I was just wondering out of curiosity, is it just in my family, or does every family have a member that they would exclude from a bar-b-que, party, or other family gathering. I have an uncle that drinks too much, and when he starts drinking he always starts a fight. So we don't invite him to anything that we do and I just wanted to know is this common in other families as well. Your input would be greatly appreciated!
2007-10-12 03:05:08 · 13 answers · asked by ~Cheta K.~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Families are made up of people, people many times have problems. There isn't a family alive that booze doesn't touch in some form or the other. Good for you for excluding him, until he's willing to help himself, he shouldn't be enabled to ruin everyone's day.
2007-10-12 07:51:40 · update #1
Families are made up of people, people many times have problems. There isn't a family alive that booze doesn't touch in some form or the other. Good for you for excluding him, until he's willing to help himself, he shouldn't be enabled to ruin everyone's day.
2007-10-12 03:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As there are exceptions to every rule, I can safely and positively say that no that is not a fact. I know that some will say that the "blood is thicker than water" saying is a farce, but in my family it is true and has been as far back as I am able to remember. We understand that everyone has his own faults, but to exclude one from his own family because of them is far worse. There will come a day in which involvement is impossible for everybody, so why should it be speed-ed up? My own brother was an alcoholic and everyone knew that at some point he would pay the price. But we wouldn't have neglected him the opportunity of spending time with his family as a result, whether it be a good or bad gathering. Now my brother is gone from the direct result of alcohol and I am so very glad that I was able to know everything about him as opposed to an empty page in my family tree book.
2007-10-12 03:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes and Yes. I always thought my family only did it. When you get older, people start to talk and I honestly don't know anyone that doesn't at least have one member of their family that has the same problem. Ironically Drink is often the instigator. Some people can have a drink, "No Problem" others have severe personality changes and invariably end up in an augment with either other family members or a guest. You my Darling are not alone. :-)
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2007-10-12 03:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. He felt that every person replaced into his brothers and sisters. not in common terms did He not shun them, He lined his relatives(a number of them, Mary, James) with him on his ministry. case in point "After this he went all the way down to Capernaum together with his mom and brothers and his disciples. There they stayed for some days." John 2:12
2016-10-06 13:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite him, and if he chooses to do so *in the present* he should leave according to the choices of the host/hostess. Who ever takes him home, should communicate to him they love him but his over doing it is disturbing family fun which he is welcome to be part of minus getting out of control of himself. Then ask him if he agrees or not?
Don't make him the obstacle of family chit chat...he's a human being with problems and if *in the present* of a family function he decides he is going to loose control of himself and create problems for others then do something about it by communicating he has choices. Perhaps he will begin to think or choose to sluff it off which is all up to him.
2007-10-12 03:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, maybe he's drinking because he's being excluded. We all get together and hugg and kiss each other @ the gatherings, even the men kiss each other I love my people or shall i say peeps
2007-10-12 04:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by troop there it is 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not mine.. we let everyone come even the ex wives and husbands to our functions.. thats just the way we role cause the trouble makers no that they will get delt with if they trip
2007-10-12 03:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure if its EVERY family but mine is the same way.And if it was up to me it wouldnt happen.Life is to short and then when someone passes they regret not getting together more.But then again i guess life isint fair.
2007-10-12 03:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Gemini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to exclude my "sister" as much as possible..my parents had to force me to let her come to my baby shower this year..she's a real witch..
2007-10-12 03:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by chichibaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋