Family - December 2007

my daughter is still having a hard time adsjusting to her biological dad whom she hasn't seen since she was three and now she is six. she cries and screams and yells that she doesn't want to see them. i have to carry her to meet him because of a court order. she inisists that he hates her and i haven't had the heart to tell her that he has two boys and a wife. when she was three he was married and had one child but she doesn't remember anything from three years ago including him. he wants to meet her with his parents and wife.when i was pregnant with her for the first six months of her life he ignored her then he became a part of her life. when she was three we had a huge argument and i broke off contact with him and we moved out of the country don't live n the USit is my fault that she hasn't seen her dad. recently i was in court and the judge demanded that he be allowed to see her or i lose custody I am also afriad that we will end up arguing in front of her. we can't get along

2007-12-28 01:07:45 · 8 answers · asked by Hmmmmmm 3

His Father took him, but by Gods' mercy, I got him back. I had a warrant for assault and the sherriff picked him up, he let his Girlfriend with him, and she didn't want him and took him to his Grandmother. She called me to pick him up, only to set meup to jump me, and while I was in the driveway, he snuck out and got on the car with me. I have him, but am worried his Dad, who by law can, will come forhim. What can I do to stop this? Someone please help me!

2007-12-28 00:54:45 · 12 answers · asked by Brenda B 1

Okay so please I don't need mean comments so if you are going to do that please leave. I am so not in the mood. I'll let you know the question before the entire story "If they press charges, who would win?"

Okay so my mom and I got into a fight. She was yelling and calling me things like ugly, unpopular, no social life, etc. My grandma came in and started yelling random things at me too when she didn't even know about the fight. SHe told me to go upstairs and I said no, clearly she has no authority even if she is older. She came over and both of them tried to push me up the stairs. Obivoiusly, a 41 and 70 year old can't push a 12 year old up stairs. My grandma grabbed my neck and started to pull on it. I really could't breath and I got out and turned around. She was right up in my face. I said "Do not ever put your hands on me like that again.". My mom told my aunt the entire story, which I thought was mean, and my aunt said that she would try to press charges.

2007-12-28 00:52:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 00:42:36 · 30 answers · asked by kas150 2

My son is 5 years old and ive been with my partner for 2 years. My son's dad died when he was 2 years old so never really knew him.

My partner and my son share a great bond and he's a great dad, he also has a biological son of his own

This morning however, my partner snapped at my son, not aggressively,just firm but it really upset my son as he hasn't done it before. I must admit, i was suprised too so was just wondering,do any other mums feel as though a partner has the right to tell off their children ?

2007-12-28 00:32:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please help me... I have a SIL who is very manipulative, vendictive and lies a lot! She's a complete back stabber to the nth degree! She has a harsh personality and makes it virturally impossible to get along with her. I hung in there for as long as I could, that is until my hubby and I became pregnant w/ our first child (who is now 4 1/2 months old). She was SO jealous, that she vented to my brother, her hubby, about how much she HATED me for getting pregnant... rather than celebrating the joy in it. My brother has since come around, however, only to an extent. I offered him to be my baby's Godfather and he refused THREE times! His wife told him, "Don't you DARE go down there and support her and her BABY!" WTF? She is saying many bad things about me and my daughter and I'm tired of it. I told her she's not welcome in my house. I feel like the relationship w/ my bro is completely over. Since all is lost, how do I sever ties w/ him until he finally leaves the beast? Help me!!

2007-12-28 00:23:23 · 8 answers · asked by Leanna's mom 3

My father quit on me when I was 6 years old to be with another woman and help raise her 3 children. Up until that point when he left we were very very close, in fact he used to sleep with me in my bed sometimes because I was afraid of a monster in my closet. I know people say guys should be stronger mentally, but every since he left me like that as a little boy it really me. I'm 20 years old now, and I still need him. I don't feel complete. I actually write him 3 times every month in my journal as a way of expressing my anger towards him. I had actually saw the female who he left us to be with a few months ago, and she gave me a very dirty look. I don't know whats going on. I don't trust men, because i feel if I get to close to them, the'll just end up leaving me like he did. I am now on antidepressants, and i take medication for a weak heart, because I am constantly under high stress trying to find him, or trying to find a address to write him to reunite. I need advice.

2007-12-27 23:58:37 · 5 answers · asked by sam j 1

when i moved n w/ my dad i was very depressed sucidal faling outta school anytime i heard a guy say something sweet id completly fall 4 it i was always drugged up not caring about life..2 years later im 17 last year in h.s. im honor roll student i work (not because my parents make me it was my choice) i have my own car that i bought i make my own decisons dont listen 2 what others tell me ....sorry...long story short i changed my hole life around w/ not very much help but im 17 w/ a 10 cerfew on week nights 11 on weekends no if ands or buts if i want to stay the night over a friends my dad told me he wants their address and home phone (really my dad is a super cool guy) and his g/f instigates everything so it makes matters worse i am very responsible but my dad dosnt see it all my friends tell me my dad is to strict but im kinda unsure about the situtation i need help if i sound like im wining just tell me or if u think i should have more freedom what should i say to them???

2007-12-27 23:44:51 · 8 answers · asked by i just do what i do 1

My sister(22yrs old) is so stubborn. She wakes uplate, hate to do household jobs, even to just fix her bed! She just watch TV and Chat the whole day. Dont have a job, sleep late. I do all that is there to be done just to avoid my father getting angry with us, and even so my father is still so mad at her. Even if my father do all the talking the whole day, give orders to her and what she should do, she still just do nothing. I dont know what to do with her. I get irritated with her also. PLease, HELP!!!

2007-12-27 21:21:34 · 5 answers · asked by freya vida 2

he read one of my emails where we were talking and he called me a slut . He's catholic and says its wrong . What should I do about it ?

2007-12-27 20:44:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

he read one of my emails where we were talking and he called me a slut . He's catholic and says its wrong . What should I do about it ?

2007-12-27 20:44:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister is a rebellious, pubescent teenager who thinks she knows everything and is very sensitive. She has my mother wrapped around her finger, and of course my mom doesn't want to believe that her daughter is doing drugs and drinking in our house while everyones asleep around 3 AM.

Her friends are TERRIBLE. They are loud and obnoxious and block the driveways with their cars. They leave overflowing ash trays over the house and break everything. I'm just the older sister, that is slightly shorter than the younger one. I have no intimidation on her what so ever.

I just want her friends to stop coming over EVERY weekend and night that school doesn't follow. How do I get rid of such pests that are close to driving me mad?

2007-12-27 20:33:32 · 21 answers · asked by Frogz 2

...it doesn't mean they were given with any less love?

My finance's eight year old girl is with us, she just got her Christmas presents. We spent quite a bit on her but not as much as her mum who has far more money than us.

She's really unimpressed with what we got her. She looked at it all and wandered off to play with the ipod her mother gave her. She seems to think we put no effort in to it all and that the stuff we got her is crap.

How do we explain to her that even though these things cost less, they were still given with as much love?

2007-12-27 19:26:19 · 30 answers · asked by . 6

I'm a single mother of 2 daughter's, gave both my children all my time, love and support (I have one that's 27 yr old daughter one 15 in Feburary,and 5 yr old Granson, whom I love and care so deeply for),I've bailed her outa so so many jams,all her life,
His father (grandson's) wasn't around for any of her pregnancy nor my grandson's birth ,birthday's nothing, (NOTTA)
My other daughter is turning 15 in februray,she's a typical teen, not doing any bad things ,such as drugs, alcohol or ciggerttes,she does well in school, and also loves school.phheeww(thank god).

The 27 yr old is the type that is very, very overbearingERYTHING IN THE WORLD.I mean literly everythiing, If we get into a calm conversation as a family including my mom(love her so much, sweetest lady ever)it alway's ends up in a hudge screaming match, then very her mouth,with it ending that she wants to leave, that "WE" are the stupid one's ,saying "yeah, It's alway "ME" It dosen't matter ,even awaking him saying, come baby lets get outa here, very loudly saying , they don't want us here..
Is there any other Mother's Father's,Gaurdian's,parent's, that have or do feel this way ,if so what is this feeling all about?can anyone tell me if this has happened to them?,I feel like a very mean person/mother ,my mom is ill and is in no condition to have to endure such verbal abuse,as well as myself, I'm on disability,...It also breaks Mom's heart knowing what I feel and feels for grandson and greatgrandson..I really hate having to feel this way especially about my own child,
I don't or could care aless if I ever see her or talk to her again, However I love my grandson and my other daughter and Mom do to..
Every xmas this has happened for the past 6 or 7 yrs..
We did live in the same town after the baby was born, as she had no where to go, we orginally lived in Toronto, then I brought broght my Mother up to the North as well 2 yrs after I came up,This Daughter moved to Toronto, after moving 3 other places in our town,she's very lazy, she come's, first thing, grabs the phone ,goes into my other daughters room ,I don't see her til she say's im leaving now...This so horrible, I loved her so so much in her younger yrs,,raised her the best I could, being a single mom.
She has her father to talk to now, that never gave her anything,she thinks of him as a god.
my 15 yr old hasn't a father now,he passed, even still, he lost custody of any kind before passing,she was and still is terrified even though she knows he's dead.I feel like I'm a terrible Mother,but I could care aless if I see her ever again, my grandson yes, boy would I love him so ss much and loved to keep him full time, he's so sweet.everytime he knows he's leaving he cry's so hard wanting to stay,she won't allow him to.
Every Xmas,Easter,Birthday's,ect ect this has happened for the past 6 or 7 yrs..
We did live in the same town after the baby was born, as she had no where to go, we orginally lived in Toronto, then my Mother and I bought seperate places about 2 hours north of Toronto,she moved about 1 year ago back to Toronto, after moving 3 other places in our town,she's very lazy, she come's, first thing, grabs the phone ,goes into my other daughters room ,I don't see her til she say's im leaving now...This so horrible, I loved her so so much in her younger yrs,would move mountain's for her if I could, I fought long and hard for her in court and recieved full custody of her, as well as my 15 yr old,I raised her the best I could, being a single mom.
She has her father to talk to now, that never gave her anything, He chooze his 2nd wife over her and her kids and forbidded her to enter his home , when is wife was around, other then to drop off our grandson.she thinks of him as a god.(my dad this, my dad that)
My 15 yr old hasn't a father now,he passed, even still, he lost custody of any kind before passing,she was and still is terrified even though she knows he's dead.I feel like I'm a terrible Mother,but I could care aless if I ever see my eldest Daughter..
Can sombody have any answer's why??
I was and am ill, do you think she ever asks how I am, or asks If there's anything she can do to make life easier for me and Mom..
NOT!!Is feeling this way not excetable ,?Am I being a bad Mother?
Every xmas this has happened for the past 6 or 7 yrs..
We did live in the same town after the baby was born, as she had no where to go, we orginally lived in Toronto, then Iand my Mother bought seperate places about 2 hours north of toronto,she moved about 1 year ago back to Toronto, after moving 3 other places in our town,she's very lazy, she come's, first thing, grabs the phone ,goes into my other daughters room ,I don't see her til she say's im leaving now...This so horrible, I loved her so so much in her younger yrs,,raised her the best I could, Im being a single Mom , she was at that time a real pleasure being her Mom,I have been a single Mom forever
She has her father to talk to now, that never gave her anything, chooze his 2nd wife over her and her kids and forbidded her to see him when is wife was around, she wasn't welcome in their home, other then to drop of our grandson.she thinks of him as a god.
my 15 yr old hasn't a father now,he passed, even still, he lost custody of any kind before passing,she was and still is terrified even though she knows he's dead.I feel like I'm a terrible Mother,but I could care aless if I
Every xmas this has happened for the past 6 or 7 yrs..
We did live in the same town after the baby was born, as she had no where to go, we orginally lived in Toronto, then Iand my Mother bought seperate places about 2 hours north of toronto,she moved about 1 year ago back to Toronto, after moving 3 other places in our town,she's very lazy, she come's, first thing, grabs the phone ,goes into my other daughters room ,I don't see her til she say's im leaving now...This so horrible, I loved her so so much in her younger yrs,,raised her the best I could, being a single mom.
She has her father to talk to now, that never gave her anything, chooze his 2nd wife over her and her kids and forbidded her to see him when is wife was around, she wasn't welcome in their home, other then to drop of our grandson.she thinks of him as a god.
my 15 yr old hasn't a father now,he passed, even still, he lost custody of any kind before passing,she was and still is terrified even though she knows he's dead.I feel like I'm a terrible Mother,but I could care aless if I see ever again
sorry if i retyed some things..

2007-12-27 17:51:08 · 17 answers · asked by shelleywadden@rogers.com 2

Ok so right now I'm 15 and my mom says that she wants me to go to the movies with her but i don't want to because I'll feel embarrased if I'm seen with my mom. For the longest time me and my mom would always go to the movies together and just do everything with each other but then at about 13 i realised that I should be doing this with my friends and not my mother. My mom has been saying to me that we hardly do anything with each other anymore cuz i want to go do it with my friends . I'm starting to feel kind of bad now and the only time I want to do things with her is only when were around my family or like at private functions. I feel embarresed if i'm seen with her like from people that got my school or people that are just around my age. Is it ok for me to go to the movies or even just go places like the mall with just my mom ?

2007-12-27 17:15:43 · 15 answers · asked by Dexter 3

this christmas they went out i was home alone . anyway. was just alone and i did some self plesures that night in my room.. i forgot aboutthe stain i left in my bed and my mother found it and asked me what the stain was.. i said water but she said" i know what this is "! and you where with some guy when i was gone.. but i was not.. i dont know what to say i cant tell here i do things with my self.. help!

2007-12-27 17:05:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

it was so heartbreaking when everytime i hear the 1 1/2 month old baby in our house...and let his father cry him for so long...they said it was just a part of strengthening and some excercise to the infant...is it good? until for so long?

2007-12-27 17:05:23 · 9 answers · asked by sharasan 1

My cousin recently got married to this guy that my mom doesn't like at all. I'm not really sure why, but she hates him so much that she forbids me from communicating with him. I mean, if he comes to our house, she doesn't mind me talking to him, but otherwise, she doesn't want me communicating. I actually think he's a GREAT person, so I secretly chat with him online. But I feel really weird, since my mom doesn't like him. Would you feel weird if you were in this situation?

2007-12-27 16:56:10 · 6 answers · asked by starbucksluvrxoxo 3

A few years ago, my 12 year old cousin (a boy) was sexually molested by an adault male. Since then, my cousin has sexually molested his two younger brothers, younger family friends, and young boys at his school. My aunt is completely detatched from the boy, is in denial, and refuses to take him or pay for therapy. She continues to let the child share a room with the younger brothers and go to friends houses without warning the parents. I'm sick to my stomache and don't know what to do to help this sick child. I am open to any advice. Thank you.

2007-12-27 16:45:25 · 8 answers · asked by lindsrad 2

Do I ask? Do I say nothing until she verbally says something first? Is it my place to say something, if her father is trying to ignore it?

I believe that a stepchild of mine is trying to tell her father that she is a lesbian, without actually talking to him. The way she dresses (i.e. will only wear men's clothing, "sags" when she does get dressed, leaves the area when phone rings and one of her "girlfriends" is calling, very masculine posture, grooming has become more "frumpy", etc.). She's very withdrawn and seems angry all the time.

I understand that children go through some confusing things during their teenage years. I don't want her to get so withdrawn that she doesn't feel a part of the family. I want her to be able to be herself and feel comfortable in her own home.

It doesn't bother me so much that she may be gay, it's just that we're all pretending that we don't notice her changes.

2007-12-27 16:41:44 · 34 answers · asked by Just Fiine 2

So I have recently found out that my father, who my mom has told me my whole life had died when I was litte, is actually alive somewhere and possibly half way to being brain-dead. I've never known much about him or his side of the family because after my dad's mother made him leave my mom, while she was still pregnant, all ties to him and his family were severed. But aparantly his father, my second grandfather, has been trying to contact us lately... My mom wants nothing to do with them and I feel like I need more answers now that I know some of the actual history to this whole mess. That and the fact that I aparantly have a half sister who looks almost exactly like me? Has anyone had anything like this happen to them? How does anyone deal with something like this after 19 years of lies? Thanks, in advance, to anyone who responds.

2007-12-27 16:25:30 · 6 answers · asked by FirEdhel 3

I am not happy. I am afraid to feell happiness or joy bc everytime I do something happens to take it away.

My brother is 30 and has a 4 yr old child.. My parents and I have been raising her since before she was 2 years old. He and his wife divorced and she left and he got custody of his child.

The mom is never around and hardly ever calls and he only comes by to b*** about something or yell at my parents or to bum money. He has a job but has NO money saved. he spends it on God knows what.

My whole life I've dealt with his temper and physical fights with my parents and they enable him. They let him get his way.

And I always feel guilty and worry about them and my niece and I am not happy at all.

Everytime I think I can be happy I hear that he pawned his bow again or he wants some more money from dad or he wont pay his bills or he wants the money off the child support card for his own personal use--which i suspect goes to drugs.

If he doesnt get his way it turns violent

2007-12-27 16:24:14 · 22 answers · asked by Peace Love 2

alright, so im on vacation, at my dads place without my mom. i came out here to see him. the OTHER reason im out here is because i wanted a break from my mom.since about a month before i left which was the 19th, me and my mom ATLEAST got into one fight a day, or a HUGE argument over certain things. So about 2 days before my flight, she took me shopping, she was pissing me off and pulling me over and yelling and sHiTttT which made me madder, so we leave the mall and shes literally screaming ! and i mean screaming ! in the parking lot ! and she threw me to the ground because i was "walking away" which rele i was walking 5 feet in front of her so we get in the car and shes cussing and then before i got out she was leaving with her boyfriend and shes like "bye, i love" and i cut her off and slammed the door in her f ace ! then at the airport she was calling my friends trashy and wHoreSs and im like wtf?so i was yelling at her so when we boarded i walked out on her not saying a dayum thing

2007-12-27 16:16:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter is barely 19 and shacked up with a 32 year old with a kid. My daughter is VERY immature and weeks before she moved in with him she was having tantrums about having to do chores at home. She refuses to have anything to do with me if I can't accept him. My prob is that I have to wonder how screwed up he has to be to see anything in a messed up kid. I have to consider my other kids and their emotional safety also (she is the oldest of 5). My other kids are an autistic 13 year old, 7 year old boy/girl twins and a 3 year old. I worry about what kind of example she is being for them. They so far don't know anything except they were hurt that their older sister wasn't here on Christmas (she preferred to be with her new family). What do I do

2007-12-27 16:08:53 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok here it goes. my mother in law is a very opinionated woman and we have known each other for a long time so I know how to talk to her. Her other son's girlfriend ran into some problems at home and she had to move in with her. She lives rent free pays no bills, no groceries no nothing. And I know how hard it must be living with your bf's mom while still in High school. but she acts like such a rude b*tch to her sometimes i just want to smack her. How can you be rude to someone who provides a roof over your head? And her son sees no problem with her attitude. She sleeps all day and never wants to babysit or wash dishes or clean without asking her a million times. My husband has said things to them but still no change what can I do to help defend my mother in law without making a lot of problems?

2007-12-27 15:54:35 · 5 answers · asked by ♥klove♥ 3

ohkay when i was 3 my mom and father broke up.... then when i was 8 my dad got marry to some brainwashing freak..when i was12 they had a baby girl(i like herr).. when she turned 1 they moved to canada.. he never call me or sent me stuff on the holidays...but now he moved back down here and his brainwashing wife thinks if i want my DAD to call me i should just pick up the phone and call him... but if he loves mee i think he would call.... then he called me on christmas.. i picked up and said i dont want you in my life you have no kiddds that like you only(his three year old)(my sis doesnt want to talk to him and my 5 year old brother thinks he is in canada still working from when he was born) Now m i the messeed up one for saying that? what should i tell my little brotherr?? i need help???

2007-12-27 15:20:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi , Everytime i get into problems with my sister she always say , " YOU WONT BE ANYTHING IN LIFE " she says im rude with her . but she is the one that always screams at me . she is 23 im 14. Im ONly rude with her , im passing all my classes at school , i have alot of friends and nobody but her says i wont be anythinh in life.what could i do to show her i will be something in life?

2007-12-27 15:01:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had my own place for three years, since I was 18. I then got preg. at 21 and had a baby. I moved back with my parents for help during the first year untill I got back on my feet. I am now ready to move out of the house. My mother is really negitive about everything since she has not been working. She drinks alot and it is affecting our family. My father is in his own world and doesn't care. He says to ignore my mother and stay living at home to save money. The negitive **** in my house is affecting me. I created a stress free life before I moved back. It is now painful, depressing, and a head ache back at home. I love my parents but their disfunction is affecting me. I have a roommate to help with everything. I was my independance back!! My parents keep trying to make me feel bad about moving out and my mother is not speaking to me. What do I do?? I don't know how to overcome this. It's hard but I can't live my life for everyone else!! Help!!

2007-12-27 14:58:06 · 24 answers · asked by tmac_tmi 1

I heard my mommy and daddy doing something in their room.i heard bumps and cracks,and mommy saying "Yeah" deeper like 5 times..is daddy hurting my mommy?

2007-12-27 14:48:59 · 7 answers · asked by dont..trust..me 1

I am 13 and really want a cell phone am I too young? Please Help!

2007-12-27 14:39:28 · 109 answers · asked by Anonymous