I have an identical twin sister whom I am always comparing myself to. I never feel good enough or pretty enough...how can I separate myself from her to find my own identity? Its so hard because we share the same DNA and upbringing, which makes me think we should have the same capabilities. Any advice
2007-11-13 17:23:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OH Man! my younger sisters are identical twins! Our mother dressed them the same, tried to buy them the same clothes etc. By their teen years, they had had enough! Their personalities are very different. VERY different. You don't have to do a complete 180 from your sister but.. what are your likes? What are your favorite colors,styles etc? Just cause your twins does not mean your the same person in two different bodies! Your as good as your sister, just in a different way and in different things. Celebrate that and maybe even gloat a little.
2007-11-13 18:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by madamebrn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having the same DNA does not mean that you think the same way. Personalities are very different in twins. You should not try to compete with your twin. Try to just enjoy the person that you are, and do not worry about what your twin does. Of course if you think that she is pretty, you look just like her, so you are pretty too!! This is not a competition. You have the right to be your own person just as your twin does. Those same feelings are experienced with siblings that are not twins, by the way.
2007-11-13 17:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even a twin have a different! ^_^
even both of u are identical, it can be all your behavior are same!
my questions is, why u have to compare your self with your twin? look for a better compare person.
is it matter who is prettier from both of u? the pretty of heart would be more valuable.
the wise personality and understanding would be an added value.
u already have your own identity, from your own name, your own behavior, your own way of think. the identity is already inside you, all u have to do is bring it out. ^_^
2007-11-13 17:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by Reinildis 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you not feel pretty enough? You're identical. And believe it or not you have your own identity. You are your own person. The only person that can make you feel beautiful is you. you have to feel it. How? Just make the choice. Love yourself.
2007-11-13 17:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
check together with her and tell her of her negativity. possibly she does not understand that there is a difficulty, or she might have long undergone some matters that she desires to exhibit, and to whom greater constructive that her twin sister. If that doesn't artwork, and he or she keeps to deal with you like canines meat, shop your distance without disowning her. I had to do an analogous situation with my own mom 12 years in the past by ability of leaving her in SC and shifting to FL as quickly as I have been given married by way of fact of her adverse physique of recommendations. Associating your self consistently with adverse human beings will deliver you down, and you do no longer choose that. you are able to desire to be around people who advance you up and shop on providing you with beneficial reinforcement, whether it particularly is no longer family individuals.
2016-12-08 21:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋