I can't deal with this situation, my father and my son?

Question

My 72 year old father can't take care of himself anymore, so he lives with my husband, my son, and I. My son is 6, and today he walked in on my dad mausterbating in his bedroom. My dad explained to me what happened, and that my son ran out of the room. How do i explain the incident to my son?

I know when my dad does it.
He needs my permisson to do it because he has to do it in between diaper changes

Answer 1

Tell him that his grandpa had an itch and was scratching it because it wouldn't go away. Six year olds should no nothing of sexuality.

Answer 2

You could have your dad wait until son is at school or a playmates house. Since you know when he is going to do that, you can control what 6 year old does while it is happening, Don't make a big deal and your son won't either. Don't lie to your son, he will remember that if it really bothered him. Something like grandpa was making himself feel better?, If grandpa did a good job parenting let him talk to his grandson.

Answer 3

umm, well... this is sorta tricky because either way you explain it,, you dont realy know how your son is going to take it......

I would start by teaching him to knock before entering a room,,just constantly remind him that this needs to be done..

he is a bit too young to go into the whole sex eduacation thing, but you could talk to him about just a few basics,,not going into detail,just make it basic so that you dont scare him, and just explain to him that adult people need there privacy because big people sometime do things in private that no one else needs to see or know about and this is why he needs to knock on doors before he goes into a room

if your son doesnt understand any of it, then just tell him grnadpa had a real bad itch

Answer 4

My advice since your son is young is to answer his questions if he has any as directly as possible without providing extra information. Please do approach your son first and to ask him, "I know you saw grandpa today, do you have any questions?" that will give you an idea of what he thinks about what he saw as well as how much he saw. Also, do you trust your father to speak with your son earnestly? Perhaps would be ok for Grandpa to speak to Grandson.
The important thing is not to stigmatize anything quite yet.

Answer 5

Explain that your father was having some personal time,or if he asks more personal and detailed questions about what your father was doing,you might have to give him the real story of what your father was doing.But you have to explain it in a gentle way so your son can understand.But your father shouldn't have been doing that unless his room door was locked,or you might have to discuss that he can't be doing those things with your son in the house and that type of behavior has to stop.

Answer 6

your son is really young to understand, and he might be shock with what he been see.
if he close enough with u, try to explain to your son in more easy word.
like......
son, did u know how can be a lot of human on this earth?
if he say no, tell him that why can be so many human in this world because human is born.
how they born is very complicated thing to explain now, cause your age is still young but u will understand one day.
the complicated of human born is same like i wanna explain u complicated adult behavior, like u might been seen on grandfather room recently.
the point is, have a conversation with your soon in comfort way.
then if i were u, i will try to talk with my father, this matter should be alert on him.

Answer 7

Ya, Id go with grandpa had an itch also, your son is too young to really need to know anymore. If your son was 10 or more, Id have a different answer, but for now, just make it a simple answer....

Answer 8

Talk to your son about what he saw, ask him what he thinks about it, or if he is frightened by this or by his grandpa. Explain to him that he did nothing wrong and what he saw doesn't make grampa a bad person. Comfort him (of course) and if necessary let him talk to a counselor. Good luck !!And always let your babies know how much you love and cherish them.

Answer 9

Tell your son that some people have things they need to do in private and that grandpa was doing one of those things. Also, tell your son he should respect his grandfathers privacy and knock and wait to be invited in before barging in.

Answer 10

I say you should let your husband explain it to him. Fathers really do need to take a more active role in parenting. Why should you be the one to decide how to explain it, when this is his area of expertise?

Answer 11

you need to teach you son to knock on closed doors and to respect others and their privacy. your dad is a grown man that has needs and if that what he need to get by than so be it. but you need to teach your son some manners and respect. GodBless