he would not do this to u..
2006-10-25 11:33:12 · answer #10 · answered by melissa_williams31379 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋