Family - November 2007

Ok so my son has always been a little hyper and pushed me to my limits, but just recently he has gotten so much worse. He keeps getting into things that he knows he's not suppose to making messes everywhere and hurting his sister. Even his behavior at school has went down hill. I've punished him everyway i know how i just don't know what to do anymore. Please i need some advice i'm seriously thinking of calling a doctor for help it's just gotten that bad.

2007-11-13 23:42:15 · 12 answers · asked by The brat 4

she has said from the age of 4 she is 8 and stills says the same he had a lie tst done is said he not lieing

2007-11-13 22:38:30 · 9 answers · asked by horn3 1

My dad died four months ago and I am seeing a medium tonight and see what she has to say...

Any tips?

I have an open mind, and neither believe or not believe, but I don't want to give too much away if you know what I mean?

Anyone been before that can offer me some do's and don't's in what to say?

2007-11-13 21:55:15 · 13 answers · asked by Me 1

My mom is always forcing me to do things i don't feel like doing: things like using a computer, playing the PS2 or watching a DVD movie or listening to a CD or playing the Gameboy Advance. Sorry about not being specific in the first question.

2007-11-13 19:51:12 · 30 answers · asked by Abdulla S 1

... i know it sounds selfish but its only been 12 months since my grandad died and i still find it hard. Everything always has to be worse for them and go on about it all the time - i dont think its helping my partner who has taken it really bad. i dread seeing them as i am finding it all to much to cope with - i am now dreading christmas as my partner will want to spend it with his family andi know it will drive me round the twist. Any advice or anyone been here before?>?

2007-11-13 19:24:19 · 20 answers · asked by Pebbles 2

The family isn't close---we only get together at Christmas and rarely talk during the year.

I'd prefer to pay bills or spend the money on my children this year. I'm sure they feel the same.

Tell me what you'd say in a letter. Funniest letter gets 10 points.

2007-11-13 19:15:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 28 years old and I Have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, i want to get married and have children and live a happy life. But my mom always says i should never get married..and never have children. She went through 2 divorces so i understand it thats whey she feels like this...and she said that having children was so hard..and she loves us..but that if she could do it again..she never would have done it. I know that sounds like she is a horrible mother but she's not...She is an amazing mother and would do anyting for me..but i just wish she could understand that i want to raise a family and be married...what can i do to get her to be ok with that..and just lay off alittle and let me go live my own life..and not make me feel bad about how it turns out no matter what...Any advice would help!! Please Help??

2007-11-13 18:25:59 · 5 answers · asked by *Juni* 2

The person that I live with keeps having a row with ma mom about 10 times even at night!

what shall I do 'cos the my dad wacked my mom on da floor and massive bruses came on her arm that same hour,
I FEEL LIKE ITS MY FUALT.

HELP!

and to make things worse I through all my photos of my life away but one of them looked at the photos and just said "gosh!" and I thought OMG!!!!!

PLEASE I NEED HELP NOW,
SHALL I ASK MY MOM AND DAD FOR ME TO GO UP FOR ADOPTION?

HELP,
HELP,
HELP.

AND ANYWAYS DO YOU THINK THEY WOULD LOOK AT THE PHOTOS BEFORE I LEFT?

I THROUGH THE PHOTOS AWAY 'COS THEY WERE GROSS,
I HAVE NO CUTE,
SWEET OR NICE PHOTOS AT ALL.............

I CRY EVERY NIGHT ABOUT THAT.

PLEASE HELP ME.

PLEASE HELP ME.

2007-11-13 18:23:55 · 5 answers · asked by Maddie 2

I am 17 years old and my mother is addicted to cocaine. I have confronted her about it but she has totally denied it. I am 100% positive that she is because I have found 2 coke bags. She also pawn a lot of things, yet she never has any money.

2007-11-13 18:14:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i realy hate my family...
there always makin me clean and there always yellin at me
i want to move out but im only 14...
is there anything i can do?
please help

2007-11-13 17:33:23 · 5 answers · asked by Sam 1

My mother in law has never liked me or even wanted me for her daughter ( she said it herself) and despite me trying to get along with her over and over again she is always trying to get at me.
She has first threaten to call the police because she feels i am to strict with my stepchild. I got over that. She later tried to so behind our backs and took my stepchild (3years old) to a doctor cuz she thought maybe i was molesting her (even though she had no proof) I had to go to our doctor and clear any suspesitions. It took me a while but i sort of got over that too. (even though we could have lost our newborn child and my stepchild) Later she got a hold of my stepchild's father (after never being around) and got him to file child custody papers so she could have my stepchild taken away from my wife ordered to go back to her dad ( we won the case) I know i can be a real prick but that was crossing the line. My wife seems to forgive to easyly and wants me to do the same. Should I?

2007-11-13 17:26:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have an identical twin sister whom I am always comparing myself to. I never feel good enough or pretty enough...how can I separate myself from her to find my own identity? Its so hard because we share the same DNA and upbringing, which makes me think we should have the same capabilities. Any advice

2007-11-13 17:23:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was losing my underwear for a week and on suspicion, I bust into my teenage bro's room and looked around. I found a drawer full with bras and panties...some were not even mine. So must be buying them/ stealing them from others.

When I threatened to tell mom, he says he will throw it out...but how can i be sure?

What do I do?? Help!
How can he want to look at me like that?

What can he possibly want with female undies?

What do I do with the ones that he gave back? Shld I use them?

2007-11-13 17:04:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex has residence for our two children because I cannot afford a home for them.Although no custody order has been made he acts asif I have no say over the children.

2007-11-13 16:55:09 · 4 answers · asked by bitter.blue 2

My 72 year old father can't take care of himself anymore, so he lives with my husband, my son, and I. My son is 6, and today he walked in on my dad mausterbating in his bedroom. My dad explained to me what happened, and that my son ran out of the room. How do i explain the incident to my son?

2007-11-13 16:52:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have recently filed a petition and had a trial to get supervised visits for my ex husband with our son. My ex is a big alcoholic and had to be taken by ambulance with a blood alcohol level of .4!!! they said if his wife hadnt called he would be dead. Well then I found out he was too drunk to take our son to the hospital to get stitches and the neighbor had to do it. He is very manipulating to my son. He drinks a fifth of Jack daniels every day. Well the judge will make a decision after talking with my son tomorrow. My son loves his dad very much and is very angry with me for taking his dad's overnight vivits away. He want to live with his dad now and has a bad attitude. He doesnt understand and his dad has him convinced that he may drink all the time but doesn't get drunk and i am only doing this to be mean. Which I am not supervised visits mean I have to drive my son 1 hour each way to go visit his dad and I am willing to do it..how do I make him not hate me and see this is best?

2007-11-13 16:52:24 · 15 answers · asked by Mommy to 4 boys :) 7

im 15 and my 19 yr old bro is in charge of me when my parents are gone. yesterday i came home and i had been around kids who were smoking but i wasnt smoking. my brother smelled it on me and rite away he started yellin at me and punching me. even if i do something little like get in his way wen hes watchin tv he'll get up nd start punching me in the face nd kicking me. he'll smile while hes doin it like its fun then afterwards he just says that i was being a jerk nd he had a reason to hit me. he hits me everyday unless hes at work. he always finds it my fault so he doesnt feel bad. he hit me really hard in the stomach once and i tried not to but i started crying cuz it hurt really bad. he called me a puzzy. i went in my room so i didnt have to cry in front of him. like 4 hours later he came up to me and he said he was sry. it was the first time hes ever appologised to me for hitting me. he gave me a hug nd it was a great momment. the next day he smacked me across the face 4 wearing->

2007-11-13 16:49:27 · 11 answers · asked by jake 1

My daughter has a curfew of 2am on weekdays & 4am on weekends which my husband gave her (but that an entirely different issue). The issue is she does not come home at curfew. She lives at home but does go to college and works 2 jobs and I know she is not a party girl, but she is always falling a sleep at her boyfriend’s house and it's getting really old real fast. We have basically told her that if it happens anymore she might as well be out there and be grown. We are trying to support her by not needing to pay rent, food ect. However, we also have 2 other daughters 14 and 8 that may see this as if she isn't following the rules why should we. I am at my wits end I really do not want to see her struggle on her own but it seems there are no other choices if she will not respect my house and my rules as her parent.

2007-11-13 16:26:38 · 41 answers · asked by Ice Queen 1

When we were growing up we were very afraid of our dad.When I was a teenager i very rebellious and gave my dad a hard time and at this stage in my life i found out that he was having an affair with a lady who was in the same church.My mum knew about it but made the decision to accept it and chose not to leave him cos of us...the family.So for the past ten years he has been having this affair.After confronting my mum about this i decided to back off.And since then my relationship with my dad is bad .We dont talk at all even though we live in the same house.I hate what he is doin to my mum but just maintain respect for him cos im living under his roof.Nw the thing is dat he is butting into my private life by asking my friends what type of person i am and basically giving them a negative impression of me.He is clearly not happy with the way i live my life and forgets about the dirt that he does!His actions have destroyed the family.Wat must i do bout him cos a confrontation would be ugly!

2007-11-13 16:23:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi! im 13 and my father os verbaally abusive nowaday. He calls me spoilt and stupid and idiotic-but it's nothing like that. Im the most disciplined kid you'de find. He swears at me sometimes. He talks behind my back of me being spoilt and he keeps on threatening to send me to study in india. And just because my friends are in a higher math class-he treates me kinda like im stupid. in india(that's where i come from), its not right to sweara at or call girls bad names once they"mature". I DID, but he still is mean, and frustrateda t me. He treats me like a burden(behind my back), and embarasses me in public and amlost hits me sometimes in public. i feel soo bad. he's never involved in my life. i love my mom, so i don't wanna cause ANY trouble. she's sick and if my dad leaves;then nobody will pay for her medication and treatment. also, divorce is NOT a choicee....i still love him SOMETIMES......so what should i do?

2007-11-13 16:21:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i really need a serious point of view. thank you very much.
ok, here's the thing. i'm 23 years old, 3rd year college undergrad, moved here in the states 3 years ago with my mother and brother so i can save enough money to go back to school. we're renting an apartment here so i have to help out with the bills too.
as of this moment, my mom has a part-time job, my brother is a working student and my dad was left back in our country w/ no job at all. i can't go to school here because i pay for over half of everything so i can't just have a part-time job.
i really want ot finish school so i can get a better career. but it's like my parents doesn't care at all.
my mom doesn't help out with the bills and my dad needs money. and my parents aren't even near retirement.
i mean at my age, i should have a professional job but it seems like they're holding me back.
so am i being selfish to think that i should just go back to our country and finish college and just think about myself for now?

2007-11-13 16:20:48 · 6 answers · asked by no way! 1

My 17 year old son is a very emotional young man. He is very close to me and his dad and he's also very close to his grandma(my mom). What worries me is that he's the type of kid who is a little insecure and constantly needs emotional support and reassurance(which my mom can give him 24/7). Now I'm always there for him but he has this really strong bond with his grandma to the point where he feels the need to tell her everything. He calls her everyday and talks to her for hours. She loves him to death and is willing to listen especially because she's always home.My mom is 74 yrs old and ok as far as health but at this age their's always a possibilty of something suddenly going wrong and possibly losing her. I think if anything ever happens to her my son would be destroyed and I just don't know how I would handle it. I'm not jumping to any conclusions but just being realistic. BTW we do live a couple fo hours away from each other. Any advice pleaseeee.

2007-11-13 16:10:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have an 8 month old son and my husband deployed just 2 weeks before he was born. My husband's already come home on his 2 week leave- he came home in May when our son was just 2 months old. He comes back for good in April, and our child will be 14 months by then. We have web cams and I have my husband talk to our son all the time on the phone, but we both feel so helpless in this situation because the two have no real relationship. I'm wondering what I can do to foster healthy bonding when my husband does come home. My son is very clingy to me and I'm scared that at 14 months old, he's going to see his own father as a threat to him and his mommy's relationship. We don't know what to do! HELP! thanks guys : )

2007-11-13 16:05:48 · 17 answers · asked by skylavaulter 2

Im 19 and its clear that both me and my parents want me out of the house. The problem is that the money i make varies week to week from 75 to MAYBE 100 dollars. I absolutely hate the job im at. Im so unhappy and im stuck in an awful rut. My parents wont help out, and they make me buy my own groceries, clothes and pretty much anything else i need. How am i supposed to get out of here?? like i said i hate my job, but it looks good on a resume, and finding a higher paying job around here is near impossable because i live in a college town and there all taken. anyone im willing to share a place with already has one at their school. I only go to community college and it doesn’t offer dorms..i NEED TO GET OUT!! but how??

(Sorry its so long... i kinda went on a rant)

2007-11-13 15:06:18 · 12 answers · asked by Katy 1

I am executor of my mom's estate and I want my brother and sister to pay an equal portion to pay off the home and also the legal fees. We all got equal shares of a life insurance policy. We each got six figure's so I don't see a problem. But I don't want conflict so I am hesitant to ask. But the legal fees is no negotiation, I expect to be helped.

Right now I feel like my whole family with the exception of my grandparents and my girlfriend, have moved on with their lives while I am stuck to pick up the pieces. Why do I have to come begging to my own family for help? My life is on hold right now and I have had to take a lot of time off of work to handle the estate. I am tired! Is it too much to ask for a little financial piece of mind? I spend the week working and handling estate issues and then on the weekend's my girlfriend and I go through my mom's paperwork and belongings. Nobody else really seems to give a shyt. I'm not angry at them just frustrated and disappointed.

2007-11-13 14:42:06 · 22 answers · asked by Veritas et Aequitas () 7

36 and lived off family very happily with all that one can want till now. Got somewhat of the lower end of a higher education and never really used it. Worked maybe 8-12 months out of my whole life.Family says you can go now and thats it. Was left with enough to last a few years of barely living and now its running out. Lost in metropolis United States. About to go on welfare with a taste for the best. HELP?

2007-11-13 14:32:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I smoked marijuana, lots of it. parents found out. lost all trust whatsoever. i quit smoking. gained a little trust back, parents still doubtful. i make bad grades, i try as hard as i honestly can. i am not good enough for my parents. just today i broke my moms car door, on accident. she put the car in reverse and i was holding the door open and it cought the "hose-holder" and wont close anymore. i've done alot of wrong things the past month or so. i cry nightly [joke on me and i'll ******* kill you] i just want my parents to trust me again. i am now realizing how much i depend on my parents. ive thought of suicide multiple times. today being one. ive ran away a couple times [though always come back because i realize how much i love them] and no matter how much i say i hate them, i truely love them.

im crying as i write this and to be honest, i just dont know what to do. i feel like **** every day. i just want to have my parents' trust back. i love em with all my heart.

2007-11-13 14:20:44 · 4 answers · asked by rabidmike1313 1

My dad promised me all the way in June to take me to a skateboarding competition in November.
I was really excited. I talked about it nonstop, even made a chart counting down the days.
I ask him about it a week ago, and he said he couldn't take me because of his work.
It upsets me because, no matter how immature this sounds, this was really important to me.
I can't find no one else to take me and I'm upset, and I can't stop crying.
I hate him so much because he always has work, and he always expects so much from me. The one thing I expect from him, he can't do.
He says he's working to support our family
But working sometimes won't make your family happy.
It's the virtue of being able to make someone smile
and not cry.
Am I right?
What should I do?

2007-11-13 14:20:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am curiuse to find out were my real dad lives i have never seen him and they say some other guy is my dad but i look alot like the guy that ivee never seen thats what everyone says but ya how would i be able to find out were he lives and stuff
and i dont think i can get a test because my dad doesnt want to get one...probly because he knows hes now my dad but anyways anyone know how i would be able to locate the dad thats probly my real one?

2007-11-13 14:18:46 · 2 answers · asked by christiangunit11 1

My sister in law has been a solo mum for about 2 years and is struggling to make the bills. She will not take charity, but I know that she is not going to be able to give her 2 kids a good xmas. We are in a position to help financially, how can we get her to understand that its not charity, its just a helping hand to make it a great family time with the kids?

2007-11-13 14:07:01 · 24 answers · asked by sammy5570 1