I told a guy I was dating that we could no longer be friends because of his decesion to move out of the state in 6 or 7 months. I told him that I did not want to continue to date him, get closer to him or be friends with benefits since he was leaving. I sent him back all his stuff in the mail and he has not talked to me since. I don't know if I over reacted, I don't know if he said that because he is seeing someone else. We met online while he was in Iraq, and we talked for about 6 or 7 months we wrote letters, made phone calls, emailed and IM'd each other the whole nine yards now he has not even tried to contact me. We hung out once he got here and I thought everything was fine until he told me about the up coming move. I don't know if he misses me, if he is waiting for me to contact him, is it really over or do everything just need time. I know the golden rule about not contacting a guy who broke up with you, but does the rule apply to this situation? Please help.
2006-10-25 04:24:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had that reaction and sent him his stuff back because instead of him saying we can get through this or we can still try or something that made me feel like he wanted to be with me he said since I won’t let him get close to me anymore how can we at least remain friends.
2006-10-25 04:24:38 · update #1
No one knows how much time they have.
You can die tomorrow in an accident or live to be 102
This man was in Iraq his sense of time is all about the "right now". 6 or 7 months could be a life time away for him. Who says that he will live that long or that you will for that fact.
Life is precious and we should value each day like its our last, be we don't.
Not every friendship is for a life time. Why not be his friend for 6 or 7 months? He just might introduce you to your future husband.
2006-10-25 04:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta understand that when you break up with a guy the vast majority of them hate you to certain degree and do not want to be "friends".now or ever again. I know it is tough having to carry the guilt for the breakup, but it comes with the territory.
I think you actually made the very best decision for both of you...I am sorry he took it the way he did. The best thing to do now is nothing - no contact, and go on with your life. Remember the relationship for what it was, not for what is was not or could have been.
2006-10-25 11:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my partner on line last year in Febuary, i was living in Australia and she was in the States. It was very hard to be with someone but not be with them. We spent a lot of time on the phone and with emails and IM's. She came out to me in May, stayed for 11 days and then again in October and stayed for 3 months. When she got back here in Jan this year she rang me and told me that she could not continue with this relationship, well...i was not going to let her get away with it , we were so in love, i couldnt understand what went wrong. I kept calling her hoping to change her mind and save our relationship, we stayed in touch, called each other often and it soon turned into calling everyday again. I wasnt going to give up, i had to be strong for us both, she tried to immigrate to Australia and it didnt go to well. I booked myself a ticket to The States in March but had things to see to before i left so we spent another 5 months apart. We have been together for 20 months now and have spent 7 months and 11 days in total living together. I thought that she was worth all the hell we have gone through to be together, all the risks we have taken and will take, if you think that he is worth it then go for it....call him and try to work it out, I think, in life you only get one chance at real TRUE LOVE!!! It took me until i was 40 to find it 'LIFE BEGINS AT 40" I hope things work out for you, call him you have nothing to loose..Good luck..
2006-10-25 12:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by geminilovingacancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe in faith. Then if it is meant to be, it will be. Long distance relationships are very hard to keep going (just look at the movie stars), but if it's true and you both really love each other it will work it self out.
Good Luck
2006-10-25 11:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by doreenm442005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
others may be telling u to give up, but my opinion i would forget the golden rule and call him.. write him or something.. seems as though u miss him? just do this and see what happens.
2006-10-25 11:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. He's gonna have to move on with his life and so should you. Do't waste your time with someone you can't even see or have a normal relationship with.
2006-10-25 11:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your decision not 2 continue seeing him was for good since he is leaving
2006-10-25 11:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat golden rule? this is the 21st century. seems like u regretted yr hasty action. but like u said, if u dun try again..u wont know if its relli over. its ok. go try it. dun make it a bigger regret. afterall, theres nothing much to lose...only a phone call.
2006-10-25 11:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by margh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF your willing to give it a second try it is not over.
2006-10-25 11:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no, and date someone else.
2006-10-25 11:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋