Family - October 2007

2007-10-12 09:04:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so about a month ago or so the judge ordered me to give the father more custody of course he did this so his child support would go down cause he is having baby #3. (my daughter is #1) so this is after the fact. Now my thing is I have had her full custody since the age of 3. Now that he has joint the money went way down since i'm a full time student and a part time employee so they feel bad for him and made me take a even less amount because I am not a full time employee. Which is ridicuolus.

Now to my point. I need money of course for her schooling. She is in sports, music, reading books, picture day and he doesnt help with any of this. What can I do. How do I have the courts see all this. I am a hard working mother but this is how the systems screws me. PLEASE HELP! ANy advice?

2007-10-12 09:03:44 · 7 answers · asked by rainymar143 2

2007-10-12 08:04:24 · 3 answers · asked by Tranina W 1

evicted for being two days late on rent no biggie at first thought it would give us a chance to save some money here and they and get a house finally . Well it started off we were to buy all the food that is pretty pricy when feeding 5 adults and 3 kids( my brother who is 20 still lives at home too) but i agreed knowing i needed to help i also started helping with the animals and daily cleaning no problem well all of a sudden since they wanted to run the ac now they told me to start giving them 200 a month to help with that plus what ever else i possibly could. And after a week or so they all stoped cleaning treating me like a maid. So i told my mom today that i was tired of it for one im helping and my brother isnt he stays in his room and they pay his way for everything. My room is the old living room and i share it with hubby and kids but we have not privacy since its the room everyone walks through. Why should i be expected to do it all and is there any ideals to how i can handle

2007-10-12 06:54:27 · 16 answers · asked by Buga Boo 1

My brother is 19 years old and thinks he knows everything about everything and I swear to god I am about to just tell him not to talk to me anymore because I get so sick and tired of his attitude. He is always complaining about how my parents won't give him money when they can barely support themselves. I need some help before I unleash my wrath on him! Btw I am 25 and NOT mooching off of my parents.

2007-10-12 06:46:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a talk with my aunt and she told me that my mum is emotionally needy which I feel so too.

I'm 16 but never had a sleepover because my mum doesn't allow me too,fearing that I would be raped or tortured by my friends. When I told her that I am invited to an all-girls-only sleepover( no fathers,brother, no male basically),she forbid me to do so because she thinks it's unneccessary.

She also forbid me to go swimming with my friends (in a pool) becasue she thinks I'll drown. She only allows me to swim if she comes along. It's so embarrassing because I'm the odd one out. All of friends don't have their mums tagging along when they're swimming. Furthermore, she doesn't know how to swim but she insists on coming because she thinks that she can save me if I'm drowning by IMMEDIATELY shouting for help.

In addition, she goes about every other day,asking whether I love her. It's driving me nuts!

Recently,she doesn't want me to go college because she's afraid of loosing me.

2007-10-12 04:58:21 · 3 answers · asked by charlotte 2

Okay, this house used to be her mother's, who smoked and then died in June. So they would sit in the kitchen and smoke together. Now that she has passed away we are renting the house from his grandpa. My boyfriend's mom comes over all the time to go through her moms stuff and lights up cigarette after cigarette. It's not just a couple, it's like over 10!!!

She even brings the cigarettes in the bathroom and smokes in there and you cant use it for more than an hour to let it air out. She knows that both me and her son don't smoke and she knows how we feel about it. But she does it anyway!

I don't want to ask her myself but I think I'm getting to the point where I'm going to have to say something. I'm kind of shy and she gets really really defensive if anyone says anything about her cigarettes. Ive seen it happen. But I'm worried about our health, and thats more important.

What should I say to her? And how can I go about saying it so it doesn't hurt her feelings?

2007-10-12 04:29:08 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

mum or dad or sister or brother or aunty or uncle or friend

so who???

2007-10-12 04:27:11 · 12 answers · asked by yaz 2

My girl friend work from 2pm to 10pm,so i call her at 10pm and she sad that she had to stay and help.so before 11pm she call me at 10:56pm, and she sad that see was leveing her work plays and will see get home we was on the phone in to 3am and ween we got off the phone I call her cell phone back to get into har voice male to see if she is playing me. and she had one voice male and it was a boy. so I call her house phone and i was like how is that and she was like I cant have friends but ween i say is you talking to someone she was like no But she in texas and iam in Alabama But iam going back to her but ya hlep me.

2007-10-12 04:25:26 · 22 answers · asked by jlandg 1

M11 year old daughter is going through puberty and my husband is asking her if she wants to go buy bras with him? We just got married and she is not his child is this something to worry about? We did not live together before we got married and after a month of marriage he is saying this

2007-10-12 04:20:23 · 30 answers · asked by me 2

My dad is going away for a 16 day trip to a third world country. He's going to be staying alone in a house, and he won't have much to eat. My mom went with him last year, but this year she's not going. I asked her why she wasn't going and then sort of indirectly suggested she ought to go again. The way I did this was by emphasizing how last year wasn't in vain; that she was there for DAD. Do you think that's out of line? I mean to even give indirect advice to a parent?

2007-10-12 03:40:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister-in-laws, brother in laws and in-laws all treat me like I'm this weirdo person because a long time ago I dealt with situational depression (my parents had gotten divorced & I had a really stressful job) but I am fine now.They are all so freaking disfunctional (screaming/yelling/fighting/lying/backstabbing) but act like everything is perfect and we all love & respect each other so much. Well, I don't play that crap. Therefore I am treated like the black sheep. My husband and I do not want children, so therefore we are "stingy, selfish, and mean"....mean being because my inlaws want more grandkids and my sister/brother inlaws want their kids to have more cousins. Sounds like a STUPID reason for me to have kids! They wouldn't be raising/feeding/paying for a baby and I don't want to either. Why are the pressuring me so much? Will I ever get them to see Im not crazy and get any respect from them? My husband has stood up for us mant times inwhich they all say "what r u talking about

2007-10-12 03:36:50 · 9 answers · asked by SadToday22 3

My older sister does not seem to like me at all, and I honestly do not know why. She blames me for absolutely everything that goes wrong in her life. Whenever she and my mom get in a fight, she says its my fault. She makes fun of my weight, and tries to beat me up and intimidate me. My mom tries to help me, but that makes it worse because then my sister says that my mom loves me more. She is always calling me stupid, although i have a higher grade average than she does. When I got my first job 4 months ago, she was really mad saying that i was too young to have one (im fifteen) but i think its becasue she tried to apply there when she was my age, but didnt get hired. She critizes every little thing i do and she honestly makes my life hell. How can I get along better with her, becasue i dont think i'll be able to live her much longer if she stays like this.

2007-10-12 03:30:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My cousin who was like a brother to me was murdered 3 months ago. His childhood love, the mother of his 12 year old son, his fiance has already moved on. i'm angry, furious and hurt about her speedy process. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I confront her like a mature adult(she's sneaking)? Help I have so many emotions....

2007-10-12 03:11:15 · 20 answers · asked by msos4real 1

I was just wondering out of curiosity, is it just in my family, or does every family have a member that they would exclude from a bar-b-que, party, or other family gathering. I have an uncle that drinks too much, and when he starts drinking he always starts a fight. So we don't invite him to anything that we do and I just wanted to know is this common in other families as well. Your input would be greatly appreciated!

2007-10-12 03:05:08 · 13 answers · asked by ~Cheta K.~ 6

My sister (who is 18) is living with a guy we all dislike. He is 11 years older than her, tattoos all over his body, peircings on his face and nipples! My parents are doctors, most of our fam members are professionals. This man is nice and all but has criminal records in the past. He is 29, has a GED and is still working on associates degree. No permanent job either. She used to live with my husband and i before she turned 18 for 6months. And my husband wants her to find a good quality man. So now everytime my sister is over (at our house), my husband doesnt want being around her anymore because he said he is constantly reminded of my sisters stupidity and he doesnt like it. i feel the same way but she IS my sister! so now i feel like i cant even have all three of us together! i dont know what to do now!

2007-10-12 02:56:30 · 11 answers · asked by switbaby9 3

ok last month on the first , my cousin was suppossed to leave to her home in florida. she and her child's father ended up getting in an argument he took her child said he was not going to return her and made her loose her flight. he eventually gave her child back but now she was unable to fly back home. so she asked if she could stay in my house until she could change her flight, since i knew she had nowhere to go and it was only for a couple of days i agreed. A week passed and she told me that she had to go to court the 3rd week of sept and she might as well wait instead of going to flr and coming back. so she did that, now during this time her and child's father reconciled and apparently got her pg AGAIN! the agreement was that after she went to court she was going to arrange her flight , but now that she has found out she is pg , she is stalling. yesterday she just told me that she made an appt and its on nov 7. so basically she is implying that she going to be here till then.

2007-10-12 02:51:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

They lived with us before but paid nothing I told them that they would have to help out this time no more free ride.I take care of the baby for free which prevents me from working.They fell behind on their bills cuz my son was out of work so they need time to catch up.They lived with us for 3 years before rent free.
So what would be a fair price?There rent now is 550 a month plus electric

2007-10-12 02:51:07 · 10 answers · asked by pyoung82 2

She's a good student, very mannerable and out spoken. She has a bad talking habit. She wants to be the most popular girl in her middle school. I give her everything she wants(if possible), and all I ask is to do good in school. Her grades are average(75-low 80's), I want better grades. I want her behavior in class to improve and I've tried talking, punishment and even taking away cellphone and TV. What can I do?

2007-10-12 02:31:33 · 20 answers · asked by msos4real 1

My mother keeps putting down my son, but ever so subtly.
She doesn't even know my son because the only time we ever go to visit her is on Christmas and 4th of July. Yet during these times, she treats him like a loser. She even started talking about him and then asked me if I ever saw the movie "A Brilliant Mind" suggesting that she thought he was crazy.

My son is really a great kid. He has lots of friends, has a great personality, the only problem is that he struggles with completing school assignments.

I feel that my mother is trying to turn other family members away from my son by belittling him, but without being so obviouse.

Should I keep her away from our lives? I keep trying to stick up for my son, but she just wont quit.

2007-10-11 22:11:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

As soon as I finished tertiary at 19, and got a job my mom put all the responsibilities on to me. She lost her job, and was getting a widows fund so I didnt mind helping until she could sort herself out. Needless to say she just didnt do anything about her situation, and I ended up paying for my middle brother's transport cost, my baby brothers day care, the bond, groceries, my brothers clothes and whatever else they needed that I could afford. Last year she fell ill and my situation just worstened. She's much better now, and I've reached a point of being fed up! She makes unnecessary demands and when I cant assist cause I dont have the money, she throws a tantrum and calls me a spoilt brat, and tells me I shouldnt bother doing things for them If i'm gonna complain.

I've reached a point where I want to just pack my bags and leave because I refuse to be treated like this. She makes it out like I owe her or something. I'll be 22 on 21Oct and expecting a baby of my own. Is this fair?

2007-10-11 21:52:46 · 11 answers · asked by lala01 4

recently my privacy was invaded, my private thoughts were violated and i feel aweful about it.

if someone close to you wants to read your private journals should you let them?

or should you tell them no i'm sorry but those are my private thoughts?

do they have the right to get angry with you if you refuse to let them read your journals?

what if they take them and read them anyway then what?

2007-10-11 21:44:00 · 8 answers · asked by ♥musiclover♥ 4

ive had such a bad week! nothing seems to be going right. ive had so many people telling me im not good enough and im a waste, my crush started dating another girl, ive had things thrown at me by my dad and doors kicked at me.

i need help badly.. i will speak to friends about. im not far away from commiting sucide. i just want to leave this cruel world :'( :'(
p.s im still a very young girl.

2007-10-11 20:41:10 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im looking for my half brother who lived with our dad.
He used to visit but i havent seen him since about 10 years ago.
I know his last known address and it turns out our grandad still lived there till he died last month.
So maybe thats a good place 2 start.
I live abroad so cant call directory enquiries.
Have been trying to look online but everysite that comes close then asks for money and as im only 16 i dont have a credit card to pay them.
Does anyone know any TOTALLY free ways of doing this online??
It would really help---
Thanks!

2007-10-11 20:16:44 · 14 answers · asked by Little Old Me Again 2

plz help me

2007-10-11 19:00:18 · 14 answers · asked by rock_s207 1

she is getting married in zambia and am in canada but have been told to wish them a happiness please

2007-10-11 18:16:43 · 5 answers · asked by frampe 1

2007-10-11 18:06:51 · 7 answers · asked by magpie 6

My in-laws are living with us, with 2 siblings, including father inlaw,. my husband is too kind to keep them. We are stl childless but trying to have one soon. My inlaws are getting into my nerves, they dnt help inside my house and they only cook food for themselves! how can i say it to my husband that he wouldnt be hurt? also i want them to leave our house and find their own place. How can i tell my husband to do it? they are being so comfortable and even breaking our house rules posted? please help me, housewives out there. Thanks.

2007-10-11 18:06:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well i got a bad grade in a couple of my classes which seriously effected my entire grade because of my presentation. Now, it wasn't the work that neccessarily destoryed it... but my stutter. I don't know why it still continues. The people i see in all my classes everyday i have known for 3 years. Whenever i get up infront of people or simply read aloud infront of people i stutter, or i sound like i choke. I'm a sophmore, and i'm very afraid of failing speech and other classes that require me getting up and speaking infront of my peers. I can't randomly switch into a drama class that will help improve my speech, i already have a set schedule and i need the classes i'm taking. Staying after school isn't really an option either, the only time i stay after is to finish up or make up work.

Isn't there another way to fight the stutter and how do i come up with a good enough excuse to us against my bad grade and prevent grounding?

2007-10-11 18:04:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-11 17:53:23 · 8 answers · asked by karalovesrobert 1