i really need a serious point of view. thank you very much.
ok, here's the thing. i'm 23 years old, 3rd year college undergrad, moved here in the states 3 years ago with my mother and brother so i can save enough money to go back to school. we're renting an apartment here so i have to help out with the bills too.
as of this moment, my mom has a part-time job, my brother is a working student and my dad was left back in our country w/ no job at all. i can't go to school here because i pay for over half of everything so i can't just have a part-time job.
i really want ot finish school so i can get a better career. but it's like my parents doesn't care at all.
my mom doesn't help out with the bills and my dad needs money. and my parents aren't even near retirement.
i mean at my age, i should have a professional job but it seems like they're holding me back.
so am i being selfish to think that i should just go back to our country and finish college and just think about myself for now?
2007-11-13 16:20:48 · 6 answers · asked by no way! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you are being used. Is your mom not well that she can't have a full time job and why can't your dad come here to get a job if he can't find one there? They are the ones being selfish holding you back from your dreams and asking you to support the whole family at 23. Go follow your dreams and make something of yourself. When they are forced to, they will make it on their own. You don't say how old your brother is, but if he is old enough to even get something part time, he should do so. Good luck and remember to stand up for yourself and stay strong. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.
2007-11-13 18:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by swtserenity43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not selfish..you are being wise. Your education will give you more choices in your future. Working to make ends meet now for your parents is a short term solution. Your education will enhance your ability to take care of yourself and if necessary in the future help out your family
2007-11-14 06:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by fish2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, it is not selfish for you to go back and finish college. If you really want to help out your parents when they are OLD and retired - then you'll have to have a good professional job. Can't get one of those without a degree :)
2007-11-14 00:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dina K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone concerned is an adult.
You are an adult and have your own life to lead.
You do not have to be "user friendly". Your mom is clearly willing to have you supporting her indefinitely while keeping your own life on hold. It is not very considerate.
If you do it right, and get the education and the good job after that, then you will be better situated to help your family.
2007-11-14 02:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt your career and future is of utmost importance for you. But sharing a responsibility and an attitude of giving is more important. If everybody will become selfish then who will help anybody. Had your parents become selfish, who had taken care of you during infancy and childhood. Come forward and help your family members.
2007-11-14 00:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not selfish. You want to provide the best you can for your future family you will have and be able to pay for your own future kids to go to college. Do what is best for you now while you can.
2007-11-14 01:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋