My older sister does not seem to like me at all, and I honestly do not know why. She blames me for absolutely everything that goes wrong in her life. Whenever she and my mom get in a fight, she says its my fault. She makes fun of my weight, and tries to beat me up and intimidate me. My mom tries to help me, but that makes it worse because then my sister says that my mom loves me more. She is always calling me stupid, although i have a higher grade average than she does. When I got my first job 4 months ago, she was really mad saying that i was too young to have one (im fifteen) but i think its becasue she tried to apply there when she was my age, but didnt get hired. She critizes every little thing i do and she honestly makes my life hell. How can I get along better with her, becasue i dont think i'll be able to live her much longer if she stays like this.
2007-10-12 03:30:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im fifteen and she is seventeen. i have a younger sister that is tweleve but she's okay. thanks for the advice!
2007-10-12 04:23:23 · update #1
thanks ... ill try all of the suggestions, hopefully itll work :)
2007-10-14 12:43:31 · update #2
You cannot control other peoples behavior, just your own. You need to stop taking the blame for her behavior and simply stop fighting with her. Don't respond to her insults, but if she tries to get physical with you, demand that your mother intervene to stop her. Call the cops if you have to. She has no business trying to beat you up and there are consequences for that kind of behavior. Your sister has major personality problems, and unless she gets counseling and treatment, her life is always going to be like that. Steer clear, and keep her at a distance.
2007-10-12 03:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey I know how hard siblings can be sometimes....I'm in a family of eight! I'm kind of the middle child so I'm the older out of four other children. I never had a problem of my older siblings treating me horribly, but I do have a younger one that seems to try to bully me around. You probably aren't going to be able to change how your sister acts. She is going to critisize you no matter what. The best thing you can do is ignore her. Whenever she starts on you just say okay sis. whatever you say...that is going to get to her more than anything because you aren't playing her game. Try your best at ignoring her crummy attitudes and focusing on her more pleasant attributes. Ignoring her may help her grow up a little and then the two of you can become closer. And hey, I say things to my little sister too that I don't mean, and maybe sometimes that's what she does to you. She is just taking out her frustrations on someone she feels can take it. I hope I've helped you out a little bit. =)
2007-10-12 11:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's jealous and there's no easy cure for that. I think every sibling goes through it, but most are able to get past it. Unfortuantely, not all are so lucky. My sister and I are complete opposites and like you - I've alway had a problem with her behavior toward me.
The best advice I can give you is not to change for her. Continue working hard in school and in life. Not only willing changing probably not help, but it'll teach your sister that she has control over you.
I hope your sister's able to work past this, but please know that she might not and that's not your fault. My sister and I are both almost 30 and while we occassionally have our nice sisterly moments, were not close and I'm not sure if we ever will be. That's up to her, just like it's up to your sister. Just treat her with love and kindness. That's all you can do.
2007-10-12 11:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the only two children in the family? Are you far apart in age? It sounds to me like your sister is jelous of you in some way and the only way to make hersef feel better is to convince herself that you are inferior. I would say that you need to discover something that you have in common with her and see if you can be part of something together. Trying to talk about it isn't always the best answer. Having fun together might be the first step. Lastly, I would say kill her with kindness. It is an old saying, but I think it works. If you are over the top nice to her, I think she will eventually have a hard time being so aweful to you. She might start to see her own flaws before you have to point them out to her.
2007-10-12 10:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by Working Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's immature and very jealous. Totally ignore her. Walk away when she starts harrassing you. If she wants a change in the way the two of you get along, she has to agree to sit and talk to you about your differences, without the talk escalating to a screaming match.
2007-10-12 14:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's obviously jealous of you. Don't feed into her crap, ignore her and stay away from her. unfortunately you guys may never be close.
or everytime she says something stupid, just keep telling her she's jealous and walk away. she'll get the hint.
2007-10-12 10:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by Hopethishelps! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋