Family - October 2007

I'm asking this because I'm a 16-year-old boy and I'm a spanking fetishist and I'm wondering how I can expect my parents to react if they find out. I spank myself sometimes, but only when I'm home alone. But I worry that they might come home earlier than expected while I'm spanking myself one of these times. I'm also worried that one of the neighbors might overhear me spanking myself, assume either me or my sister is getting spanked by my mom, and call the police (I usually give myself very severe spanking with hundreds of swats- not exactly apropriate for a parental spanking). But it doesn't seem too likely to happen because I've been spanking myself for years without any indication that the neighbors have heard. So, if you found out your son or daughter was a spanking fetishist and liked to spank themself, how would you react?

2007-10-11 17:50:53 · 13 answers · asked by vh 3

My boyfriend is a kind and successful man. He makes great money for someone his age and under normal circumstances, would be able to live very comfortably. He's close to his family and as I've gotten to know them, I see that they rely on him more than parents should. He supports them financially and at their age that is not something I see as normal. They come to him for every want. Money for an exterminator, fine, new pillows, sure, but I was floored when his mother had the nerve to ask for a 3000 dollar water softening system. I see nothing wrong with supporting elderly parents that are no longer able bodied, as I hope that someday I'll be able to provide for my parents. I like his family and I feel bad, but it's very hard not to resent the fact that they can just take, take, take, from their child. I know he's drained but he feels it's just something he has to live with. Someday it will be "our" money, and I think it's best to address this now. Any, thoughts, ideas, or suggestions?

2007-10-11 17:36:38 · 26 answers · asked by Adrienne M 2

When I got home from my job as a server at 9:30 pm this is what I came home too: My husband had been asleep on the couch and had forgotten to pick me up like he does every night. Our three month old baby was buckled into her carseat with bankets on her chest and an empty bottle lying next to her from where he had propped her bottle while he slept. He told me she last ate at 6:30 which meant she had been in that position for 3 hours. Our two year old was crying in her room because he had locked her in there so she wouldn't get into anything while he was asleep. She hadn't had dinner yet (again it was 9:30) her pants were soaked because she had peed through her diaper (he never changed her) and all over her clothes. There was a plate of food on the couch bc he told me he just got done eating after getting up. This means he ate before feeding our daughter when it was already WAY past her normal dinner time. I'm terrified this is what happens when I'm at work. What am I supposed to do??

2007-10-11 17:36:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My cousin's 18 year old daughter was in a horrible car accident. She's in Intensive Care, she's in GRAVE condition, the doctors have been fighting to save her life all day and they told her family that they have tried everything they know to try to keep her alive. I'm sitting here, just waiting for a call saying she's died... and trying to imagine what her family must be going through. Their anguish must be unbearable... Even if she somehow manages to survive, she will be paralyzed or brain damaged -- maybe both.

The worst of it?? The other two girls in the car weren't hurt because THEY HAD THEIR SEAT BELTS ON. She was always 'too cool' to wear a seat belt and now her life is over. She was thrown from the car into the middle of a highway.

How does a person survive this?? How do I help her family survive this unimaginable loss?

2007-10-11 17:28:39 · 17 answers · asked by luvrats 7

i know it is late in life, but there has to be something that I can do...they are pretty good kids, no drugs, home on time most evenings... Cs and Bs in school, repectful towards others just not me... they tell me that they hate me, call me a liar (I hate liars, I do not lie) tell me Im a retard, and the older one has a hard time doing most things I tell him to do... like pick up YOUR mess...stop teasing your brother, take a shower...not hard things. The disobediance is understandable...teenagers dont want to do anything but the disrespect thing, the mocking the hateful words.... I cant take it...breaks my heart

2007-10-11 17:19:42 · 9 answers · asked by Punki B 1

My Dad has never made an effort to get to know me. I recently moved out of his house and in with my Mother, and after the first few initial phone calls, he stopped answering. My Step-Mom is an alcoholic and has really effected my life in a negative way the past couple of years. I lost so much respect for them. In a way, I feel like my Father chose her over me. I used to always wish I could call myself a Daddy's Girl but I couldn't. I'm just wondering if it's too late now to try and build a relationship or do you think it would be worth it? I have so much anger towards him for the things he put me through when I was in junior high/high school (never letting me talk to boys, not letting me hang out with friends, and keeping me inside the house all the time). Should I just put my pride to the side and try to get close to him now that I'm a little older? I have this huge fear that we will never make up. I see it happen all the time. Any advice is appreciated :)

2007-10-11 17:17:17 · 11 answers · asked by Nic Nac 3

2007-10-11 17:16:09 · 5 answers · asked by JMSN 1

Hi everyone. I just need some kind of support. It's 11:34 right now. My birthday is tomorrow, the 12th. It's probably going to be the worst birthday I've ever had. It's my 21st. Everyone looks forward to that one. Well, I'm 11 weeks pregnant. So no drinking. But that's not the big deal. My fiancee, who is the father of the baby I am pregnant with just got a parole violation yesterday and was sent back to jail. So here I am in our house. Just thinking about how I get to spend my 21st birthday alone. His parole officer is supposed to go see him tomorrow and tell him something. He has a possibility of being sent away for 3 years. He told his p.o. that tomorrow was my birthday. Is it just me or would it be the worst birthday present in the world for his parole officer to show up and I get a call from my fiancee saying happy birthday baby I'm sorry I'll be gone for 3 years. Ok so I know that people might just say I'm feeling sorry for myself. And maybe I am, but I'm just really upset now.

2007-10-11 16:44:08 · 6 answers · asked by mommy2be1205 1

So i am in the popular/ preppy crowd half because i'm rich... but my mom lost her job a month ago, and we lost most of our money too... so we had to move into this development called Logan's Point, if you have low incom you stay there, and it is super small, but it's nice, but now i'm afraid what my friends will say... HELP, i think we'll be living here awhile! :( My life is about to be ruined because of this!!!!

2007-10-11 16:30:54 · 18 answers · asked by ~FREE SPIRITED~ 2

i have a younger brother in 2nd grade.he goes to catholic school and he has some "friends" that i dont really agree with.he says they are his friends but tells me and my mom stories about how they are always picking on him and stuff.

my brother is very small and skinny and kinda nerdy...but very giving and has a big heart.and he doesnt really defend himself.its not fun hearing that your little brother is getting picked on...but i dont know how to help him out.i mean...its not like i can beat up those kids...they are 8 years old...but still.

2007-10-11 16:22:04 · 9 answers · asked by ninja™ 3

Daughter is 15, her brother is 22 and her older sister is 20. We all walk on eggshells around this 15 year old. She refuses to help out around the house or follow simples rules.

2007-10-11 16:12:01 · 8 answers · asked by niceladyla1500 1

My mom does not accept that I like being a punk/goth. I like the way they dress and I am a nice, kind person who is popular with many friends, but my parents don't understand that I love rock and metal and being this way. They make comments that hurt me like "I'm nasty" and "I dress like a vampire". HELP

2007-10-11 15:16:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

For the past month I've been staying at home, enduring my mother's anger at my not going to church twice a week (her -cult- meets twice a week). I am twenty years old (and was born into the church) and have my own beliefs, and they are nowhere near compatible with her church. My older brother and father endure church because my mom has a bad temper about it, but I'm sick of it. I feel like I can't say anything because I have a feeling she'll kick me out. I'm sure that if I tell her I'm in a relationship with another girl, it'll be the same thing.

How the hell can I get past this? I'm so tired of either being miserable twice a week or being yelled at twice a week. Do I just have to endure it until I can afford to move out/finish school? Was/is anyone else in this same situation?

p.s. she's the type of mom you can't have nice, mature talks with. Unfortunately.

2007-10-11 14:50:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so there was this girl,and She was kicked out of her house,So we let her stay here for 1 DAY..Well the next day she didnt leave,But the next day she went to school(Same as me)Well anyway,At lunch she went home early,and since it was MY house,I decided to follow her to see what she would do.I looked in the window,and she was in my room trying on all my clothes!..I Quickly barged in my Room and said..
M = me h = her

M - What are you doing?
H - Nuthing
M - Dont Lie, I just saw you trying on my clothes!
H - Oh yea i thought they were my size,If they were i was gunna borrow some
M - Yea,You came Home when no one was here so you could steal my Clothes!...NOW GET OUT!

She left and went back to school,I stayed home incase she came back.Yep and she did,She didnt know i was home so i spyed on her..She Let our dog in the house(Which we cant cos it messes the house up) and i saw her put on my clothes and then start eating in them..Once again i barged in..

M - WTF R U DOING?

2007-10-11 14:50:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, so, I love wrestling, and have for years. Unfortunatly, my mom thinks I have "too much dvds, and there all the same anyway" yea, she doesnt know what shes talking about. I'm trying to get all DVDs from the federation XPW, if you know them, you probably think they suck. I, love them because there the reason I got into extreme wrestling.
Ok whatever, so, X-Mas is coming, I just bought one DVD for it, but shes pissed about it already, and I'm expecting 5 or 6 more... I know I sound spoiled when I say this, but I really wish she'd just deal with it, I love wrestling, who cares, just let me get the movies.
Hell, I'd even pay for them myself, AND get them for X-Mas! (how does that sound moms?) I doubt she'd even let me do that. She thinks I like wrestling too much and I focus on it too much even though I'm almost always hanging out with friends or going out.

Does anyone know a way to negotiate with her???
Thanks

2007-10-11 14:46:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im 19 And I have 3 Sisters that are over 21,Therefore Im always the designated driver..Sometimes I get tired of it..It seems like they are having all the fun and Im just being used...They are funny for a few hours and then they are just stupid & drunk.Do you ever get tired of being the designated driver??..I do... but i feel guilty if I dont go with them ,because they will just drive home after they have been drinking and I would feel bad if something happened to them.What should I say to them??

2007-10-11 14:29:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

you get along !

2007-10-11 14:21:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm fourteen years old , but I'm only 4'11. Yeah, I know I'm short. My mom is 5'5, and my dad's 5'6 ( Yeah, I know, they're short too.) I know that height isn't exactly predictable, and that many factors can be involved in this situation, but I still want to know.

2007-10-11 14:07:03 · 6 answers · asked by BlueBeyond122 2

Okay my brother won't stop annoying me! If I go somewhere he just embarrasses me! IF I tell him to stop it nicely he keeps on doing it even if I shout he doesnt stop how do I stop his behaviour and get im to do the right thing!

2007-10-11 13:25:13 · 3 answers · asked by shinkō 3

They just told me...
And I freaked out now they wont even tell me anything else about it, its not fair.

All they said is des your adopted and changed the subject is it fair that they wont tell me?

2007-10-11 13:15:26 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I got a C in my test, they give me an hour lecture on how they came to America, struggling blah blah blah,
(my parents are Asian). But they always supported me on my job and college.

2007-10-11 12:49:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and I just got married after 2 1/2 yrs of knowing/living together. His daughters approved of it and they love me which I am grateful for. One is 10 and the other is 9. I don't have any children from my past and my husband and I are 38 yrs. he gets his daughters every other weekend, and the second weekend out of the month a half of weekend and 2 hours during one day of the last week on a thursday. Anyways, just wanted advice as far as when it comes to diciplining the girls, if I have rights to doing that as long as it's with him or how other step-parents in my situation deal with this like me?

2007-10-11 12:12:20 · 4 answers · asked by jojo 2

how often does your family fightt ?
the reason why im asking this is because my family is alwaays fighting like its not little figths its yelling and its just always my dad yelling and i'll admit we deserve a little bit of the time but even everyone says he yells all the time so it puts everyone in a bad mood and makes it very stressful
i just wanna know are any other familys like this?

2007-10-11 11:58:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a long day at work. I was unable to eat my cup-of-noodle soup during lunch time today because the stupid cup was filled with moth larvae. I had to throw it out. I had no money on me to go out and buy lunch. One of my coworkers asked me if was going to eat, but i had to lie. I haven't eaten since 5:30 this morning.
I come home hungry, only to find my 2 adult brothers and mom watching t.v doing nothing productive. Just to add, my 2 brothers had the day off from work. The first thing my mom tells me: "daughter, can you go and make pasta? There's no food ready." Unbelievable!
It's so upsetting because on weekends and my days off I cook which I never mind because I LOVE to cook for my family and I know how hungry they are when they come home from work/school. I said I was not going to cook for anyone, but myself. Plus, it was my brother's turn to cook today. (we have a schedule).
If i'm over reacting, please tell me.

2007-10-11 11:52:26 · 7 answers · asked by sunny 3

I love my husband but his kids drive me crazy.The boy is 18 & the girl is 16. They swear at him, steal from him & me, & bring home kids without permission who also stole from us.ONe kid was only supposed to be there one night & finally got rid of him after 3 weeks!!!!! My husband does nothing & won't listen to what I tell him about his kids. In fact he tells me I'm the reason they are that way & "He's the man & he'll make the decisions" I have no say in this house but to cook, clean, do laundry, give him money, & buy groceries. I know he loves me, but shouldn't he put me first at least once in awhile? I'm about to leave him, as I just can't sit here night after night & listen to them talk to him that way & he does nothing. They have more freedom here then do. If I'm a bit late from work he questions me but the girl can stay out all night long every night if she wants. And he expects me to do allt he work while she lays abed. Am I a bad person or is he wrong? Been together 7 years.

2007-10-11 11:48:22 · 13 answers · asked by me just me 1

i am a 19 year old female and a full time student...who lives at home with a horrible daughter/parents relationship. i do not have a job ( i know i will get one not worried about that ) but what else can i do to take charge?? i cant stand being at home...and rent were i live for an old apartment is $1,100....i do have a loving bf but i dont want him to support me....plz any advice is welcomed

2007-10-11 11:35:54 · 5 answers · asked by finally happy =) 4

he doesn't hit me or anything, it's like he avoids me. I'm also scared of him.
any advice?

2007-10-11 11:30:17 · 6 answers · asked by n986621 2

my parents talk crap about me all the time and no it's not true . so i quit talking to them. i feel i made the right decision i was wondering has any one ever made a desion like this before and have it backfire in their face?

2007-10-11 11:21:05 · 7 answers · asked by sassy 3

I don't think they don't want him cause their not getting no more money once he turn 18. I'm 30 and I'm all he has to help him right now I have no kids. My brother is "slow" special ed or ADD. How can I get Assistance for and programs to help him mature?

2007-10-11 11:17:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother in law is a clingy annoying manipulative lying individual. We were married in August, I have been with my husband for almost 5 years before this. I tried to involve her and my sister-in-law with everything for the wedding. I went out of my way to make her feel wanted, and a part of the big day, and it was never responded to well. She didn't take part in anything, and then complained that she wasn't invited to things or asked opinions on.
She wore white.. to my wedding... and threw her hair in a ponytail. (it was a big wedding)
She didn't smile in any of the pictures
COMPLAINED cause her boyfriend had to wear a suit instead of a tux (he wasn't in the wedding)
compared everything to my sister in law's upcomign wedding.
My husband has called her on her actions, and her respone was simply ... " I hate you"
Also, my sister in law has copied everything from my wedding, down to the invitations. I do not want to go to her wedding, in 2 weeks, or deal with my mother in law....

2007-10-11 08:12:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anna_Phylactic 2