I am off to see a medium tonight to see if my Dad contacts me...?

Question

My dad died four months ago and I am seeing a medium tonight and see what she has to say...

Any tips?

I have an open mind, and neither believe or not believe, but I don't want to give too much away if you know what I mean?

Anyone been before that can offer me some do's and don't's in what to say?

Its a one-to-one medium session, an hour long...

... and I certainly will edit my post and tell you all about it... some fantastic advice, thanks you x

Hi all...
Well i took all your advice and went in with an open mind, felt very nervous and shakey, and said no information. Al I did was either say yes, or no. The reading was based around Tarot cards and I was asked to shuffle them, cut the deck and pick a pile I would like her to use. She then said she would contact the spirit world to see if there was anyone there who would help her with the reading. This reading i think was based more around me than my dad... i will go to another medium who will specialise in talking with dad. She said that she was in contact with a 'gentleman' (not saying what relation), and described my dad down to the mark - it was very accurate. She then carried on with my reading covering issues like my love life, money and career and advice from my dad. She was 99.9% accurate and found myself saying yes to everything she said. I feel that I believed her and it makes me want to go again.Whether it be true or not, I came out feeling comforted which is great!

Answer 1

Sorry about the loss of your father.

Very interesting. Edit your page tomorrow and tell us how it went.

Answer 2

Are you going to see the Medium on your own or with a large group?

If on your own I would suggest:

Try and put on a poker face (expressionless) so the Medium cannot hold back if you are about to cry or stop talking altogether. Never let them sense any of your emotions.

Do not talk too much or answer the Medium with too much detail. Just say 'Yes' or 'No' to the questions as you don't want to give too much away as the Medium may be using you to get information rather than channelling your father (if he is around in spirit).

Stay focused and open minded the whole time the Medium is present as this will give you a better chance of 'talking' with your father if he decides to 'borrow' the Medium's body.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Don't know whether you mean you're seeing a well known medium in a group setting or at a show or whether you're seeing one privately & know nothing about them. It's very easy for anyone to say your dad is there when he isn't so they really need to say something specific so you definately know it's him. A common ploy for fakes is to say your dad has a flower to give you & they describe a flower. Ridiculous really as usually the people they say that about are exactly the people that would not be giving you a flower (ie: maybe someone that was kinda tough in real life, etc). If they're saying he's there but haven't provided anything valid then ask them to give some info that would prove to you it were really him. If there's a genuine spiritual prescence in the room you can find a warm feeling coming over you (but it just means there's a good spirit there, it could be anyone). Both my parents are dead & I do beleive in life after death & do beleive they are around, but personally I don't need validation from a medium. A really good book to read about life after death is called "Life After Death" by Neville Randall. It describes everything as per evidence from 2 very gifted mediums who did not charge people money so had nothing to gain by making things up. I think your deceased ones are with you at quiet times when maybe you are doing something that you both liked to do together when they were alive. Like maybe you went fishing with your Dad or something. I think if you went & did that now then he would be there with you. I don't see anything wrong with someone charging money for this service if they are a genuine medium. Why on earth would you expect someone to do it for free? Obviously they'd rather be spending their spare time doing other things if it's not an income for them. What if you had an ability that others found useful, like sewing or fixing cars, does that mean you should go around sewing & doing mechanics for total strangers for free?

Answer 4

Hello! This is indeed an intriguing question,and I wish you well tonight. I feel, with respect, that perhap you should bear in mind that no medium can positively guarantee to contact someone in the spirit world. If the spirit WISHES to be contacted, all well and good: if the spirit for whatever reason does not wish to be contacted at this time, no medium can do anything. A spirit has to adjust to it's new surroundings, just as we have to do on earth.

Don't say anything to the medium - just tell him that you wish to contact your dad. Any medium worth his salt will not need to know more, trust me on that! And please, please beware of anyone who charges a fee: there is an old school of thought that says if a medium charges, he is simply prostituting his gift for money - and whatever gift he has will be taken away.

You will, on occasion, feel the presence of your dear dad in many ways. You see, we are all psychic to a greater or lesser degree. Remember, too, that there is one thing that death can never ever destroy - the feeling of true love and respect between two people.

Good luck tonight: I shall be thinking of you. I wish you well.

Answer 5

Try to answer with just yes and no answers........fake mediums pick up on the slightest thing. Try not to act surprised if they get a name right ...this just gives them more ammo. I have been to a few mediums and the best i saw insisted on only yes and no answers and she was spot on . If your Dad had a common name e.g John then she should pick up on any nicknames etc that he would have been known as . Good luck and i Hope you find what you are seeking but dont be disappointed if the medium isnt on the mark ........there are very few genuine ones out there

Answer 6

She won't be able to tell you anything concrete that you don't tell her to begin with. If she is worth her salt, don't say anything during the session and she'll communicate xactly what you need to hear. However, if you say nothing and she tells you something along the lines of "You're father isn't available to talk..." you'll know what a sham this "art" is.

Sorry to hear about your father. It is not uncommon to seek answers after a death, especially of someone so close. Just don't get your hopes up and you won't be disappointed. I'd hate for some sham artist to take your money and give you false information or, worse yet, false hope.

Answer 7

Most people who charge for such services are charlatans. You will be cold read, regardless of what you say or don't say. If you stay silent, you are paying to be sat in a highly decorated room and be stared at by an annoyed medium. If you say too much, the medium is likely to agree with whatever you say.

You obviously believe somewhat, or you wouldn't pay to see a medium. I would suggest making a few spiritual friends who will help you for free. I'm a witch myself, and I would never charge anyone for divination or anything else.

Answer 8

I spoke to a medium before I had fallen pregnant with my 4th child , she told me I'd have 5 children all boys my 4th child that I gave birth to was a girl and if I had given birth to the baby before her she would have been my 5th baby .

I have worked out the only good medium is 1 who doesnt charge , the 2nd medium I spoke to was free and she had worked with the police in my capitol city she told me my 4th child would be a girl but that she wouldnt be my last , 5 children wanted to be part of my life and the last would be a boy.

If they have to charge for their livelihood their ripping you off for their own benefit.I have 4 sons and 1 daughter so who was right the 1 I payed for or the 1 who stopped me in the street because she sensed someone was beside me? You figure it out.

I'm sorry about your dad , mine passed on 2 years ago I know the emptyness your feeling but trust me you need to let it run it's course the pain will lesten the emptyness is yours for as long as you allow it.Good luck.

Answer 9

I went to see a medium once. It was sort of a test and for entertainment. I could see charlatanism at work...

But on the other hand, she had an ability to stir up interesting and powerful feelings within me at a spiritual level.

Since I believe in a reality greater than this physical universe, I was open to these feelings. By "coincidence", this encounter lead me to the answer to a very important question in my life (that was previously concealed to me).

I would agree about not being too transparent. And don't pay for "added services". Courteously state your desires and intentions.

Don't forget that YOU are in charge of YOUR life. Each of us has tremendous power to choose well regardless of what we believe in. Your feelings are your guide to your own internal balance.

Choose well!

Answer 10

Miss you must find him in your sole and he is there do not allow` someone to distort what you know in you heart he felt good and bad about you. People can "shine" some are better than others, but all people can do this. It helps to test them by being vague.

Answer 11

I would be very interested to see the results on this. I lost my finacee to lung cancer just over a month ago. I had thoughts about seeing one but have not pursued it to this point. Please do edit your post with the results.