Ok so about a month ago or so the judge ordered me to give the father more custody of course he did this so his child support would go down cause he is having baby #3. (my daughter is #1) so this is after the fact. Now my thing is I have had her full custody since the age of 3. Now that he has joint the money went way down since i'm a full time student and a part time employee so they feel bad for him and made me take a even less amount because I am not a full time employee. Which is ridicuolus.
Now to my point. I need money of course for her schooling. She is in sports, music, reading books, picture day and he doesnt help with any of this. What can I do. How do I have the courts see all this. I am a hard working mother but this is how the systems screws me. PLEASE HELP! ANy advice?
2007-10-12 09:03:44 · 7 answers · asked by rainymar143 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sure he wont spend any time with her and when he doesn't take his but back to court and advise the judge that he isn't getting her for the weekend or what ever was ordered therefore he should be paying more. When the judge sees how he is doing he / she will up the child support
2007-10-12 09:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by Hayz's Peach - أماندا & حسن 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the money should be based upon how much either of you make and your expenses. You didn't say how old your daughter is but keep track of the visits to make sure that she is well taken care of there for one thing since if she is neglected there or abused in some way you can end the joint custody. Since it is joint custody, you can see an attorney perhaps and make him pay for some of the bills associated with her schooling and the like. you can go to Social Services and see what help if any they can give you as well. You may have to cut back on the schooling and work more hours but it will be worth it in the long run since you will be working in your chosen field while he will more than likely be having another baby somewhere else.
2007-10-12 16:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just do the best you can, pay for what you can, and what you cannot afford, you cannot afford. Depending upon the father, he may or may not be willing to share in the costs of those expenses you mentioned. He also may be short on extra money, and sometimes children just have to go without. And, it is not ridiculous that you would be expected to work full time to support your child, as the father works full time also. Sometimes we have to work more hours if we want more money.
2007-10-12 16:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your receipts that you pay and go to your local child support office and tell them what your want. If he is behind, demand that amount, if he needs to help with insurance you pay on your child and Dr. bills, then mention that also. He should split everything, even clothing costs, down the middle with you. Take him to court and be persistent with the child support office. Good luck to you.
2007-10-12 16:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set a budget and don't give the child unreasonable expectations. sometimes, there will be things that she cannot participate in and that's ok -happens to us adults, too. continue your education so that you will be able to fully support yourself and the children in the future.
the system didn't screw you -you made poor choice, but you have a chance to make better ones.
2007-10-12 16:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write a list of the things you have to pay for and let the courts know that he is not helpig with any of the cost.
2007-10-12 16:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you get no sympathy from me. I see nothing wrong with the mother paying for things that they put their children in. When I want to put my kids in something that is going to cost money, I don't ask my ex to help pay for it.
2007-10-12 16:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by bigdaddy_x8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋