I'm 28 years old and I Have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, i want to get married and have children and live a happy life. But my mom always says i should never get married..and never have children. She went through 2 divorces so i understand it thats whey she feels like this...and she said that having children was so hard..and she loves us..but that if she could do it again..she never would have done it. I know that sounds like she is a horrible mother but she's not...She is an amazing mother and would do anyting for me..but i just wish she could understand that i want to raise a family and be married...what can i do to get her to be ok with that..and just lay off alittle and let me go live my own life..and not make me feel bad about how it turns out no matter what...Any advice would help!! Please Help??
2007-11-13 18:25:59 · 5 answers · asked by *Juni* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You never stop being a Mother , that's for sure. But Mom has to stop trying to live through you. She may be trying to keep you from harm in her own way. Just sit down with her and tell her that you need to find out on your own what is good and what is bad. That she can't protect you all her life. That if you can't take the good with the bad, that might make you weak instead of stronger. And she will not always be around. You love her and understand that she loves you and that you appreciate it. But it's time for you to find out what your life is all about. And she raised a very intelligent young lady and you have to make your own way in life. You have to do what is best for your future. And only YOU know what that is. Good luck.
2007-11-13 18:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by reina_azteca1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that just because she made worng choices does not mean that you will end up the same way. Point out to her that there are plenty of very successful marriages in the world. Tell her that it is your life, and you are the one that needs to make that decision, and that you would appreciate it if she supported your decision.
just do it anyways she will come around sooner or later...ur her daughter and if she loves u she will let u but if she keeps saying something to u about it jsut tell her if she cant keep her mouth shut about how to live ur life then not say anything at all
lol vote 4 my answer
2007-11-14 02:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by ryan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that just because she made worng choices does not mean that you will end up the same way. Point out to her that there are plenty of very successful marriages in the world. Tell her that it is your life, and you are the one that needs to make that decision, and that you would appreciate it if she supported your decision.
2007-11-14 02:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly asking your mom to understand your needs, plan your action, your talk, sometimes it just need a a plain word to get people understand your need or great words to show what you feel inside.
if she give you the feeling she had, give her what you feel inside
that everything would not end up the same, give her a insight about the men you about to live with, the security u might have with you men, that give a proper respect to your mom as you talk. do it in harmony, you might have result u waiting for ...
2007-11-14 03:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it anyways she will come around sooner or later...ur her daughter and if she loves u she will let u but if she keeps saying something to u about it jsut tell her if she cant keep her mouth shut about how to live ur life then not say anything at all
2007-11-14 02:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋