Cheaters!!!?

Question

I'm just curious and have no motive behind this question..I'm just curious.
Is there anyone out there that cheats or knows of someone who cheats and is perfectly fine with it. Male or Female? I mean do you/they think it is natural and just part of life. I'm not talking about an open relationship, but someone that has affairs and doesn't intend to leave the one they are with for the other. Kinda like Tony Soprano..only without the organized crime.

Anyway...what is their/your reasoning?

Again Just curious...and for all of you that don't have the ability to read completely and follow directions please save the... I think cheating is wrong and wouldn't do it answers..... We all know you think it is wrong...but I am asking the people that don't think it is wrong.

Thanks.

Answer 1

By all parties involved coming to the understanding that unconditional love means not imposing ones will on another, and, by allowing your fellow human to experience as they please, without restricting love for them based on ones own fear, may result in people being pleasured without the "burden" of shame or guilt.

Imagine that, not allowing our own fears to manifest themselves in a fashion that makes us feel responsible for another and their actions, and truly coming to terms with what love really is.

My old lady can do as she pleases, I will not feel cheated.

At the same time she proclaims to love me and that she has no need to seek sexual encounters elsewhere.

Me, I've come to realize that I cannot say with complete certainty what I will or won't do.

To not fully appreciate and embrace the feelings that I have when I encounter an attractive woman based on me "allowing" myself to be ruled by my own and others feelings seems ludicrous at times.

Everyone is always doing as they please, regardless if they are willing to acknowledge it, but, am I going to make what pleases me something as fickle as pleasing others egos with thank-yous and sorrys and stories of what I promise I will or won't do, in order to make someone else distracted from their fears and themselves?

Will I put no conditions on my love, and then offer it to all humanity, in hopes that one day we may share understanding?

Answer 2

I know a fair number of people who cheat on their spouses/significant others. Most don't have an "open" relationship as such, they just don't discuss it.

I think Bill Mauhr hit the nail on the head when he said that men generally aren't looking for someone better looking or more loving when they cheat. They're just looking for something different. That's why guys with even stunning wives cheat. Maybe it's that primal biological urge to spread the genes overcoming the societal value of fidelity.

I think women generally cheat because they aren't fulfilled in some way and want a different mate but don't want to lose the current one until they've secured a new one or they want to have a child (and raise it with their current mate) but can't conceive with their current partner.

Answer 3

I don't think it is wrong if you don't hurt anyone

meaning if you are committed to one person but choose to have sexual relations outside of that committment do it discreetly and with protection - do not let the additional person feel it is anything more than what it is - SEX

I think it becomes extremely harmful and where the moral left and right take sides when people lie to get with someone or continue in a RELATIONSHIP with intentions or at least telling someone there is an intention of something more than sex

i would think if we could have the securities of our marriages with the convenience of sex on the side there would be less divorces

Answer 4

I did it years ago, because of the most stupid reason...my husband was cheating. I suppose it was a get even kind of thing. I won't say I didn't enjoy it, it was exciting and I met some great guys that helped me through a really hard time in my life. To answer your question (finally) I wasn't sorry I did it so much that I was sorry I had a reason to do it, even if it was only in my mind.
I might add that I am remarried to a great guy and I would never even consider cheating on him.

Answer 5

Interesting question.
I accept my friends with all their faults.
However, being a friend to a cheater doesn't mean I approve of their actions or would I ever help them.
I think part of a friends job as a friend is to tell you when you are being stupid in spite of your self. In the movie "Sliding Door" there is a great scene we this man in emotional hell because his been cheating on his girlfriend and his buddy laughs at him because he put himself there. That's a role of a friend. They allow us to be stupid and still accept us.

Answer 6

I know of a woman who believes that monogomy is unnatural and that cheating is inevitable in any sexual relationship. She uses this excuse to justify her relationships with men other than her husband. I asked her what if you give your innocent husband an STD. Her response was that she is careful in who she picks to have flings with and "so far so good".

Answer 7

cheating is not wrong.
ive cheated and i left my lovers even my first wife. i cheated big deal. Now i have found my new wife i dont want to cheat and have never even thought about it. I guess she is the right one. when you find that special someone to spend the rest of your life with you wont cheat, nor will that person. Unless that person feels you are not right for them. its part and parcel.

Answer 8

you're the date dr.