As soon as I finished tertiary at 19, and got a job my mom put all the responsibilities on to me. She lost her job, and was getting a widows fund so I didnt mind helping until she could sort herself out. Needless to say she just didnt do anything about her situation, and I ended up paying for my middle brother's transport cost, my baby brothers day care, the bond, groceries, my brothers clothes and whatever else they needed that I could afford. Last year she fell ill and my situation just worstened. She's much better now, and I've reached a point of being fed up! She makes unnecessary demands and when I cant assist cause I dont have the money, she throws a tantrum and calls me a spoilt brat, and tells me I shouldnt bother doing things for them If i'm gonna complain.
I've reached a point where I want to just pack my bags and leave because I refuse to be treated like this. She makes it out like I owe her or something. I'll be 22 on 21Oct and expecting a baby of my own. Is this fair?
2007-10-11 21:52:46 · 11 answers · asked by lala01 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree with you. No. It isn't fair. It appears your mother is in many way shurking her responsibilities...and in other ways useing and to other degrees abuseing you (by taking advantange)....This is no way for a parent to behave. Yes, by all means its good that you were helping out...but for your mom to throw a tantrum in the manner you have described is totally unreasonable. But your going to have a baby....if i were you I would concentrate on that, even if it means you move a way from home....perhaps that maybe what it will take for your mom to wisen up. You have done enough, your in your twenties...find your own life before your life catches up with you.
2007-10-11 22:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the straightforward answer is not any, you at the prompt are not. Having been a sufferer of such abuse of my personal undies it isn't a delightful component to have take position. i understand why my personal son abused my undies and it did not make why he did what he did any a lot less stressful to settle for. i could not positioned on the products that my son abused and had to interchange them. you do not say why you mistreat your mom's undies contained in the way that you do, yet i could ask you supply up and quit now even with the reason.
2016-10-09 02:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum just needs to grow up and take care of her responsibilities, she needs to get her act together and start paying for things that she should be paying for. you are having a baby of your own now and that is the only responsibility you have. leave your mom and start living your life.
2007-10-11 22:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Broken Tiger. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair for her to do this to you. Stop letting her treat you badly and then making you feel guilty for it. I would pack up and leave. You do not need this stress right now. Your stress affects your baby. Your baby also does not need to live in this environment. Congratulations and good luck.
2007-10-11 22:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is because you are allowing it.
you need to talk with your mother and tell her you can only help this far or you can't
i believe she didn't give you everything you ask for when you asked.
and you don't have to feel bad about anything it was her responsisility to take care of you since she is the one who brought you to this earth.
help her where you can and tell her to find a job you also need to star saving and preparing for the future
2007-10-11 22:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've done far more than your fair share...cut your losses and go. You will need to support yourself and your baby now and let your mom take care of herself and her responsibilites
2007-10-11 23:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your mom and family for awhile.
When she has her head back, she'll come around to you.
Take care of your baby. Don't give it unneccessary stress.
Good Luck.
2007-10-11 22:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by barney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is not. I think it is time for you to leave home, her and her problems. Good luck. The woman is unconscionable.
2007-10-11 22:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you should leave..but not so that your younger siblings are in a danger of falling into the same trap. your responsiblity now is your baby
2007-10-11 22:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watever she does she is ur mom ,after getting retired everybody gets irriated at the drop of the hat,it ur duty to adjust with her
2007-10-11 22:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by dinesh b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋