My mother keeps putting down my son, but ever so subtly.
She doesn't even know my son because the only time we ever go to visit her is on Christmas and 4th of July. Yet during these times, she treats him like a loser. She even started talking about him and then asked me if I ever saw the movie "A Brilliant Mind" suggesting that she thought he was crazy.
My son is really a great kid. He has lots of friends, has a great personality, the only problem is that he struggles with completing school assignments.
I feel that my mother is trying to turn other family members away from my son by belittling him, but without being so obviouse.
Should I keep her away from our lives? I keep trying to stick up for my son, but she just wont quit.
2007-10-11 22:11:14 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would stay away from her. You cannot get her to stop and your son does not need that. You need to protect him from her. It is hard enough in life sometimes without your own family trying to cause you pain.
2007-10-11 22:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a sad story. Maybe your mom's a bit mean to your son but this could be her way of making you put more effort in tutoring your son in his homeworks. Why not help out your son more in his schoolwork ... i'm sure in a little time there will be noticeable improvements. Tell your mom that you're really proud of your son when he has improved his grades. See how she reacts.
If she still tries to belittle him then there's a problem deeper than just the school grades I was thinking about. It may be she has a grudge with you or your hubby and she's taking it out on your son to get back at you. That's just a thought though.
If all else fails, try talking to her one on one and directly ask her what the problem is. Explain in a nice/polite manner what you feel of the situation. I hope everything works out well. (I have a son too and I know the feeling of my son being put down by another family member.)
2007-10-11 22:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first duty is toward your son.
Speak to your mother and tell her you are not prepared to put up with this shite. Make sure she understands that if she can't amend her attitude to her grandson, she will be seeing a lot less of him, and you in the future.
And be prepared to carry out this for the sake of your son. You are holding the aces here.
2007-10-11 22:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her about it b4 taking drastic action - she may be unaware shes doing it. Spell it out for her clearly what the problem is and tell her not to cross that line. If she crosses the line then do what you need to do. But at least give her the chance to fix a problem.
2007-10-11 22:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋