Ok so im 23 and for 2 months now me my husband and our 3 kids have been living with my parents since we got?

Question

evicted for being two days late on rent no biggie at first thought it would give us a chance to save some money here and they and get a house finally . Well it started off we were to buy all the food that is pretty pricy when feeding 5 adults and 3 kids( my brother who is 20 still lives at home too) but i agreed knowing i needed to help i also started helping with the animals and daily cleaning no problem well all of a sudden since they wanted to run the ac now they told me to start giving them 200 a month to help with that plus what ever else i possibly could. And after a week or so they all stoped cleaning treating me like a maid. So i told my mom today that i was tired of it for one im helping and my brother isnt he stays in his room and they pay his way for everything. My room is the old living room and i share it with hubby and kids but we have not privacy since its the room everyone walks through. Why should i be expected to do it all and is there any ideals to how i can handle

anyideals on how i can go about talk to them and handle things when im already stressed and ready to blow at anytime now

i got a job its called being a mom and he works but out of a 600 dollar check we had 100 to get our car filled up and a few things we needed cuz i paid our few bills and gave parent the 200 plus spent over 200 on food so dont say get a job

Answer 1

The others who have stated that people don’t get evicted for being 2 days late on rent, are absolutely correct. That’s not even legally possible.

You can’t complain that your parents are supporting your brother, but not supporting you, because your brother doesn’t have a spouse and 3 children also living in the home.

I agree that if you are in fact doing *all* the cleaning and have absolutely no privacy, that’s pretty bad, but you need to remember that your parents are doing you a favor. Would you rather your family be homeless?

Being a mother is a job and it’s a lot of hard work, but millions of mothers also work outside the home, so don’t try to use it as an excuse not to get an outside job. If childcare is an issue, get a job working an opposite shift from your husband. Then save every dime you can and move out as soon as possible.

Answer 2

Move back out - find a place that you can afford and start saving money to buy a house. It's just not worth the hassle to try to deal with them. It is a terrible burden to have 5 people move into an already crowded house - it can't be comfortable for anyone - so move out.

Maybe your brother or other family member can help watch your children so that you can get a job? That way you'll be able to save money faster for your own house.

You are an adult - you had three children without your folks help - so don't expect them to subsidize your poor decisions. Noone - yes, noone - gets evicted for rent being two days late. It just doesn't happen - so you must have done something else to get yourselves evicted.

I'm not trying to say you are a bad person - but somewhere in this story something is missing and you need to deal with whatever that problem is - not put the responsibility on your parents.

Good luck finding a new place!

Answer 3

OMG... time for a family meeting for sure!! You need to post it on the fridge... tell everyone ahead of time that you will be having a meeting and to "bring their concerns". That way you won't just be attacking everybody and they can all bring what they think is important to the table as well.

Set a time limit for every family member (5 minutes or 10 minutes if you all like to talk)... let everyone say their concerns WITHOUT interuptions then after everyone (even the kids) get a voice... start by asking someone to write down what people's bitches are (I would suggest your brother be the record keeper that way he is forced to pay attention)suggestions and have everyone come up with possible fixes for each and every issue. Keep working at it until you have a consensus. It may take time to do it so set another meeting in a few days or a week if you only tackle a few topics at a time. But have someone that isn't usually "the boss" in the family be in charge of the family meeting and it helps to have printed rules so there aren't any name calling, interupting, etc.

Answer 4

Check into so Public Housing or into a HUD program where they assist you in paying your rent. I have 5 children my husband is disabled and fighting to get his disability and I am the only person working. I know that is tough but there are programs you have to go and apply for the help though.
You should not be responsible for all the cleaning and everything. Ask your mom why you should have to pay an additional 200 because they decided to run the ac. They would be running it even if you weren't there so why should it be your responsibility to pay the difference.
Good luck to you dear

Answer 5

If I were you, I would take all hat money you've been spending on their bills and find your own place. Even if it's an apartment. It's stressful having that many people in one house. In my house at one time there were 3 kids, and 7 adults. It's overwhelming and I don't know why you would STILL be there after all that. No privacy would get me the most. Just go find your own place, two months has been long enough.

Answer 6

Just ask straight up, what is going on? Why am I being treated this way? Maybe, with all the money you're spending there, just get your own place and put the "house" on hold for a little while. They are probably overwhelmed that there are 5 more people in the house.
You also didn't say how long you have been there. That might be part of it too.

Answer 7

I would be very surprised if you were evicted for being 2 days late. At 23 with 3 children, you made some foolish choices. You are fortunate that your parents are letting you live with them. $200.00 and groceries is getting away cheap. You should be cleaning and cooking and doing everthing you can to show them appreciation for letting you stay. If your not happy about it, find another place.

Answer 8

its gonna be hard but have a family meeting and split all the bills. you cook, they clean. let it known that you are not the maid and you will only clean up after you and your kids(plus hubby). I am actually in the same boat but somewhat different. I just bought a house and my sister and child needed to move in with me. so I let them but they give me 500 a month for groceries, bills and rent. that isn't much when I am the one always cooking, cleaning, taking care of her child, doing laundry and picking up her child from day care. its hard but i had a family meeting and now everyone included the children have chores. it has been alot better. try it. hope i helped.

Answer 9

First of all sit down and make a list ,,,yeah that easy.secondly if I had a friend that would give up their privacy for me ,my husband ,and three kids for a few hundred bucks a month,sounds like the deal of the century.Rethink your appreciation of your parents and under these circumstances there is going to be stress and alot of it.

Answer 10

Well you need written contract. Say you be out in 120 days, no less than 90 days. Get your money act together.

Tell them your 20 year old brother needs to start being mature and take care of his own share of responsibilities.

Don't be late on rent again!
Ask yourself, why were you late on rent?

www.ebay.com gives out $100 if you find an apt thru them. Check it out.