I've recently found out that he called her......Is he cheating? What do they have to talk about? What should I do?
2006-10-25 05:30:17 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't know that I know he called her recently. I looked at the phone records, but he doesn't know. I really want to make this work for us and our son, but ALL this signs are there. I just don't want to see them!
2006-10-25 06:05:57 · update #1
He is cheating. Whether that cheating has turned physical, I cannot say, but his actions are considered cheating.
2006-10-25 05:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your just like every other female, they dont want to see past that there is a chance that their husband or boyfriend is cheating. You thought you knew the person, but they come out to be that they have desire for someone else. I would call her to find out what is going on. Women dont lie about what they do with your man. And than confront him that you know and if he denies it, than tell him that his other women told you what was going on. Dont be a fool and fall for him. There are more men out there willing to treat a women the way they should.
2006-10-25 06:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've found this out for a reason. It's one thing to look at random woman (porn), and another to be TALKING to the person you are getting naked pictures of. You need to confront him and if he is unwilling to fess up and get some help (counseling) to save your marriage, you need to leave. You deserve better. If you do stay make sure you consider the trust he has destroyed, and ask yourself if you can forgive him - as you don't want to live a life of always wondering if he is messing around on you.
2006-10-25 05:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Carey L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him right away. What was he thinking? For a man to send a naked photo to another, he is cheating or will be soon. You can not allow this type of behavior. If he does this he can not be trusted and he does not love you.
Dump Him. You can do better.
2006-10-25 05:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want it to work then you need to confront him. If he is truly honest about working it out then you just ride him for a while and make sure that he stays in line.
Don't let him take the next step and make things worse.
If he is not truly sorry then take the money and kids and run.
2006-10-25 07:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he either has cheated or he will. You need to sit down and have a talk with about where he wants your marriage to go! You need to know his thoughts on this too! Remember, communication, whether good or bad, is the key to resolving this!
2006-10-25 05:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. It sounds like he may be cheating or getting ready to. Who knows what they talk about, probably something that you don't really want to know, afterall, he sent her a naked picture. I would talk to your husband before you decide on anything. Good luck!
2006-10-25 05:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's cheating. Most likely they are talking about the next time that they can get together to cheat. You should ask more questions online to determine how to live your life.
2006-10-25 05:33:17 · answer #8 · answered by irish1269 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically it is considered cheating. Does he know that you know he's doing this? He'll probably say that it was just a picture and that she lives far away and yadda, yadda, yadda, but he is obviously being sexual with her sans actual physical presence.
Let him know that you are hurt and feel betrayed that he is carrying on with another woman and that it needs to stop...AND NOW.
2006-10-25 05:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Tell the truth. Truth is the ultimate aphrodisiac and a great way to create connection with your partner. For example, you might say "I feel safe when I am with you" or "Sometimes I feel scared that we get so busy with other things that we forget about creating close moments together, but I really want to be close with you." Just share your true feelings and speak from your experience. If you are concealing in your relationship, you will not feel connected, so consider making truth an ongoing priority in your life.
2. Appreciate yourself and your partner. Appreciation means "to grow in value, or to be sensitively aware of." Take time to understand just what it is that you like about yourself, and your partner. Saying for example, "I am doing a good job as a parent by taking time to hug the kids in the morning before they go off to school." or "I really appreciate how dedicated you are to your job." Successful relationships have a 5 to 1 ratio of appreciations to criticisms, so if you really want to heat up your relationship, start appreciating!
3. Listen. All humans crave being seen and heard. Being with your partner, and really listening to them can be magical for you both. Often, we want to fix their problems, but it is much more powerful to listen. Saying, "Wow, I can understand you are frustrated." or "That must have been hard on you." lets your partner know you're hearing them.
4. Create romance within yourself first. We often try to "get" our partners to be more romantic by believing we need to change them in order to have what we want. The truth is that you are much more likely to have what you want when 'you' show up in that way. For example, create your own romantic mood--dress, put on music, prepare sensuous foods, take some time to love and appreciate yourself. It will not take long for your partner to join in the fun!
5. Ask for what you want. Let your partner know that you are deeply interested in spending some romantic time with them (You would be surprised at how often they are unaware of this.) Whining, demanding, and manipulating are contrary to creating romance, so do your best to ask using kind and loving words.
6. Bring play back into your relationship. Levity is a sexy thing. If you are stuck in thoughts of how much housework you have to do, or that you might wake the kids, more than likely you will not feel romantic. Laugh about the ways that you take your self out of a romantic mood, and soon, you will be back in it.
7. Speak your partner's love language. We often become confused and disappointed by expecting the other person to do such and such romantic things. Do to your partner the things they like as well as you telling them what 'you' like, want, and expect. When you fulfill their needs and desires, you will end up receiving the same in return!
2006-10-25 05:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋