please help my brother?

Question

i have a younger brother in 2nd grade.he goes to catholic school and he has some "friends" that i dont really agree with.he says they are his friends but tells me and my mom stories about how they are always picking on him and stuff.

my brother is very small and skinny and kinda nerdy...but very giving and has a big heart.and he doesnt really defend himself.its not fun hearing that your little brother is getting picked on...but i dont know how to help him out.i mean...its not like i can beat up those kids...they are 8 years old...but still.

Answer 1

I would tell your mum to have a word with the teacher at school, to make them aware of the situation so that they can keep an eye open at school for anything that may arise. The other thing I would do is put him into some sort of defense class. I am sure this will change is outlook and give him the confidence to know that he can stand up for himself. I'm not saying he should karate chop everyone insight but he will stand taller and prouder which surprisingly would be enough to make them back-off. Let him know you care and that if he needs help to come to you.

Answer 2

Teach your brother how to get a little something down...
There are FRIENDS and there are ACQUAINTANCES... even within family groups.
Acquaintances only call you when they want something... bring a present to a birthday party, or come when they call. These people are "users" at best. They typically don't care about you or anything going on in your life. You always wonder where you stand with these people until you put 2 + 2 together.
Friends are different. They are there for you, usually share common interests, offer a shoulder to cry on, cheer you on, and want the best for you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with. That alone will make your life better.
Better to have fewer friends to hang out with than a load of abusive boars.

Answer 3

May be you want to show him some example.. like a movie where picking on people hurts the feelings individuals and how to avoid that...you try to pick on him and show him some demonstration so that he can realize what kind of mistakes he is doing by assuming they are his good friends .. but do not let the hatred create in him.. give him a logical reasoning for each and every corner of the situation and ask him the questions how to respond and if he doesn't what will be the consequences... just ask him to defend himself and show examples otherwise how the people take advantage of their weakness.. and innocence.. examples, demonstrations and real time feeling experiences are the only ways to make him learn.. good luck.. poor guy..

Answer 4

Okay sweetie, talk to your brother. Don't come out and tell him that they're not his friends, maybe tell him a story and give him an example. If he doesn't listen to that, then he'll have to learn on his own. When someone's backed into a corner they do surprising things, sooner or later he'll realize what true friends are. Let him know that being by himself isn't neccessarily a bad thing at all. He definitely needs to stop hanging out with those boys. The faster the better. Just talk to him one on one about it, and make sure that you're not only his sister but a friend, so he'll know what a true one is. Hang out with him, talk to him like a person and not like a little brother. Do things that he likes to do and turn him on to some stuff that you like to do. Good luck sweetie!

Answer 5

Maybe you'll have to explain to him using child friendly examples, like the ones from stories. Tell him that there's good and bad people, and that he is a good kid, but not everyone around him is. Tell him that picking on people is wrong, and not friendly or funny. Maybe he doesn't really have to defend himself if he's shy, but to ignore them.

I would also try talking to his head teacher. Kids that age tend to "idolize" their teachers, so maybe the teacher can also help him understand why your brother's classmate's behavior is wrong and he should hang out with nicer kids.

Answer 6

Your little brother is being bullied, which in many schools now is basically outlawed. Many schools, at least in Canada, have rules against bullying in any form. I would say your mother should contact the school principal without hesitation. Bullying does not stop by itself and it will hurt his feelings and self-esteem if it continues. Friends don't bully or pick on their friends. If he grows up thinking they do, he is in for a sad life of being taken advantage of and of having low self-esteem.

Answer 7

I know what you're going through my brother has this friend, but he is such a bad kid, he is only 8 and he uses laugauge that i don't even use, (cursing) anyway, i finally sat my brother down and told him that he will brobably go through this more than once, but if they were really his friends than they would be more friends than bullies, if they are pushing you around and stuff, tell them to stop, if they don't than walk away, find some new friends, that really act like your friends.

Answer 8

just let him know what you think about his friends!! Other than that sometimes you have to let them live their life and learn from mistakes!! Sooner or later he will realize that they aren't true friends.

Answer 9

have your mom talk to the "head master" without brother knowing about it. see what happens from there.