36 and lived off family very happily with all that one can want till now. Got somewhat of the lower end of a higher education and never really used it. Worked maybe 8-12 months out of my whole life.Family says you can go now and thats it. Was left with enough to last a few years of barely living and now its running out. Lost in metropolis United States. About to go on welfare with a taste for the best. HELP?
2007-11-13 14:32:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm so sorry that your family waited until you were 36 to ask you to take responsibility for your OWN LIFE!!!!!!! This is what you are being asked to do....stand on your own 2 feet.
Get a job, go back to school but DONT GET A WIFE! What do you have to give in a relationship now?? Not much. So...get a job, go back to school, spend some free time volunteering at a homeless shelter, serve food to the homeless, do SOMETHING other than keeping the pity pot warm....YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-13 14:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the flip side of the situation where a kid continues to live with his/her parents well past graduation and landing that first real job.
By age 36 you should have made a number of milestones, among which would have been to have a career, buy a house, and perhaps get married and have a kid. The sad thing is that your parents never got you off dead center. The urge for sex alone should have gotten you moving toward independence.
You need to get any kind of reasonable job... when you get that job, you learn everything there is and do everything, and be available for OT and emergencies.
Find yourself a small and affordable apartment to live in. A garage apartment is great in that you may be able to barter doing yardwork in exchange for part of the rent. Check www.craigslist.org for listings.
2007-11-13 15:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um Patrick, it's time to GROW the hell up, be a man, and start supporting yourself. How can you have ANY pride in yourself as a person when you haven't earned one thing in your spoiled life? Believe me, when you earn something, you'll appreciate that thing alot more than when it's just given to you. If you have higher education, then you should have no problem getting a job.....and right now, you need a job, any job. Start making some money of your own and maybe you'll finally grow up.
2007-11-13 15:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a girlfriend or wife who'll work and support you. In exchange you can take care of the children and be a little house husband. Heck, it's better than working in some job you have no interest in. A girl from a poor country with high unemployment, like south Asia, would be more likely to go in for such an arrangement. And you'll get a lifetime of bonus points for comparatively making her "rich" by petitioning her into the USA.
2007-11-13 14:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
as much as it hurts, I'd probably let him do it. My 8 year old goes though phases like that, but luckily my ex is within the same school district, so it's no a major deal for him to stay over there. If he just spent 6 months there, Dad made it work, and your son wants to do it, I probably would. My kids being happy always comes before me, even if it hurts like hell. Just make sure he knows that any time he changes him mind, your door is always open.
2016-05-23 02:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think . You have had a 36 year childhood. Most people have had an 18 year childhood before having to leave the nest. During this time you should have learned to help yourself, but you didnt.
Maybe you could join the Army. You dont have to think. Just follow orders and you get free room and board.
2007-11-13 14:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by BillyBob 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious about getting on welfare? Get a job. Leave welfare to those who seriously need it. This is what pisses me off, I can't seem to get medi-cal because I don't qualify for it I earn "too much" yet I can barely make it, I need to go to the doctor every month, my medication is expensive.. but I haven't been able to go because I don't have money to pay for none of this stuff, have in mind I'm only asking for medi-cal the stuff I pay my damn taxes for & I'm denied of any of it. Yet you're gonna sit there a 36yr old healthy person who's only worked 8-12 months out of their life & say you're gonna get on welfare because your family got tired of supporting you. Get an effin' job BUDDY! =|
2007-11-13 14:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by _adoRkable 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GET A JOB. like everyone else. Get up every morning, go to work, get paid, budget so your paycheck lasts until the next one. Come on, 36?? I have been on my own WITH a child since I was 18, and guess what I did? I first got into college, and then got a job, I would get up every morning, go to school, go from school to work (family watched my daughter), worked until 11:00, would go home, get up, go to school, go to work, and made the money last until payday!
2007-11-13 14:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by jasonsgirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time to put whatever education you have to good use. Or try a career school or vocation college. The schools not that long and you get training,
2007-11-13 14:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone else has to work to get by in life. why can't you?
you've also the advantage of higher education. neither i or nor my family could afford that, yet here i am contributing to society.
i'm doubtful you are going to get sympthathetic ears on this forum.
2007-11-13 14:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by loving30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋